sagirl1891 Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 Ugh This sucks. I had been doing a month of NC and then last night when I was drunk, I texted my ex (who broke up with me) saying "I miss you." Well, he responded and wrote back that he's been wanting to tell me that for weeks now and he thinks of me all the time. He said he missed me too and he wanted to see me. Then, I didn't respond to his messages for a few hours and he texted saying he wanted to call me so we could talk. Long story short, we talked, and he said a lot of stuff, about how much he missed me, how much harder he was than he thought, how he misses us, blah blah blah. BUT, he said he's still confused and doesn't know what he wants right now. He said he wants to be single, but yet he was crying on the phone saying how hard this is. WHAT THE HELL?! This is so confusing and so hard. I hate this so much. We're going to meet up for lunch tomorrow to figure things out but I am just devastated that he doesn't want to be with me. If he's having such a hard time and hasn't hooked up with anyone and it's been a month, why doesn't he want to be with me?! I just don't understand. Someone knock some sense into me, stat. Please
GrayClouds Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 What he is saying is "I thought I would have scored a couple of new chick by now and I am really missing you being a easy lay. I wish I could still have sex with you but not be bothered with all that relationship crap that you would expect. So I am getting really upset and feeling sorry for myself because I can have my cake and eat it too. By the way your not a terrible girl just one that I am really not very interested in... see aint I a good guy!" Go back to NC and focus on yourself.
luvflower Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 (edited) Someone knock some sense into me, stat. Please CANCEL! Don't go out to lunch with him...What? Why would you put yourself through that? Him telling you again that he just wants to be single. Why did he break up with you or did you break up with him and why? I wouldn't meet him. He may start feeling horny and you may end up sleeping with him,only to regret it the next day b/c he will still want to be single... And stop drinking so much. Alcohol can "contribute" to causing us to make decisions that are not very wise. Edited December 5, 2009 by luvflower
billy356 Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 CANCEL!!! FOR THE LOVE OF GOD CANCEL!!! You are just going to be put backwards in your recovery by sitting face to face with him. He has already shown that he doesnt really care how his actions affect you by saying that he misses you AND saying he doesnt know what he wants. if the man truly cared for you he would say the first and keep the second to himself until the time was right. GrayClouds has it square on the head, he wants a physical relationship without the emotional requirements. Write him an email, apologize for getting in contact with him, let him know it was a bad idea and that you need more time. Ask him to not contact you. Then go on TRUE no contact and stick to it. If you are drinking get a designated texter so you wont be allowed to do that really dumb act again (sorry, truth)....
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