cheeze Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 i am still coping with my broken relationship...i dont think its is going on quite well coz from nc iv gone back to lc...and the tears are back more than evr...i tried reading the book recommended...and somehow i started missing him all the more....am i going crazy?? i was wondering that after having had so many dreams of the future with my ex wouldnt it be wrong to live them with some one else (whenever that might happen)...wouldnt it be wrong to say the same words to someone else...how will i ever? its as if i am living a lie..every moment im lying that everything will be fine....that i dont want him to be with me in order to be happy...but its not true...i want him more than anything..i dont think im getting out of this...maybe i dont want to be happy..maybe this lonliness and hurt is all that i deserve
DenverBachelor Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 i was wondering that after having had so many dreams of the future with my ex wouldnt it be wrong to live them with some one else (whenever that might happen)...wouldnt it be wrong to say the same words to someone else...how will i ever? I don't think you really have a choice in the matter. If he broke it off with you, you have two choices. Remain single and learn to enjoy life alone or move on to another. I will say this much, though. I will never say things like, "I'll love you forever, when we get married, etc. etc. BS BS BS." And if she says those things to me, I'll just smile and go about my day. No more of this predicting the future because the future doesn't like to be cornered. We don't even know if there will be a future. For all we know the sun could violently explode right now. We'd have eight minutes left after that. Good luck to us both.
Author cheeze Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 (edited) I don't think you really have a choice in the matter. If he broke it off with you, you have two choices. Remain single and learn to enjoy life alone or move on to another. at this point i am unable to do think of both..everyday i want him back and evryday i get the same reply For all we know the sun could violently explode right now. We'd have eight minutes left after that. wish this comes true..even in those 8 mins i would be begging him to come to me and m sure he wont.. why so many restraints in love.. lik i read in LS once (i recheked it was actually posted by you)...there were times during our relation when i wanted to break up with him...but i did not..there was something that stopped me..something in him..that i could hurt that beautiful soul..that i cant break this persons heart...did he not think lik that even once before he left? am i so pathetic! Edited December 6, 2009 by cheeze
madrugada Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 Cheeze, Letting go is the most difficult thing in the world to do. Trust me, I'm going through the exact same thing. Denver's right, you've got to move on and live for yourself, however difficult that might be. I'll tell you something, though. You ask if breaking up with you was difficult for him to do, and I assure you it was. Did he hurt? Yes he did. Does he miss you? I'm sure he does. But he made his decision, and you've got to live with it. I feel for you, I really do. If it makes you feel any better, I just woke up to an empty bed and spent an hour torturing myself over everything I've lost, everything I did wrong in my relationship. And the thought that my ex is waking up in someome else's arms is killing me, completely tearing me apart. But we have to move on. Don't call him. Don't text him. Just get through the day. There will come a time when it won't hurt so much, is what I keep telling myself, even though I haven't gotten to that point yet. Learn from it and live your life. And good luck. We're all thinking of you.
twinklecat Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 Hello cheeze, I am really sorry for your loss. It will get better though, trust me. The best way forward really is to not speak to them anymore, otherwise it really does just keep the hurt going. Instead of thinking about your ex, focus on YOU (I know easier said than done) Socialize lots with friends, get back in touch with old friends, hell I even found myself cleaning in the middle of the night just to get my mind off things! Also, as others have said, sounds horrible at the moment but this is a great oppurtunity to learn and grow from this, and that's the best thing! x
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