monkey5 Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 I used to work a job as a seating hostess in a busy restaurant. I only worked there for about a year and a half to pay off some bills, and had a great time during that span. I worked with all sorts of people, and was able to get along with everyone, excluding one girl. I'm a pretty happy and outgoing individual, albeit not tolerating other people's crap- I don't allow myself to be pushed around. From day one (meaning, my 1st day working/training for the job) she hated me. Even when i introduced myself, all she did was ignore my introduction and respond with a very cold, "Go clean the bathroom" handing me the keys. I am pretty sure I didn't do anything to provoke her, I was very friendly. From then on, she'd intentionally do horrible things to try to get me fired. Again, I never did anything questionable, or even anything spiteful towards her for that matter. Even on my breaks, when I'd be sitting and enjoying my lunch with other co-workers, she'd walk by the table, stop, and stare me down. It was fricking weird! She was pregnant at the time, and even though I tried to be helpful to her, there was nothing I could do to make her like me. After about a year, the bills were all payed off, and I picked up a better job elsewhere. Now, fast forward a couple of years (with no contact whatsoever with her in-between) to a family dinner at my former employers. During the dinner, she would continuously walk by the table and leer at me, giving me dirty looks that conveyed, "Why the f*ck are you here?". I can't even think of any reason for this...I mean, I don't have a third eye-ball or anything. I'm actually quite nice-looking. Is there any sort of reasoning behind all of this? I might add, although she was pregnant, she wasn't married...did my happy-go-lucky personality clash with her pessimistic one? The odd thing was, she was nice to everyone else I worked with, except for me. This has been bothering me for a while now...I didn't know if anyone would have some insight on a similar situation or not.
gopher Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 She's jealous perhaps? Are you more attractive or younger than her?
Author monkey5 Posted December 9, 2009 Author Posted December 9, 2009 I don't know if it's a jealousy thing or not, as she was nasty to me from the moment I introduced myself. I am younger than her, by about 3-4 years...but she has a boyfriend and a kid now, so she should be happy and less resentful? I don't handle nasty people all that well, so it's something that's been bothering me. I'm pretty humble and I try not to provoke people to hate me.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Clearly she knows something about you which you can't fathom her knowing. (if you're incredibly lucky, she only thinks she knows something unappealing about you, without it being true) But with human tendencies being what they are, it is probably something accurate.
imani Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 Is there any sort of reasoning behind all of this? I might add, although she was pregnant, she wasn't married...did my happy-go-lucky personality clash with her pessimistic one? The odd thing was, she was nice to everyone else I worked with, except for me. This has been bothering me for a while now...I didn't know if anyone would have some insight on a similar situation or not. Whatever it is, let it be her problem. Don't even waste your time trying to figure her out. I had a situation happen similar to what you explain. Unfortunately, time doesn't always cure a person's stupididty & immaturity. You just keep on being your gappy go lucky self and let her keep pouting. It's her issue to sort out. Luckily you no longer have to work with her anymore, so her behaviour won't really have an effect on you. Hey maybe that is the problem. The fact that her attitude didn't have an effect on you then, nor does it have an effect on you now. Yeah, maybe that's it??? Maybe she wanted you to be heartbroken because she didn't befriend you in the begining. Since you weren't then, and aren't now, that probably ticks her off all over again. I don't know. Some people, although they are adults in age, have a mentality of still being in junior high.
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