condogal Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 Is there any love left after a restraining order?...i feel sick!...why am i thinking of him, but i'm so angry, he hurt me so much...6 years of his on and off with me the moving in and out of his place 3 times, only for him to have always came back to me...I don't get it but now my condo got renovated..(by him) he did everything in here, beautiful job, but it's so over we need a new word for over...but i'm so sad...3 weeks ago we were so in love and now he hates me because of this last explosive fight which he says he's embaressed, as am i...but i suppose there has been drama scenes which i've made...but why couldn't i help it??...i swear the only thing i can say is he drove me that way...my past before him was never like this...!!...he has a restraining order on me...wtf???..the same woman who cooked him from scratch meals, who did his laundry and made the house so wonderful...this is my payback??...i'm angry and i wanna cry all the time!...does he have a soul????!, i swear he wanted me forever, children the works, used to say like i'm a drug to him....now i have NC with him cuz of him ??!!...you think he thinks of me and our loss and is sad of his actions??...hated my drama i get it but you don't know him, he could've been a real piece of **** to me sometimes...anyhow i thought i was strong today but i'm not, please help...;(
Brightmoon Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 ((((((((((hug))))))))))) There, there. I understand your anger and frustration Condogirl. You are right in that you deserved better after all you did. He seems to be a control freak, and you can't win with him. I am sorry that today is a bad day. It goes like that. And there will be more to come as you try to make sense of all this. I am not good at giving advice, but there are some fantastic people on here who will know exactly what to say and rally you. So you won't be alone.
DenverBachelor Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 Is there any love left after a restraining order? Take a deep breath and calm down. Just calm down. First of all, who got a restraining order on who?
Author condogal Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 Thanks Brightmoon...i'll be waiting desperetely...;(
Author condogal Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 Denver he did it on me...it's just so unbelievable to me...he was so in love with me 3 weeks ago and planning our forever...he's messed i swear, i know i'm having to stay away now but believe me you, i want to.!..i just want to know where the heck his soul is or like i said...maybe he just never had one!
DenverBachelor Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 Denver he did it on me...it's just so unbelievable to me...he was so in love with me 3 weeks ago and planning our forever...he's messed i swear, i know i'm having to stay away now but believe me you, i want to.!..i just want to know where the heck his soul is or like i said...maybe he just never had one! What were the reasons listed on the restraining order. I know it is very easy to get one (temp restraining order, anyway), but I've never heard of a guy getting one before. Unless he just got out of a relationship with a bunny boiler. If you're not a bunny boiler, then it sounds like he has issues. What kind of a man goes and gets a needless restraining order on a woman unless he's ****ed in the head in some major way. There has to be more to this story.
Author condogal Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 Hi Denver, well i showed up at his work as i work there too,but i wasn't working that evening... but he is in a completely different area than me...his area is quiet and he has a few workers with him who i know and who like me as a person...well i ended up there cuz i couldn't take him hiding behind the phone instead of talking to me in my face, he was calling me things and i had some wine in me...i was not well due to having to move the 3rd time, i was alone...shaken and depressed due to this last break up with me...i couldn't handle it. You have to understand something Denver...i've been manipulated by this guy for 6 years...he has a pull on me i don't get it...he always came begging me back, it's the strangest thing...anyhow we both work for the same hospital...and that's it...i went in there and he called the cops...i started being bitchy with the cops now because they were attacking me and taking his side anyhow i went to jail for the night...i'm so mad i can't tell you...anyhow now a restarining order went with that bust...it's says a few things like stay away 100 m and stuff which i will totally comply with but it's too much for me to know that he did this...can he love me but do this?
Author condogal Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 Help any one person on my topic so i can go sleep now in peace somehow...much appreciated....xo
Brightmoon Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 Hello Condogirl. My heart goes out to you. What is it you want help with? I can imagine you are in great pain after the break up and how it happened. You will get through it... If you want to talk about it I am here. You can let it all out.
CLC2008 Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 Is there any love left after a restraining order?...i feel sick!...why am i thinking of him, but i'm so angry, he hurt me so much...6 years of his on and off with me the moving in and out of his place 3 times, only for him to have always came back to me...I don't get it but now my condo got renovated..(by him) he did everything in here, beautiful job, but it's so over we need a new word for over...but i'm so sad...3 weeks ago we were so in love and now he hates me because of this last explosive fight which he says he's embaressed, as am i...but i suppose there has been drama scenes which i've made...but why couldn't i help it??...i swear the only thing i can say is he drove me that way...my past before him was never like this...!!...he has a restraining order on me...wtf???..the same woman who cooked him from scratch meals, who did his laundry and made the house so wonderful...this is my payback??...i'm angry and i wanna cry all the time!...does he have a soul????!, i swear he wanted me forever, children the works, used to say like i'm a drug to him....now i have NC with him cuz of him ??!!...you think he thinks of me and our loss and is sad of his actions??...hated my drama i get it but you don't know him, he could've been a real piece of **** to me sometimes...anyhow i thought i was strong today but i'm not, please help...;( Six years or not, why on earth would you want to put yourself back in this type of situation? A restraining order? C'mon... Get yourself as far away as possible, move in with friends, get your own place, this is not the type of life you should want for yourself.
Author condogal Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 Hi, CLC...um, you didn't help much but i understand what your saying, i am moved out since 3 weeks now in my condo that i own because i was smart not to sell it or rent it in the last 5 months...i've had time to think and i need to walk forward from this and stop questioning how could he have been such a prick...it's just cuz he is and that's it. And that that is not someone i should continue to love as he is a toxic type for me. I will continue to always say...i'm smarter to walk and raise my head high and be glad i still was able to salvage my health as he did me good to leave me.
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