dudet Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 how much does it bother you if a guy doesn't know how to cook or doesn't? is it that big of a deal to you? does it turn you off. just curious, because women ive dated seem to like men better who can cook or at least want to
V.Vixen Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 It's not a dealbreaker, but I guy who CAN cook is to me. To me, it's a very nice perk.
Angel1111 Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 It was never actually a conscious choice on my part but I've learned over time that I prefer guys who cook to those who don't. The reason is that they're usually more down-to-earth, and it gives them that 'domestic' thing that's so charming. Plus, it's really fun to cook together in the kichen.
New Again Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 women ive dated seem to like men better who can cook or at least want to Duh. Let's say you're at the dealership looking at cars. You've spent months looking for the perfect car for you. Finally, you find it. It's your dream car, everything about it is great, it's in your price range, everything looks good. You're pretty happy, right? But then let's say the salesman offers you an upgrade. He's going to give you your dream car, fully loaded, with whatever other great features cars come with, for the exact same price as the base model you had picked out. Which one would you choose? It's the same thing with guys who can cook. He's just like everyone else, but with an extra (useful) feature for the same price as the other models.
boogieboy Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 I know for sure that women love a guy who can cook well. Ive been debating for months on whether or not I should learn how to cook, but I cant when Im not learning to do it for myself. Learning to cook just to give women an extra reason to like me wouldnt be true to myself. I dont think I'd enjoy it, but really I should try it out.
New Again Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 Oh, and also. Another reason women like guys who can cook? Know how you guys are always bitching about how women are only interested in you for your money and therefore women who have good jobs &etc. are more desirable to you? Ditto for women. When we see men who don't know how to cook, we see little boys who expect to be taken care of domestically. So, when we already have a full time job, we would much rather have a man who can split the domestic things with us, just like we split the bills with you.
Author dudet Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 Oh, and also. Another reason women like guys who can cook? Know how you guys are always bitching about how women are only interested in you for your money and therefore women who have good jobs &etc. are more desirable to you? Ditto for women. When we see men who don't know how to cook, we see little boys who expect to be taken care of domestically. i would assume it makes a guy look like a baby who can't tend to himself. i can cook luckily and dont mind. what about if a guy cooks all the time. now i bet some girls would think that is too feminine and question that lol
You'reasian Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 i would assume it makes a guy look like a baby who can't tend to himself. i can cook luckily and dont mind. what about if a guy cooks all the time. now i bet some girls would think that is too feminine and question that lol Maybe. If I want to eat things that I like, stay within a budget and stay healthy - cooking is the best option. I don't have someone to cook for me either.
New Again Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 i would assume it makes a guy look like a baby who can't tend to himself. i can cook luckily and dont mind. what about if a guy cooks all the time. now i bet some girls would think that is too feminine and question that lol Hm, na, I would think things like: he must have enough time to cook, he wants to eat healthy/well, he's not lazy.
alphamale Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 making a woman a good meal has gotten me laid quite a few times
You'reasian Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 making a woman a good meal has gotten me laid quite a few times It certainly helps. If I want to eat, I have to prepare it.
Author dudet Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 an old friend of mine is like 36 years old and he can't cook anything but microwave dinners from what i know. lol... can't tell me that isn't a turn off to a lot of women
Author dudet Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 making a woman a good meal has gotten me laid quite a few times funny. i'm sure there are some men who cook only for getting laid.
alphamale Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 funny. i'm sure there are some men who cook only for getting laid. ahh but the key is the dude must cook in the kitchen AND be able to cook in the sack
melodymatters Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 I could care less ! I LOVE to cook, and honestly, I have had to shut my mouth and be polite most of the times guys have "cooked" for me. So, if you suck, and don't like it, fine, you can mop the floors, I am a terrible mopper ! If you are really good, that would be another thing we could enjoy doing together, but really, standing next to me having a glass of wine, and prepping for me, is just as much fun ! I don't usually evaluate compatibility based on hobbies. ( cooking well, is a hobby, unless you are a chef. Obviously if you are too retarded to make yourself a microwave dinner, or grill a hamburger, thats a whole 'nother story)
You'reasian Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 an old friend of mine is like 36 years old and he can't cook anything but microwave dinners from what i know. lol... can't tell me that isn't a turn off to a lot of women Pasta and rice are easy enough. Sanwhiches are basic as well. Barbecue isn't hard to do, but is hard to do well.
carhill Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 making a woman a good meal has gotten me laid quite a few times Perhaps interested readers should peruse the dinner thread to ascertain exactly how often that is.... cooking, I mean Topically, I like it when a woman can cook. I get tired of doing it all the time
InThis305 Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 I think that women really want guys who are good at everything and can handle every situation successfully and confidently, whether its changing a tire, fixing something in the house, or cooking for them.... just my 2 cent. I dont think its a huge deal but it probably helps
Boundary Problem Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 He has to be able to put a meal together. Whether it is grilled cheese sandwiches or something basic that is fine. But he has to be able to feed himself and the kids from time to time. Besides cooking can become a lifestyle and chances are the meals at home far exceed anything you can get in a restaurant - even the good ones which are often very rich (high calorie).
D-Lish Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 I don't care if a guy can cook or not. It's nice if he is at least interested in learning.
sedgwick Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Completely and totally irrelevant! Don't care one bit.
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 It's not a turn-off if he can't. My xbf could barely cook himself anything (he was a TV dinner expert...oh, and rice). I actually kind of liked it because it made me want to cook him stuff. That was fun. HOWEVER...a guy that does know how to cook is DEFINITELY a turn-on. The most recent guy I dated cooks for his kids and every time he told me about it, it made me . So freaking cute. LOL
InspiredbyYou Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 It's not a deal breaker. But for men in the 30's age group and up, if he does not know how to cook it makes me wonder what he did for all those years since he left university. Has he been getting take-out every night? Calling his mom for food? Relying on women for home cooked meals? It sort sends the message to me he is not very health conscious. Then again I am happy to be the one to cook in the relationship. Been lucky all my boyfriends have cooked and rather well, but my current boyfriend blew me away he made the most amazing lobster and steak dinner for me I have ever had. It was to die for! I must admit it is nice for a change. But I love cooking for him since he gets so much enjoyment out of it!
sonicranger Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Well, for me it doesn't really matter because in my 29 years I can handle plain and dreary food or $100 steak dinners. So I guess I'm pretty easy in that regard. Now, I like to diddle a little in the kitchen, I have no intentions of ever making much from scratch, maybe Chicken Parmigian or the like but nothing too intense. I would however like to take cooking classes with my woman. She is much more tepid in the kitchen, mostly because of her inexperience but also because she is pretty simple as well, $100 steak dinners don't impress her. For me though, if she refused to do anything, or pretended to be completely useless, I would have to object. It's the whole "give it your best shot" thing. I can live with her heating up Bertolli or making Spaghetti two times a week.
IDGH. Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 i'm sorry, but is this a serious question? we do not care if a guy can cook or not, i mean it's an added bonus .. but whether a guy can cook or not does not enhance or hinder my feelings for him. if he can cook, it's just like ordering a 5 piece chicken nugget and they give you six by accident. it's just a bonus... not like the icing on the cake .. or the cherry on top. i find it odd that you asked this question. and i'm curious as to why you brought it up ? i could see maybe from a girls perspective, because guys feel that us girls should be the ones in the kitchen, making dinner everynight. the guy i'm currently with actually flat out, randomly asked me "can you cook?" and i said "yeah, why?" and he said "good. just wondering." odd. but don't stress this minor ability, you don't need to be Emeril to win a girls heart.
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