Its finally over - warning this is long, and probably boring

[curiousnycgirl]

Indeed to all you have said GrayClouds and thanks. In time I'll be ok - just need to get there.

 

I already walk 4 miles a day - but trust me, I'm going back to being the active happy person I used to be!

[GrayClouds]

Indeed to all you have said GrayClouds and thanks. In time I'll be ok - just need to get there.

 

I already walk 4 miles a day - but trust me, I'm going back to being the active happy person I used to be!

 

I have no doubt you will get there soon! Congratulation on your new improved life.

[2sunny]

i think all of the things he says regarding not loving you - actually pertain to himself... he has a hard time loving himself.

 

it's not you - it's him. he needs to change and become a man... and stop acting like a spoiled little boy with Mommy (you) taking care of him.

 

take care of yourself for a change - you will see how much less effort this will take without him as a huge barrier and hurdle to get past.

[curiousnycgirl]

i think all of the things he says regarding not loving you - actually pertain to himself... he has a hard time loving himself.

 

it's not you - it's him. he needs to change and become a man... and stop acting like a spoiled little boy with Mommy (you) taking care of him.

 

take care of yourself for a change - you will see how much less effort this will take without him as a huge barrier and hurdle to get past.

 

Thanks Sunny - just to be clear he actually said he did love me, I just didn't believe him based on his actions. The stuff about his not loving me all came from me. The rest of your post I am sure is dead on though.

 

I'm working on taking care of me and maybe having the water works stop at some point!

[2sunny]

a persons actions will always tell you many important things - more so than any words.

 

he hasn't made much effort to participate in the relationship over the years, much less be a man that will support and provide for you... he's been a mooch and a taker. now, he's getting mean and abusive in a way that is unacceptable for someone who is supposed to love and care for you. his actions look like the extreme selfish nature of a man using you for anything you will give him - then just be mean on the backside so you'll give even more.

 

does this sound healthy and loving to you? you deserve more for yourself. to be alone is WAY better than to be with a man who treats you with such disrespect and disregard.