b52s Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 There's this woman, she's beatiful, smart, and I have to say, out of all the women I know, she's not uptight at all, I would say there are very few women like her. She's very flirty, and unbelieveable charasmatic...and has a smile that makes you melt. She can be also like "one of the guys" as well. Very adaptable to certain situations. I can SEE why guys are attracted to her, no doubt. Her personality really is very appealing to a lot of guys. One guy told me he dated her, but....she ended it because he was getting too attached (and I can see why he fell for her) He said she just likes to "casually" date, whatever that means, and I said, "Oh, so you think she's into casual sex?" And he said, "No, she just likes the experience of meeting new people and...well...just the experience itself." But she's so appealing to men, they really fall for her. But I don't see what's so appealing about "dating just to date". Is there some kind of paradox here? It's kind of a shame, because I think she'd make a great girlfriend for a guy.
WTRanger Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 Why get 100% of attention from just one guy when you have have 10 guys giving you 100% attention? Why stay with someone through the hard times when you can just cut and run to go meet new people? Why should she have to put herself through the pressure of dealing with a friend/boyfriend's life that is hitting some rough spots? She only wants good times! Of course, her current batch of "friends" better be there for her when she has a rough spot or else! Why get to know someone? It is easier to ditch a person you barely know. I mean if you know you are only going to have them in your life for a short span, it is easier to ditch a faceless person. She's in it for the attention and she's got serious issues with keeping people.Tell me, when she goes to seek new friends, does she ditch her existing friends? Can she keep someone in her life for more than 4-6 months?
BUENG1 Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 There's this woman, she's beatiful, smart, and I have to say, out of all the women I know, she's not uptight at all, I would say there are very few women like her. She's very flirty, and unbelieveable charasmatic...and has a smile that makes you melt. She can be also like "one of the guys" as well. Very adaptable to certain situations. I can SEE why guys are attracted to her, no doubt. Her personality really is very appealing to a lot of guys. One guy told me he dated her, but....she ended it because he was getting too attached (and I can see why he fell for her) He said she just likes to "casually" date, whatever that means, and I said, "Oh, so you think she's into casual sex?" And he said, "No, she just likes the experience of meeting new people and...well...just the experience itself." But she's so appealing to men, they really fall for her. But I don't see what's so appealing about "dating just to date". Is there some kind of paradox here? It's kind of a shame, because I think she'd make a great girlfriend for a guy. Free food and entertainment without needing to really put any effort into the "relationship" at all. Nothing wrong with it either, if your honest about it. But the question are you going to sign up for this? I wouldn't.
2sunny Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 don't work off gossip... ask HER directly. i date casually when i feel i haven't YET met the right guy...
Stockalone Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 But I don't see what's so appealing about "dating just to date". Is there some kind of paradox here? It's kind of a shame, because I think she'd make a great girlfriend for a guy. I don't get the point of casual dating either. But if that is what she wants right now, that is her prerogative. As long as she is honest about it, I don't see the problem. If a guy knows that this is not good enough for him, he shouldn't date her. Why would he waste his time? If he believes he can change her mind, good luck with that.
You'reasian Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 (edited) There's this woman, she's beatiful, smart, and I have to say, out of all the women I know, she's not uptight at all, I would say there are very few women like her. She's very flirty, and unbelieveable charasmatic...and has a smile that makes you melt. She can be also like "one of the guys" as well. Very adaptable to certain situations. I can SEE why guys are attracted to her, no doubt. Her personality really is very appealing to a lot of guys. One guy told me he dated her, but....she ended it because he was getting too attached (and I can see why he fell for her) He said she just likes to "casually" date, whatever that means, and I said, "Oh, so you think she's into casual sex?" And he said, "No, she just likes the experience of meeting new people and...well...just the experience itself." But she's so appealing to men, they really fall for her. But I don't see what's so appealing about "dating just to date". Is there some kind of paradox here? It's kind of a shame, because I think she'd make a great girlfriend for a guy. Heresay is a good indicator, but time and experience with a person will give you a better impression. I think women date just to date because they aren't ready to settle. Some say they are - some of those do things to the contrary of what they said, and some are very straight forward about not wanting to settle. Seems like once a woman reaches her 30's, she's growin into her skin and ready to party, especially if she was a good girl growing up. This isn't always true though. Personally, I'm not a fan of casual dating. Edited December 5, 2009 by You'reasian
LovieDove24 Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 If she finds the right guy for her, she will settle. Trust me.
Ruby Slippers Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 i date casually when i feel i haven't YET met the right guy... Yep. That is what I am beginning to do now. I figure I can sit around by myself and wait for a great fit (might take a while), or have fun in the meantime. As long as I'm completely honest -- and I am -- I see nothing wrong with it. If a guy is not cool with this, he doesn't have to date me. Personally, I plan to go Dutch with anyone I'm dating for fun with no commitment. For me, that's part of being friends and not leading anyone on.
Star Gazer Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 It's ALWAYS casual dating...until you meet the right person. No reasonable person starts off serious.
Stockalone Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 It's ALWAYS casual dating...until you meet the right person. No reasonable person starts off serious. Well, I am used to being considered unreasonable by now. That said, in the situation the OP described, I thought it meant that the woman doesn't want a relationship right now and is just trying to kill time. If I am looking for a relationship, dating a woman with this mindset would be a waste of my time.
Ms. Joolie Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 There's this woman, she's beatiful, smart, and I have to say, out of all the women I know, she's not uptight at all, I would say there are very few women like her. She's very flirty, and unbelieveable charasmatic...and has a smile that makes you melt. She can be also like "one of the guys" as well. Very adaptable to certain situations. I can SEE why guys are attracted to her, no doubt. Her personality really is very appealing to a lot of guys. One guy told me he dated her, but....she ended it because he was getting too attached (and I can see why he fell for her) He said she just likes to "casually" date, whatever that means, and I said, "Oh, so you think she's into casual sex?" And he said, "No, she just likes the experience of meeting new people and...well...just the experience itself." But she's so appealing to men, they really fall for her. But I don't see what's so appealing about "dating just to date". Is there some kind of paradox here? It's kind of a shame, because I think she'd make a great girlfriend for a guy. Sure she's not a guy?? jk. bad joke. In all seriousness, I wonder. You paint the perfect picture of her, but there has to be something else going on. Nobody dates just to date like that without good reason, and not without some prior experience shaping those reasons. My speculation is that she's quite young and coming out of an LTR, and just wanting to be single right now. Her heart's not really available to just anybody just yet, and it really is all just for enjoyment right now. She probably hasn't been this way for very long, and it won't last. She'll change and eventually be ready to open up again for another relationship. She sounds like a friendly person, so I doubt she's so closed off that she's sworn off relationships forever. In short...... check out her relationship history. You might find the answer there.
TheLoneSock Posted December 6, 2009 Posted December 6, 2009 don't work off gossip... ask HER directly. i date casually when i feel i haven't YET met the right guy... This here is key and is exactly what I was going to post about. Simple fact is, she hasn't found a guy she likes enough to get serious with, otherwise she would have by now (I bet). He just hasn't come along. She probably is way too picky, but that is her business and if she wants to do things that way, it's completely her right. Now, will she be happy ultimately in the end? Or will she be another 40 something single gal like so many we see here on loveshack, still talking about "just waiting for the right guy"? Who knows, who cares. Thing is, OP, you should be doing the exact same anyway, just the 'guy' version - which is getting with as many attractive girls as you can. Guys have the advantage of being more desirable the older they get (to a certain point), girls do not have that luxury. Take advantage of it.
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