DenverBachelor Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 Anyone ever wonder just what the hell happened to their old old ex's? My first true love (1992) seems to have dropped off the face of the Earth after getting into a marriage with the guy she left me for and the last I knew, she was on four different drugs and absolutely miserable. I tried to reach out to her but I doubt she will ever talk to me again since two years ago, we went out for drinks and "fooled around" back at her place. I guess I didn't really consider it cheating since he (her husband) broke us up. There was a girl from London, but she was just a fling at the time. Talk about long-distance. We did manage to fly back and forth to see one another. As far as I know, she now lives in Manhattan. Then there was Sara -- the girl who wrote me write after my most recent breakup. I wrote her on myspace to e-mail me but haven't heard anything. I don't even think she logs on that much. She's dating some senior designer and also lives in New York. Another girl, Leigh -- we dated for a few months. She moved to Chicago. Then she moved back to Baltimore. I sent an e-mail yesterday just for ****s and giggles and she wrote back. We exchanged about 4-5 three sentences e-mails until I realized this was just stupid. My brain is drawing a huge blank right now and I can't remember any other long-term ex's at the moment. There was a girl in Connecticut named Alison but she was a fling. We had sex and then afterwards I was like, "call me, ok?" and she was like, "sure." End of that. hahaha ... Remember, if you can't laugh at yourself, other people will be more than happy to do it for you.
McGrupp Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 man ive really only had this girl. my ex from HS i talked to like 2 summers ago but she was kinda ugly so i didnt care to meet up. besides that...well i think i gotta go out and experience some other women
Woggle Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 Probably in a room shooting heroin with track marks all over her arm.
Author DenverBachelor Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 Probably in a room shooting heroin with track marks all over her arm. "Requiem for a Dream" style?
Woggle Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 "Requiem for a Dream" style? Probably. I haven't seem her since 2006 but from what I hear she is a hardcore junkie right now.
Beeotch Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 (edited) Ahhhh can't say I worry about that too much. I don't really think about them except in passing. I don't know what most of them are doing and I'm not close friends with any of them. There are like 2 that I speak to every once in a blue moon...but it's not much different from old acquaintances that I catch up with every now and again and my mind runs on in passing. My most recent ex before this one...wow...I never imagined that his existence would mean not very much to me. I mean I think part of me will always care about him, like if I found out he died I would be verrrrry sad...but in the past year and a half, I got over him COMPLETELY! Meeting my current ex helped with that. He resurfaced after having not spoken to each other in a year, the same week my current ex and I broke up, and it was funny how I didn't give a shyt and was more concerned with fixing my current break up, because before I met my current ex I would have given anything for an explanation and to hear from him. He explained his disappearance and true feelings, I already had closure but got more closure. Thought we would re-establish a friendship, we emailed for a little, he called once, ....but the last I heard from his was in May...and I can't say I am bothered by it at alll. Edited December 6, 2009 by Beeotch
Toki Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 Amy - Probably with the same dude she's been with since it was official we were no good for each other. Most likely slowly leaching off his enthusiasm until the day he wakes up and realizes that life has no meaning, and he's going to jump off a bridge. Brandy - Who Cares? And even if she still has bad things to say about me, she's probably turned into a chalky skin burlap sack that even her step dad wouldn't want, and his banging some drifter for tricks.
WiseOne1 Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 My ex Gf from 4 years ago - is still trying to add me as friends on myspace, facebook, and still attempts to contact me in any form she can find. She broke up with me and treated me like trash, and at one time her EGO was sooo big she turned her back on all her older friends and stopped talking to them, and got a bunch of new friends. So shes made over 10 attempts since 2006 and I haven't responded back to not 1. My ex Gf from 2 years ago - I never heard from her again, its like she disappeared from earth. My last ex gf of 1 year and 2 months - I been ignoring her for the last 2 months str8, shes called or texted everynow and then.
TheLoneSock Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 I have no idea where any of my exes are or what they're doing. Why is that? Because I'm busy finishing my education, furthering my personal goals, and enjoying all the amazing fruits of being surrounded by hot, single, educated girls in my college age group. Move on fellas, you've no idea what is waiting for you once you do.
LexiB Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 My first ever BF, I couldnt care less about. The one before my current ex, is actually one of my best friends now because we ended on such great terms - only broke up because he moved and we couldn't bear long distance. He also *fought* for us to stay friends b/c he knew it's not something I normally do. My current ex...<<sigh>>
rickigal Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 I couldn't care less. Probably trying to get back with his ex-wife.
GrayClouds Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 Your Past Ex's -- Where are they now? And the correct answer... In the past!
curiousnycgirl Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 I'm only going to cover the signifiant ones My very first puppy love got married very young and I believe is happy to this day. The lid to my pot - my "one" passed away during our engagement My first sexual partner left me to marry a masseusse and later died of an overdose Then there was the one who married a celebrity and died in a helicopter crash a few years ago The last significant one before my recent couldn't make a committment to me, but married the next woman who came along (who he kept telling me wasn't as wonderful as I was - news flash, you didn't want me!) They all seem to get married after me. I guess I can take solace in the fact that the recent ex will probalby never get married. OY.
Citizen Erased Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 My first ex I don't really know what is going on, apart from he has a lovely girlfriend. My most recent ex, well I'm doing the whole NC thing so I don't really know. If I wanted to know what was going on in their lives I'd still be in it.
almostpassedit Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 first ex has a kid and a master degree, we ended on mutual terms. we are really not in each other live's but she always seem to be there when i need here. haven't seen her in a while but i know how to contact her second ex, we rarely talk, she seems to pick up when i call but i rarely contact her third ex, disappeared, haven't heard or attempt to contact her in 2 years. fourth ex is still around but haven't had contact in 6 months mostly all ended on good terms, i don't think about any of them except in passing as the other poster said except #3 who left me.
Maggotface Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 My first real thing (wont call it love) is in college somewhere i believe Jason is working and going to school most of the time I am actually talking to an ex right now on msn, Chris is really the only one I've stayed friends with And the last, is at our old house with his new girlfriend.. trying to get our divorce settled :[
lilbelle Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 I talk to all of my ex's except one and that's cause I have no respect for him at all. I am lucky that all of my break ups have been mutual and with dignity on both sides. Sometimes people are better friends than lovers. My first love is still single and probably always will be, very successful, lives 300 miles from me but always calls me monthly to say hello. He is a really great guy, but it was not meant to be. Some people are only around for a season in your life. I do have some exs that I really actually cannot stand. They were mind trips, and they haven't learned, but if I see them out we are cordial and most then want to hook back up, like I really care at all about them. If I care about you I will call you, if I haven't called it's a sure bet you no longer enter my mind at all. On the other spectrum I have exs that I split with and sometimes not in the nicest way, but they respected my decision and 1 of them is actually a really good friend now even though I broke his heart, stomped it and spit on him on the way out.
CaliGuy Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 a. No I don't wonder. b. No, I don't care. c. I don't wish anything bad on them, they are just not a part of my life (and I prefer it stay that way). I spend my time focused on the present and future. The past is done, it can not be changed and wasting time on our past merely wastes our future. Got me?! Don't mean to sound harsh but focusing on the past is what kept me from healing sooner. Cheers, mate.
FeelingLonely98 Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 How and Why would you even know? Once it is over - shouldn't it ALWAYS be over. Once my STBXW are finished for good I will not be tracking her progress, asking about her, ... ETC.
nopainnogain Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Your Past Ex's -- Where are they now? . This feels good to say....But Who cares? lol It does nt matter, I hope they are doing well,if not -nothing i can do anyway.What matters is what i am doing right now:)
WiseOne1 Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Most likely the people answering with the creative remarks like "I don't care" or "there in the past" are surely not over a certain ex that's in there past, clearly masking some sort of pain. The question wasn't "Do you care?" it was where are they. I actually explained my response, but as far as my ex's go the easiest way to say is that I don't attempt to keep contact with them, so therefore the only way I know how there doing is if they contact me.
Ilovecake Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 One of my exes is homeless, living under a bridge. I see him panhandling on the highway exit ramp once in a while. One is married to a great girl. The last one I'm not talking to but run into once in a while and mutual friends seem to think they should update me on his miserable life. The other 90% of my exes seem to all be on facebook sending me messages saying how much they screwed up. The power of NC brings them all back sooner or later. Unfortunately they’re all a few years late and a few dollars short.
nopainnogain Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 One of my exes is homeless, living under a bridge. I see him panhandling on the highway exit ramp once in a while. The last one I'm not talking to but run into once in a while and mutual friends seem to think they should update me on his miserable life. The other 90% of my exes seem to all be on facebook sending me messages saying how much they screwed up. The power of NC brings them all back sooner or later. Unfortunately they’re all a few years late and a few dollars short. What if they won the lottery? Does it boost your ego when you hear about there misrable life?
Template Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Hmm... let's see. M - First true love, engaged for a bit. From what I know then, she get impregnated with some rebounds child immediately after we broke up. She has since had a total of 4 children I believe. That was over 10 years ago. Hopefully they moved out of his parents house, and living a successful life. Either way, none of my business, and I don't care. (My downward spiral after this relationship made me want to go back to school and get a degree.) L - She dumped me after some dude promised her the world (well as much as an auto parts sales person could). What was messed up is when she OD on sleeping pills, it was I who took her to the hospital, and stood by her side. After a couple weeks within dumping me, he cheated on her, and dumped her. She turned into a full fledged stripper and unsuccessfully tried to do porn. Very last physical contact I've had with her, she was on Ecstasy and some dude was carrying her on her shoulder. He probably go lucky that night. She actually contacted my on Facebook earlier this year, and she's living in someone's basement as her last bf of 3 years broke up with her. (A couple years after this one, I decided to leave the state, and I would up buying a house.) <Many a acquaintances later> J - She was unemployed while we were together, after we broke up secretly I was sending her job leads, or had friends I had in various employment agencies send her job leads. About a month ago she finally got a contract job. In her personal life I don't know what she's doing, probably dating some married guy or some guy smooth enough to get her into bed, or maybe fscking her best friend ex boyfriend. Whatever the case, I just didn't provide enough drama for her, so she probably went out to get it somewhere. I really don't care. I would say I hope she's doing great, but I really don't mean it or care. Don't care if she's doing awful either. I'm not saying all these women lives turned out worse after me, because really, it's their self opinion that matters. For all I know, in their eyes, their life turned out great. I think it's just natural for us to be a little vindictive and say our lives turned out great and theirs didn't. It's all about perspective, as we can take any little nuance and anyone's life, turn it around as negative, and say "Yes, their lives turned out like crap." For all we know they wanted their lives the way it is, and in their eyes, are much better off.
Ilovecake Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 What if they won the lottery? Does it boost your ego when you hear about there misrable life? It's their not there, and I do not understand your question.
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