Yukikazi Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 Dude.. you wanna drive her up the wall? Don't compliment her on her looks.. personality, wit etc yes.. looks no... Tell her you think of her as a little sister. Don't stare at her.. always be looking for the next hotter babe. When you see her, start moving.. Pretend your friend is just someone you met at the wedding... you don't owe her entertainment.. she nixed that by going LJBF's.. so you will be a nice polite friend to her and chase the hot tail... She will start wonder "WTF is wrong with me.. he isn't flirting or hitting on me but he's chatting up all the other women... " Best case scenario.. she grabs you.. drags you away and humps your brains out just to make a point to herself.
Author Scorpio13c Posted December 7, 2009 Author Posted December 7, 2009 I agree with Yukikazi. If this woman sees value in you as a potential then she'll show it. If she's going to believe you're not "worthy", then it's her loss, especially if her choices in men lead her to being single and angered at the male species. Well it's a sit down dinner at a upscale restaurant for our company of 12, so i can't see myself flirting with anyone there. Again, I'm even surprised she's even going, seeing it's a Christmas dinner & she doesn't celebrate Christmas.
Author Scorpio13c Posted December 7, 2009 Author Posted December 7, 2009 Dude.. you wanna drive her up the wall? Don't compliment her on her looks.. personality, wit etc yes.. looks no... Tell her you think of her as a little sister. Don't stare at her.. always be looking for the next hotter babe. When you see her, start moving.. Pretend your friend is just someone you met at the wedding... you don't owe her entertainment.. she nixed that by going LJBF's.. so you will be a nice polite friend to her and chase the hot tail... She will start wonder "WTF is wrong with me.. he isn't flirting or hitting on me but he's chatting up all the other women... " Best case scenario.. she grabs you.. drags you away and humps your brains out just to make a point to herself. I wish the setting could be like that, but see my response to D-Jam above..
threebyfate Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 That's the statement I got tonight from her. She's coming to my Co. Christmas dinner next week.. Anyone ever get out of the Friend zone?? Tips so much appreciated!! Thanks in advance!Instead of being bitter or hurt about it, why not just state that you're asking her for a date to your Christmas party and if she declines, you're free to ask anyone else. Stop pretending to be friends with women if you're not looking for a friend.
Author Scorpio13c Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 Instead of being bitter or hurt about it, why not just state that you're asking her for a date to your Christmas party and if she declines, you're free to ask anyone else. Stop pretending to be friends with women if you're not looking for a friend. I told her ( Not asked) she was coming with me, she agreed, I was never bitter when she told me two weeks later about just going as friends. I never pretended anything, I just laughed & responded "For now" however I don't recall how she responded as I was still stunned. She continues to e-mail me asking how my day is & gives innuendos.
Yukikazi Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 I told her ( Not asked) she was coming with me, she agreed, I was never bitter when she told me two weeks later about just going as friends. I never pretended anything, I just laughed & responded "For now" however I don't recall how she responded as I was still stunned. She continues to e-mail me asking how my day is & gives innuendos. Do you remember how the conversation got to "we just going as friends" if it was 2 weeks later? What sort of innuendos?? examples..
Author Scorpio13c Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 Do you remember how the conversation got to "we just going as friends" if it was 2 weeks later? What sort of innuendos?? examples.. Yes, she told me about how her supervisor was checking her out & giving her a hard time ( The guy always liked her & treats her badly because he wants her) I pointed this out & said that he wants what I am getting, A date with her. That's when she said "You know we're are going out as friends" Innuendos such as "I wish I knew about these things about you (ie I play guitar etc.) She's since dropped a guy she was dating after I questioned it.. Here's something I posted on another forum: She's 45, i'm 40 -She started calling me after she found out I had broken up with my ex. -]When we first started talking, I had the feeling she was seeing someone. I asked her about it, she said she was, but was going to drop him. She did it two days later. She'd prior said "I wish I knew this & that about you". -She was taking paid guitar lessons (I'd previously offered to give her free lessons at the same time telling her I would court her), she then got rid of the other guy & called me for said lessons. -I've given now the fourth git lesson. -She emails every day -She's been celibate for 14 years - doesn't want to remain, but only if it is moral. -She went out for drinks with a guy from work, whom she admitted being attracted to, even though she said nothing would happen (he said he's got a girlfriend, but also told her he'd do her in the truck outside. She laughed when she told me this. I could tell it excited her!) but she would never do anything because of JW religion! This was tonight too! -She alludes(via email) to sexy/kinky things ambigously with me - Rrefers to me all the time as "Sunshine
carhill Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 -She's been celibate for 14 years - doesn't want to remain, but only if it is moral. OK, I've officially become so cynical I won't be commenting on these threads again
Yukikazi Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 OK, I've officially become so cynical I won't be commenting on these threads again You may need to step in on this one.. I dunno if my advice would be effective for that particular age group.
Author Scorpio13c Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 OK, I've officially become so cynical I won't be commenting on these threads again Carhill, I value your opinons, please help!
carhill Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 (edited) Tell me what her 'moral' way of ending 14 years of celibacy is..... BTW, my comment was in no way a reflection on the value of your thread, but rather an indicator of my current emotional state which is reflective of my personal circumstances. I don't wish that to poison the value you deserve to receive ... Edited December 8, 2009 by carhill
Pink Cupcakes Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Just be a perfect gentleman. Maybe she didn't want to put too much pressure on the evening. Maybe she is waiting for a "lighter" date. A company Christmas function is kind of a big outting for a first date. I think if you have a good time at the Co. Christmas party, ask her out again, to a movie/coffee afternoon, which is lighter affair and doesn't involve her meeting your coworkers.
Author Scorpio13c Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 Tell me what her 'moral' way of ending 14 years of celibacy is..... Basicaly what she was saying was that she wouldn't have pre marrital sex.
carhill Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 If this isn't a cultural norm, I would be discouraged from investing myself. I say that as someone who was 'celibate' for a goodly portion of my adult life. Part of a truly intimate relationship is sexual; it is an expression of who you are. For some, it can be merely good fun. Regardless, it is a function of life as an adult her age in most societies and cultures. There will be some who will be along to help you 'change her mood'. I will be watching with interest. Always willing to learn
Author Scorpio13c Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 Just be a perfect gentleman. Maybe she didn't want to put too much pressure on the evening. Maybe she is waiting for a "lighter" date. A company Christmas function is kind of a big outting for a first date. I think if you have a good time at the Co. Christmas party, ask her out again, to a movie/coffee afternoon, which is lighter affair and doesn't involve her meeting your coworkers. I understand that Cupcakes, Thanks!
Author Scorpio13c Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 If this isn't a cultural norm, I would be discouraged from investing myself. I say that as someone who was 'celibate' for a goodly portion of my adult life. Part of a truly intimate relationship is sexual; it is an expression of who you are. For some, it can be merely good fun. Regardless, it is a function of life as an adult her age in most societies and cultures. There will be some who will be along to help you 'change her mood'. I will be watching with interest. Always willing to learn I'll be waiting for your opinion/sugestion at that point )
threebyfate Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 I told her ( Not asked) she was coming with me, she agreed, I was never bitter when she told me two weeks later about just going as friends. I never pretended anything, I just laughed & responded "For now" however I don't recall how she responded as I was still stunned. She continues to e-mail me asking how my day is & gives innuendos.She's stringing you along and you're letting her. Call her out on her b/s. "Are you looking for a friend? I'm looking for more."
Author Scorpio13c Posted December 9, 2009 Author Posted December 9, 2009 She's stringing you along and you're letting her. Call her out on her b/s. "Are you looking for a friend? I'm looking for more." Stringing me on for what exactly? Like I said before, she originally persued me.
boogieboy Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 Stringing me on for what exactly? Like I said before, she originally persued me. Stringing you along for friendship, if she was pursuing you, she wouldhave made some kind of move already.
Author Scorpio13c Posted December 9, 2009 Author Posted December 9, 2009 Stringing you along for friendship, if she was pursuing you, she wouldhave made some kind of move already. You've got to be kidding me, friendship?? that's why?
boogieboy Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 You've got to be kidding me, friendship?? that's why? Yep, read around the friends and lovers thread, its a hell of a trend.
Author Scorpio13c Posted December 9, 2009 Author Posted December 9, 2009 Yep, read around the friends and lovers thread, its a hell of a trend. Huh! I wish there were another reason, if that's the case.. I guess I'm pooched then.?
Yukikazi Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 Huh! I wish there were another reason, if that's the case.. I guess I'm pooched then.? You already know the answer to that.
threebyfate Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 Stringing me on for what exactly? Like I said before, she originally persued me.Okay, if she first pursued you, why is she telling you that your Christmas party is just a friends thing? This is like one big mind ****. Enjoy!
Author Scorpio13c Posted December 9, 2009 Author Posted December 9, 2009 You already know the answer to that. So I suppose in my situation there's no chance of it working out like Agent's scenario..?
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