ItsAllGoodAgain Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 The relationship is over and I accepted this fact 2 months ago. I know I don't want to be with her. I know it would never work. I've let go of our relationship and have moved on. I am over this. But I just can't help but miss the girl.
Ilovecake Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Hmmm you think about your ex and miss her, so what exactly are you over?
Author ItsAllGoodAgain Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 I'm over wanting to be with her. I'm over feeling upset that it ended. I'm over the relationship but I guess I'm not over her. I saw her on the road the other day for the first time since the break. I felt a chill come over me and became nervous. I'm not over her!
SushiOji Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Thats how I'm feeling, I don't want to be with her but I miss her as a friend. But I can't contact her because I'm not over her so now I'm stuck feeling like crap.
sean1970 Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 I think Im losing it today guys... With all that I am doing to get over this, I cant stand these waves of pain and despair. Six months ago, my life, and life with her, was not perfect but I knew where I was... Just lost right now...
Author ItsAllGoodAgain Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 I think Im losing it today guys... With all that I am doing to get over this, I cant stand these waves of pain and despair. Six months ago, my life, and life with her, was not perfect but I knew where I was... Just lost right now... Hang in there sean! You know how to handle this. I have the same waves of emotion but those waves get smaller and smaller with time. Eventually the sea will be calm again. Fight the good fight compadre!!
Boundary Problem Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Hang in there sean! You know how to handle this. I have the same waves of emotion but those waves get smaller and smaller with time. Eventually the sea will be calm again. Fight the good fight compadre!! I like this analogy. Time really does help heal. ((hugs)) Hope you feel better soon
sean1970 Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Hang in there sean! You know how to handle this. I have the same waves of emotion but those waves get smaller and smaller with time. Eventually the sea will be calm again. Fight the good fight compadre!! Never thought the end of us would have me emotionally buckle over so often or with such force. Im grateful for you all... Thanks...
Boundary Problem Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Never thought the end of us would have me emotionally buckle over so often or with such force. Im grateful for you all... Thanks... Think of it as a catharsis. An opportunity to be reborn. To re-fashion yourself any way you want. Think of yourself as an airplane, and if you can just get going fast enough, then you will achieve lift off and the wind will do the rest for you. Like a pheonix rising. That image in my mind helped me and gave me strength. Sort of faking it until you make it. But you are not alone.
soheartbroken Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 I think Im losing it today guys... With all that I am doing to get over this, I cant stand these waves of pain and despair. Six months ago, my life, and life with her, was not perfect but I knew where I was... Just lost right now... Don't sweat it. Grieving a loss is not a linear process. It comes and goes. You backslide, then take some steps forward. Only been 6 months for you? That's nothing! I think if you didn't still miss her it would be a reflection of how much you didn't care in the first place.
sean1970 Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Don't sweat it. Grieving a loss is not a linear process. It comes and goes. You backslide, then take some steps forward. Only been 6 months for you? That's nothing! I think if you didn't still miss her it would be a reflection of how much you didn't care in the first place. I will be driving to see a friend where she lives tomorrow (4 hours away). He invited me to a Football game there... Ive made that trip every other weekend for over a year. Hard to believe I will be minutes away from her but know she might as well be on the other side of the globe... I wont be a test of my NC... Just very odd feeling. Maybe that is what has brought this on... Thanks soheartbroken....
Boundary Problem Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 I will be driving to see a friend where she lives tomorrow (4 hours away). He invited me to a Football game there... Ive made that trip every other weekend for over a year. Hard to believe I will be minutes away from her but know she might as well be on the other side of the globe... I wont be a test of my NC... Just very odd feeling. Maybe that is what has brought this on... Thanks soheartbroken.... Could be. Sounds like it will be a bit of a watershed/test to see how you are doing. As they say in AA, "run the tape" on what to expect so you are prepared. It is the impusive stuff that always causes the most damage.
sean1970 Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Could be. Sounds like it will be a bit of a watershed/test to see how you are doing. As they say in AA, "run the tape" on what to expect so you are prepared. It is the impusive stuff that always causes the most damage. Last time I was there to hang with him, just a few weeks after the breakup, I was borderline basket case. He is a mutual friend and hope that did not make it back to her. This time will be different either way...
dazzle22 Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 You wrote you know she was not right for you, so really what you miss is the WAY YOU FELT when you were with her in the good times.... Maybe if you reframe it, that it is a feeling that you miss, and not so much her, since she is not the one for you, you can feel a bit better.?
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