confusedbemused Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 My ex boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago, saying that he loved me but wasn't in love with me, and couldn't ever see us being together again. fast forward 1.5 months with no contact-- he sends me an email saying that "if i wanted to talk, he was willing to listen". i press him about why he wants to meet up and listen to what i have to say if he still feels the same way, and he can't answer. Later he emails me saying: ""Thank you for understanding how confused i seemed when we talked. That said, I don't think my state [he was a little sick and had just woken up for a nap at the time] was the only reason I had difficulty explaining my reassons for meeting. They were a little unclear to me too. In light of what you said, I'm not sure the reasons I mentioned before--being ready to listen to you--are very good ones. I still wouldd like to meet, but I want to be clear that I want to meet you as a friend. There is no urggent reason or real "reason" at all for such a meetiing, but it could be goood to see each other and speak to each other, simply in order to catch up. I wonder how this sounds to you." I should move on, right? The first email out of the blue made me think he was having second thoughts, but the later email makes it seem pretty clear he's completely moved on. Why is it so hard to give up hope?
Taucher Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 It is hard for you to give up hope as it has only been 2 months - and two months is not a long time. Also, he has done you a favour - he says that he wants to meet up as friends so for you the choice is easy. Do not meet up. You have nothing to gain from this. He gets to dictate the terms of you meeting up as well as the terms of you two breaking up. He has his own selfish reasons for wanting to meet up but at least he was clear. You need to have some respect for yourself and stay well clear. I promise you that this is the best course of action. Take care T
Author confusedbemused Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 What if it's my last chance to see him and maybe get him back? I really do think he was having second thoughts before, but i made him think about it too much and now he's unsure... ugh. i don't know.
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