teanoranges Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 I'm doing really good with NC. Made it passed my landmark of 20 days (from last month) and now looking forward to 30 days, but not really counting... Trouble is, he's starting to pop into my head again and I really don't like it. Everytime I think of him, I try to think of something else.... it works, but it really is annoying. I just want to scream, 'Leave me alone' haha.. to nothing I guess. It is crappy because I really don't want the memories or thoughts or whatever they are. Sure, they were a great experience for me and my growth, but I don't want them anymore. I can't wait until I don't think about him like this, its ridiculous. Just venting my annoyance with my brain. Thanks for listening, suggestions welcome.
fofiffs Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 oh you'll get there. I remember when I was the same way. The thoughts would never leave my head even after 2 months of NC it drove me nuts. But 9 months later it just stopped. Sometimes thoughts still pop into my head but maybe for like a minute or so and thats about it. Havent even thought about the ex in so long. I'm not even sure how long I've been NC I lost track a while back ago. Just keep doing what your doing and they will eventually stop.
Torn_apart Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 I read somewhere that trying to cast out those thoughts only prolongs the healing process. They always managed to sneak right back in. Let it be but don't dwell on it and don't try to over analyze it.
fofiffs Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 I read somewhere that trying to cast out those thoughts only prolongs the healing process. They always managed to sneak right back in. Let it be but don't dwell on it and don't try to over analyze it. I totally agree with this. Once you torture your brain enough with those thoughts your brain will get sick and tired of them so much that it won't even care no more after awhile. When you get to that point and when you do have those thoughts of the ex it won't even care.
countingstarsagain Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 I've been struggling with the same problem as you. I've tried to push my ex out of my head, but when I do, I have nightmares about him. I'm trying to allow myself to think about it some while I'm awake, but not too much, just so maybe he won't pop up in my dreams. Best of luck! Allow yourself to think of reasons why you aren't right for each other and tell yourself this is for the best.
Author teanoranges Posted December 6, 2009 Author Posted December 6, 2009 You know, its messed up because I wasn't forcing myself not to think of him... it just happened that way... and one day I guess I noticed I wasn't thinking about him as much or the same way.. and that's when I get this 'hovering presence', almost like he's behind me (Abviously not, I just don't know how else to describe it. haha!) I know and trust it will fade completely with time, just how long I don't know. I'm not hurting anymore or angry. I really feel fine. I don't want to contact him or anything. I'm moving on with my life, but somehow these thoughts make me feel like I'm not moving on.
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