The Way I Am Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 Personally, I find them a complete turn off. I've never dated anyone from online, but I've looked through the profiles. There have been a couple guys I thought were cute and had a good profile until I saw the shirtless picture. They had good bodies of course, but it seems like the male equivalent of posting a shot of your cleavage (tasteless). I don't mind ones taken at the beach or swimming pool. They seem much less gratuitous. What do you ladies think? Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 I agree. What is worse, is the pictures of them in nothing but a towel.. the mirror shot. Or their shirtless pictures with their pants lowered so you can see their hip bones. I don't know why, to be me that screams "Just looking for sex". Link to post Share on other sites
Knittress Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 Throwing in my agreement (of annoyance/repulsion) as well. No matter what their body looks like, it's a signal to me that it's something they place a little too much value in. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 Honestly... I don't like too much muscle. It feels overbearing. Link to post Share on other sites
New Again Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 Honestly... I don't like too much muscle. It feels overbearing. Me neither!! I dated one guy who was 210lbs of muscle, nearly double my weight. One of the things that drove me insane, just made my stomach twist in annoyance, was he would sit too close to me on the couch, and I would practically tumble into his lap because of the weight difference. Sitting skewed like that is so uncomfortable, and then of course he would get upset that I didn't want him to sit so close to me. Likewise when we slept together - I couldn't help but roll into him at night! It was completely unintentional, but he would get so pissed to wake up and find me practically on top of him. I also felt physically stifled around him. Of course, we also had other issues And yes, topless pics are annoying and gratuitous and I definitely judge men who have them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author The Way I Am Posted December 6, 2009 Author Share Posted December 6, 2009 I don't know why, to be me that screams "Just looking for sex". Now that you mention it, that too. Link to post Share on other sites
Awesome Username Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 Guys like that make the mistake of thinking that women as a whole think like men do, and they do not. Link to post Share on other sites
New Again Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 guys like that make the mistake of thinking that women as a whole think like men do, and they do not. so true!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 Me neither!! I dated one guy who was 210lbs of muscle, nearly double my weight. One of the things that drove me insane, just made my stomach twist in annoyance, was he would sit too close to me on the couch, and I would practically tumble into his lap because of the weight difference. Sitting skewed like that is so uncomfortable, and then of course he would get upset that I didn't want him to sit so close to me. Likewise when we slept together - I couldn't help but roll into him at night! It was completely unintentional, but he would get so pissed to wake up and find me practically on top of him. I also felt physically stifled around him. Of course, we also had other issues And yes, topless pics are annoying and gratuitous and I definitely judge men who have them. I dated a guy like that too! Although, he liked to cuddle, but there was just too much to cuddle with! Sex sucked, because he liked being on top all the time, but I felt like I was being smushed. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 I also dated this guy who ended up being more muscular in person then in his pictures.. Found out he was really into lifting weights. A little too much for my taste. He started showing me endless pictures of his progression. Like daily pictures. He asked what I thought, I straight out told him it wasn't attractive to me, he said he wanted to know how much bigger he should get. He was the same guy who said he lost his virginity at 22, and by 24 he'd been with 44 girls. Link to post Share on other sites
jw90063 Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 Personally, I find them a complete turn off. I've never dated anyone from online, but I've looked through the profiles. There have been a couple guys I thought were cute and had a good profile until I saw the shirtless picture. They had good bodies of course, but it seems like the male equivalent of posting a shot of your cleavage (tasteless). I don't mind ones taken at the beach or swimming pool. They seem much less gratuitous. What do you ladies think? Yeah, I find it a turn off. If they are going to such an extent to show off their body on a dating site, its kind of sad. If it was at the beach or the pool that is a bit different. Link to post Share on other sites
Awesome Username Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 I also dated this guy who ended up being more muscular in person then in his pictures.. Found out he was really into lifting weights. A little too much for my taste. He started showing me endless pictures of his progression. Like daily pictures. He asked what I thought, I straight out told him it wasn't attractive to me, he said he wanted to know how much bigger he should get. He was the same guy who said he lost his virginity at 22, and by 24 he'd been with 44 girls. Oh boy, what a mess! Good thing you're not with that one anymore! Link to post Share on other sites
BobSacamento Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 They know exactly what they are doing. They are weeding out the "prudes". Link to post Share on other sites
Angel1111 Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 I agree. Not to mention the ones with sex implications in their username or their descriptions. And it's an amazingly large percentage of them that do that. They have no idea how cheezy that looks. Link to post Share on other sites
Awesome Username Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 (edited) They know exactly what they are doing. They are weeding out the "prudes". But for some reason, there's just something about it that screams "I'll sleep with ANYBODY!" and something that whispers, "He'd probably be with a guy and keep it on the DL." We all know that gay guys take the best shirtless pics and that's just what it reminds me of. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but it just "gays" it up a little bit for me. Edited December 6, 2009 by Awesome Username Link to post Share on other sites
Sam Spade Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 Guys like that make the mistake of thinking that women as a whole think like men do, and they do not. I don't care that much about how women think about this, but then again, when I see a shirtless pic of a guy on a dating site, I am always inclined to track them down and slap them around. Cluelessness of this magnitude should be punished (through physical violence and revocation of procreation rights). Link to post Share on other sites
Awesome Username Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 I don't care that much about how women think about this, but then again, when I see a shirtless pic of a guy on a dating site, I am always inclined to track them down and slap them around. Cluelessness of this magnitude should be punished (through physical violence and revocation of procreation rights). According to the answers from women on this post, they're already revoking their procreation rights. Link to post Share on other sites
Bejita463 Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 According to the answers from women on this post, they're already revoking their procreation rights. +1 Internet. Well played. Link to post Share on other sites
cognac Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 I think that while many women will say it lowers their opinion of the guy, if they have a nice body (like six packs or whatever it is women like) there will be 20 women who will be (strongly) positively affected by the picture for every 1 who feigns offense. In fact I would say a guy could probably get some good online dates with the picture alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Boundary Problem Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 shirtless photo on online dating site 100% turn off. In fact, I take a double glance to memorize his face in case I meet him on the street so I can ignore him. That much of a turn off. But I'm not online dating. Link to post Share on other sites
Pizzaman81 Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 Some of these men believe whole heartedly, that since they look at women as objects and that their body and sluttiness is KEY in a good person, then women must be looking for the exact same thing! Link to post Share on other sites
neowulf Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 Have to agree with the above poster... They're approaching women's attraction as if they were guys. "If I find sexy, hot bodies on chicks attractive.. then it makes sense they'll find mine sexy and attractive." Makes sense really.. if women thought like men Unfortunately, I've come to the conclusion that the only *sure fire* way to be successful with the ladies is confidence and charisma... neither of which can be as easily earnt as big muscles. Link to post Share on other sites
Bejita463 Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 I think that while many women will say it lowers their opinion of the guy, if they have a nice body (like six packs or whatever it is women like) there will be 20 women who will be (strongly) positively affected by the picture for every 1 who feigns offense. If you have trouble getting dates, and I am not accusing nor judging, but if you are... I have just identified one of the reasons. In fact I would say a guy could probably get some good online dates with the picture alone. This is likely true, but shirtless pictures are far more likely to hinder than to help, regardless of physique. Link to post Share on other sites
SadandConfusedWA Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 I would not respond to a shirtless pic online profile even if the guy sounded like my perfect match. The thoughts that go thorugh my head when I see a shirtless picture are (in radnom order): sex addict and possible STDs, shallow and supeficial with no depth and likely bi-sexual or gay. ALL turn-offs. And it's regardless of how good his body is. At that point I so not notice or care... Link to post Share on other sites
b52s Posted December 6, 2009 Share Posted December 6, 2009 Personally, I find them a complete turn off. I've never dated anyone from online, but I've looked through the profiles. There have been a couple guys I thought were cute and had a good profile until I saw the shirtless picture. They had good bodies of course, but it seems like the male equivalent of posting a shot of your cleavage (tasteless). I don't mind ones taken at the beach or swimming pool. They seem much less gratuitous. What do you ladies think? Yeah, or the worst one....where they just have a cell phone pic of them just raising UP their shirt just so you could see their rock-hard abs. LOL. Yeah, women who also post their cleavage (and only their cleavage) just as bad. Then they get ticked off at men who email them inappropriate emails....even saw one whine about the fact she got tired of men doing this IN her profile...she put it in her profile that men should stop emailing her and if they don't like her pics, they don't have to email her, blah blah blah. (Well, obviously they LIKE the pic, they're probably turned on by it or something, lol) But then turning around and complaining about it SCREAMS hypocrisy. This is narcissism at it's best. Link to post Share on other sites
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