thatguy90 Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 Ok long story short ... me and my ex girlfriend broke up just over a month ago ... we were close we had plans for the future. But we broke up ... we talked a bit like once or twice a week ... nothing major ... but still i kept hurting. So then we fought one evening and well then i started not talking to her for a bit and well she then asked me to meet up to talk about it ... so we did ... i found out she still see's what we saw and different things ... but not right now ... she wants to experience life and stuff. We are both under the age of 22. The reason why we fought was because i found out 2 weeks after she broke up with me she started to like another guy which was her best friend. Now after a month ... i don't know if i like her or not ... she was a great girl ... I know i miss her ... i know that feeling. But i went a week without talking to her ... but today i talked to her for a bit ... kept a convo under 20 mins . But still I am just going to keep it distant and i have moved on ... i think. She is just so busy and when she broke up and when i found out she liked another guy ... it felt like the relationship meant nothing to her ... and well i look back at the good memories and the bad. Like apart of me wants her back ... the other part of me doesn't want to even give her a second chance. The reason why she left me ... i had become sad and not my self ... i am a fun loving guy ... and i like going out and doing stuff ... but i had stop doing that ... I am more myself now. But i feel like i am missing apart of me ... my other half ... i don't know if that is normal after you lose a girl friend. She did say I was the perfect guy when I was happy and everything, and that she can still see us playing with our kids and stuff like that (Those were our dreams) ... that was 2 weeks ago when she said that. But also at the same time she liked that guy, she is in exams so nothing i say will change her mind or anything. It is the way she works. But i ended up telling her last week that I did not want to be friends right away. She told me just after we broke up she did not want to hop back into a relationship again with me ... she would have to start off as friends and see what happens. I understand that ... its not a good idea to hop back into a relationship because there is a chance it will just ended breaking again. Please give me advice, I need to know should i do ... Im at a loss ... i honestly don't have time to go out and get another girl friend and honestly she was exactly what i wanted in a girl, yes there are lots of girls out there ... but she had been a total combination of every girl i have ever liked, and then some.
GrayClouds Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 The reason why she left me ... i had become sad and not my self ... i am a fun loving guy ... and i like going out and doing stuff ... but i had stop doing that ... I am more myself now. So if you got back with her, you would never be allow to get sad again, you would have to be fun loving guy 24/7 forever? You may want to get back with her but pray to your god that you never have a parent die, a close friend get sick, or a dog that runs away. You get my point, that is BS, You found out how little depth this girl has. You desirve to be loved by someone who care about you and wants to be there to help you when your down. That what people do when they love each other. Let her go and consider yourself lucky you found out earlier then latter how shallow she is .
Author thatguy90 Posted December 5, 2009 Author Posted December 5, 2009 two of my family members became very ill and i was worried about them, you know how to call it, one of them is fine now the other should be ok, i am still worried deep down inside for them, but she is a strong person I know that she will get better. anyways ... yes i understand that ... I have been mad at her for that, and well that is where i don't get it ... is her saying the stuff about the future. Right now and even in a few years, I will probably not forget about this ... I did talk to her about this the last time we talked and well she said to me is to stop liking her ... be mad at her for the inconsiderate and selfish person she was, then forgive her for that in time. I am surpized that she admited to that ... it was shocking and well it atleast made me a little happy inside that she saw it, but still it had not changed anything. She and I are young ... our paths have parted ... and we are no longer together, but the future is unknown, if she can't find a better guy then me she might come back, we will see what happens. Also I know its my choice to get back into a relationship with her, not her's, she dumped me and she will have to tell me that she likes me. I know if we ever do end up in a relationship again ... she would have to be better committed and more respectful of my needs.
GrayClouds Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 You wont and should want to. She was an important person in your life who show you the depth and beauty for loving someone. She also showed you that it is a persons actions not words that indicates if they love you in return. Her actions was disrespectful of you, the challanges in your life at the time, and your ability to care for the people that matters to you. That is not a person you want to be with. You will find a person you loves you for being a fun loving guy and love you even more becouse you can feel deeply enough to get sad because sad things are happening. Good luck
Author thatguy90 Posted December 5, 2009 Author Posted December 5, 2009 Thanks Gray Clouds, I just want to ask "her actions was disrespectful of you" is it not "disrespectful to you"? also what are you refering to when you say "You wont and should want to."? Oddly as this will sound ... she was all that before the guy came into her life again. She was happy with me and I was happy with her, she could deal with me being sad and bring me out of the funk and I did the same to her, it just changed when this guy became her best friend and well she accepted a gift from him(It was after he got her all mad at him), which i thought was disrespectful of him to do ... but she did not see that. She does now ... well I hope she does ... when she said "Hate me for being selfish". It will be time ... which tells us what will happen between us. I doubt we will get back together ... I am not going to wait for her. I am just going to focus on my degree and my life goals. Thanks again for the advice and listening GrayClouds, it is nice to have some one to talk to.
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