Am I too late to get my ex-boyfriend back? Approx. 4 months since I broke up with him

[IWantToFixIt]

My ex and I broke up a year ago (after a year together) for about 4 months, and he asked me back constantly during that time.

 

I gave it another go with him and 2 and a half months later I broke up with him as I thought it wasn't working. He asked me was I sure and I said yes.

 

Its now been about 4 months and I want to give our relationship another try.

 

We have beem in contact alot during the past few months.

Neither of us have met a new partner. Speaking for myself, I have not been interested in finding someone new.

 

He said that he still loves me, but in a different way that he used to, more like a friend now, that he really cares about me, and that he misses me sometimes but hates the thought of fighting and us going back into our old patterns.

 

He said Im the best friend he has ever had.

 

I said we can start with a clean slate and each forgive the other for our mistakes.

 

Am I too late? Is there still a chance?

 

I have asked him, well begged him not to give up on me and to give me another chance.

 

Im worried that I have made too many mistakes (ie begging and crying) and that I'm to late for another chance.

 

 

 

Has anyone any advise on how to proceed? Has anyone been successful in a situation like this?

Edited December 6, 2009 by IWantToFixIt

[Kantor]

What were the problems in you're relationship?

 

Why did you break up?

 

Why did you break up again?

 

What has changed so that wont happen again?

[TaraMaiden]

My ex and I broke up a year ago (after a year together) for about 4 months, and he asked me back constantly during that time.

 

I gave it another go with him and 2 and a half months later I broke up with him as I thought it wasn't working. He asked me was I sure and I said yes.

 

(. . .)

 

He said that he still loves me, but in a different way that he used to, more like a friend now, that he really cares about me, and that he misses me sometimes but hates the thought of fighting and us going back into our old patterns.

 

He said Im the best friend he has ever had.

 

I said we can start with a clean slate and each forgive the other for our mistakes.

?

 

The bold bit clearly indicates that you two are just not on the same page.

(The last poster is just an advertising troll, and wants to promote her website which is against forum rules, so ignore her....)

 

He doesn't want a romantic physical relationship with you.

#He's past that, and he's openly stated so.

He loves you more like a friend now, and in a different way to the way he used to.

There is every chance you could forge a good friendship and become best mates (which will radically change the moment either of you meet someone else) but as for a romantic relationship?

No.

he doesn't want that, you do.

So when two people want different things, guess what?

Yup.

That's right.

 

No dice.