Teuto Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 My ex gf is having trouble letting go. Boy is she bad news. She even told me last week (I broke up with her months ago and I think her ego could not handle it although I tried to handle it sensitively) that she didn't want to see me again and sent me some really hurtful text messages - pure character assassination and abusively rubbishing me, basically. I did not respond in kind. Actually, I have spent months trying to do NC and with her constantly breaking agreements not to contact me. Then on Friday, she drunkenly texted me inplying she was at a party and hoping to have sex with someone there. Very hurtful and uncalled for. Now today I get a text asking "what do I have to do to forget about you" and claiming I am stopping her getting on with her life!! I guess she must have failed in her mission as she sounded frustrated. Pardon?!! She has stopped us both moving on, constantly pressing to be "friends" or "XXXXbuddies" or both. Talk about avoiding responsibility and co-dependency. Xmas will be another test. Even if she agrees to do NC I know she will probably send a gift to test my reaction. I do not want her screwing up my celebrations. She has caused enough damage as it is but I don't want to hurt her any more than I have to. I truly cannot win with this person. How the hell can I stop feeling guilty about saying no, no, no to her? I just want to move on to but she is confused, and confusing.
CaliGuy Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 NC means you ignore her. If you answer her, you're opening the door to more contact. The only way she'll get the message is if you completely INGORE her.
lilbelle Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 block her... you must do this, it's a clear indication you do not want to speak. I block and forward the block confirmation to them. Quit beating yourself up. do it and be done.
Ronni_W Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 I know she will probably send a gift to test my reaction. I do not want her screwing up my celebrations Then start planning what you will do with any gift that she may send. For example, you could plan to donate it to a charity of your choice. If you have her mailing address, make sure to give that to the charity so that they can send her a pretty 'thank you' card . Or see if they'll do it to her email, if you don't have the snail mail info. And, of course, block and delete as necessary. YOU have the power to make your holiday celebrations relaxed and enjoyable. Do NOT give her the power to screw it up.
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