cartierbenjamin Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 Wassuup how are yall doing? I have a little situation that has been messing with me lately. I have this friend who we been chilling heavy for almost a year. She wanted a relationship at first, but I didn;t. But I always played the role of a boyfriend, basically doing boyfriend duties. Stuff like sending encouraging emails, sliping notes under dorrs, sending flowers, buying gifts, spending quality time with no sex involved, etc. The reason why I didn't want one was cause I didnn't want to be hurt again. She said she isn't like the other girl and wont do that. She would sometimes trip cause I wasn't her man, but I told her be patient. She would pray that she wasn;t waisting her time with me and I repeatedly told her she is not..I'm reallly trying to change my way of thinking. and I really have she is the only girl I'm dealing with and I really like her. So I told her how I felt about her....and her answer was she doesn't think she can cater to me the way she wants. and that with her exes she always had arguments and problems, but with me everything has always been fine and I make her happy and I'm almost perfect. Then she said you know how us girls are. I ask her am I the only one that you talk to and her reply was "yes". She said there some trying but Im the only one. She has a twitter page, but doesnt know that I know what she writes. Sometimes theres stuff about me of how she is happy. But then I seen stuff that seems like she is meeting other people. I don't know what I should do? Confront her about the **** she writing, or just kind of disappear. Throught my years on this I've learned sometimes you have to be absent so on know how much of an impact you have had on their life cause if you are always there they will take you for granted. I don't know?
Author cartierbenjamin Posted December 7, 2009 Author Posted December 7, 2009 is there any suggestions on how to go about this?
Yukikazi Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 I'm failing to see the issue here.. She wanted a relationship before.. you didn't You acted like the BF anyways. So now?? whats the problem?
Author cartierbenjamin Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 I've spent a lot of time I was acting the role of the boyfriend when I wasn't and she was okay with she wanted me around in her life....But know it seems like she is talking to others?
CLC2008 Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 I'm failing to see the issue here.. She wanted a relationship before.. you didn't You acted like the BF anyways. So now?? whats the problem? Co-sign. The timing for you two was off, it sucks, but it happens.
Yukikazi Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 I've spent a lot of time I was acting the role of the boyfriend when I wasn't and she was okay with she wanted me around in her life....But know it seems like she is talking to others? Welcome to the friendzone... By "paying" like a BF but not "playing" like a BF.. she now has no reason to date you. Why should she? you dot on her hand and foot.. do whatever she wants.. But she dosen't want that in a BF. She wants someone who dosen't dress like a doormat 365 days a year. She wants someone who will take charge and be more dominant.. not submissivly waddling along behind her. 1 question.. have you carried her purse?
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