2sure Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Several of my long term exes (who I was either married to or otherwise committed) moved out of the country immediately after we broke up. Various reasons of course, but still...a trend I noted.
CaliGuy Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Most likely the people answering with the creative remarks like "I don't care" or "there in the past" are surely not over a certain ex that's in there past, clearly masking some sort of pain. That's a rather ignorant assumption on your part because... The question wasn't "Do you care?" it was where are they. ...to know where are they, you must care enough to find out.... I actually explained my response, but as far as my ex's go the easiest way to say is that I don't attempt to keep contact with them, so therefore the only way I know how there doing is if they contact me. Obviously you don't care about your exes either or you'd make some attempt to keep up with their life. The statement "I don't care" means that that person is out of your life and you care not enough to keep track of their life. My exes DO attempt to dig into my life and it bugs me because my life is none of their business and their life is none of my business. It's got nothing to do with masking pain and EVERYTHING to do with "moving on"...
TheLoneSock Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Most likely the people answering with the creative remarks like "I don't care" or "there in the past" are surely not over a certain ex that's in there past, clearly masking some sort of pain. Lol thanks for the brilliant psychoanalysis. You really are a WiseOne. The question wasn't "Do you care?" it was where are they. Exactly. And how are we supposed to know where they are? We don't, so we say we don't. I actually explained my response, but as far as my ex's go the easiest way to say is that I don't attempt to keep contact with them, so therefore the only way I know how there doing is if they contact me. Which is exactly the same case for a lot of us. So what's with the over-analysing?
WiseOne1 Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 (edited) That's a rather ignorant assumption on your part because... ...to know where are they, you must care enough to find out.... Obviously you don't care about your exes either or you'd make some attempt to keep up with their life. The statement "I don't care" means that that person is out of your life and you care not enough to keep track of their life. My exes DO attempt to dig into my life and it bugs me because my life is none of their business and their life is none of my business. It's got nothing to do with masking pain and EVERYTHING to do with "moving on"... Awww poor caliguy, the legend of loveshack himself. Dude don't take it so personal and don't cry about it, you should go read "No More Mr.NiceGuy" because you certainly started acting a little too sensitive about someone else's opinion. Just kidding around man. But what caught my attention is when you said that your ex's "DO" try to contact you still. Do you mean that the ex from years ago, the one that brough you too loveshack still trys to contact you?? Because if so thats WOW, because it's been years Edited December 8, 2009 by WiseOne1
Jaspe_Loco Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 The ones that stick out are as follows: K. First real semi serous relationship. We were on and off from age 14 until 20, when she FINALLY gave it up. She went on to be a model and dated a late 80s, early 90s hair band drummer. Married another band guy and got divorced, married another band guy. W and I met them a few months ago.. first time I've seen her in 17 years. Even my W thought she was hot. She hasn't aged a bit. Unfortunately, she spent a fair amount of time hitting lines in the bathroom. L. First BJ at age 14. I cheated on her repeatedly so she finally dumped me. She went to sleep with older men for gifts, etc. Now a washed up whore. CB: Wasn't my most attractive GF, but by far the most fun aside from my current one. Unfortunately, I was too stupid to understand the value of friendship in a relationship and I let her get away. After 18 years, we're still great friends. L2. I was completely PW'd. I was used and abused, but the sex was worth it... especially on marathon Sundays. She's a fat redneck now. There's a couple of dozen other ex's that I didn't keep up with.
CaliGuy Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Awww poor caliguy, the legend of loveshack himself. Dude don't take it so personal and don't cry about it, you should go read "No More Mr.NiceGuy" because you certainly started acting a little too sensitive about someone else's opinion. Just kidding around man. But what caught my attention is when you said that your ex's "DO" try to contact you still. Do you mean that the ex from years ago, the one that brough you too loveshack still trys to contact you?? Because if so thats WOW, because it's been years My last serious exes still "cyber" stalk to a degree. The one at work has started making the occasional drive-by again. The one that brought me here, she still pokes around. I block enough information that neither of them can find out much. I take it as a compliment that they're still interested in my life. I haven't bothered to find out what they are up to. Not because I am heartless, but simply because that part of my life is done and over with. There are bigger/better things ahead. Like snow. Lots of snow. In two weeks. And I'm stoked
Oxo Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Hmm...old exes. The one from 4 years ago is married with 2 kids now, and the one from 8 years ago is engaged with a kid.... Thank you mutual friends lol
WiseOne1 Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 My last serious exes still "cyber" stalk to a degree. The one at work has started making the occasional drive-by again. The one that brought me here, she still pokes around. I block enough information that neither of them can find out much. I take it as a compliment that they're still interested in my life. I haven't bothered to find out what they are up to. Not because I am heartless, but simply because that part of my life is done and over with. There are bigger/better things ahead. Like snow. Lots of snow. In two weeks. And I'm stoked Lol I would also take it as a compliment if there still interested in me. So even though the ex that brought you here is married, she still pokes around?
HokeyPokey Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 I don't know where most of them are, except I assume they all got fat (It's immature, but makes me happy:)).
2.50 a gallon Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 First girl I kissed, 6th grade, went on to be campus queen, Miss county, married a construction worker, he started his own const. company, was killed in car accident, kids pre-teen, she took over the reins, 30 years ago, never remarried. First BJ: Went on to an all girl rock band, Vegas, was on the verge of making it big, went nuts with drugs, last I heard she was arrested while chasing her kid with a butcher knife in mall GF before ex Fiance, wanted to get married after 3 months, eventually married, got involved with 3-some with married neighbor, talked H and neighbor into killing his wife, her idea, got caught, turned states evidence, she walked they went to the pen for life Ex fiance, she dumped me after I sat on the fence for 2 years, took our ideas on buying foreclosed properties, with new BF, now divorced, but very rich, shops Rodeo drive, Paris, etc. Ex wife, kicked her out when caught her with OM, she spent the next 3 - 4 years trying to reconcile. After that don't know, don't care
CaliGuy Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Lol I would also take it as a compliment if there still interested in me. So even though the ex that brought you here is married, she still pokes around? I don't know if she ever got married or not. Her mom still emails me occasionally though I think we've talked twice (email only) in the past year or so. I don't initiate emails with her family members and her mom is sort of taking it personal that I have distanced myself from her. Her mom usually just emails me when something negative has happened to their family. She purposes leaves any info about the ex out (at my request for her to not do it) and so far, she's held her end of the bargain. I'm sure the ex is still poking around my personal web site but haven't looked lately.
kimmi Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 First ex - at home with his wife and little baby girl as well is awaiting trail for assult on our child Second ex- iving at his parents at the age of 47- unemployed - single and does everything possible to avoid his special needs daughter Third ex- He's at work- not caring about anything
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