confusedinky Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 I posted here about a month ago when I found out my wife's EA was more than that... Quick recap, married 10 years, 2 kids, search my name if you want to know more. Update.... My wife started therapy on her own about 6 weeks ago, she has some serious stuff from her past that she never dealt with (I always knew she would have to someday just never thought I'd get caught in the crossfire). Her therapist when she described me told her I might have adult ADD, I was tested this week and am waiting on results (I honestly think I probably do have it, it would explain a lot of the reasons I drive her crazy without trying to and things in my life too). We are not doing couples therapy now as her therapist thinks we need to work on our own stuff for a bit. She has promised me on numerous occasions that she has no contact with the other man, I even went so far as to say if she did I just wanted to know because I can't take the lying anymore. But, while searching her phone records (this is the thing about an affair that has me the most ticked off, I have turned into a detective and am un-trusting my mind never was like this before) anyway she has a couple of calls over the last few weeks that are to a calling card and then gets a blocked call back right afterwords (duh...). So for those of you who have gone through this before here is where I am at... I have talked to a Realtor who suggests putting the house up 1st of Feb. We can't afford to keep this house unless we are together. We are still sleeping in the same bed (trust me just sleeping ) I am waiting on appt with a lawyer to discuss legal separation. My plan is to confront her once I have all of the information about next steps in place so I can just say "I know you're still in contact and here's what is going to happen. I am going to move to the basement, we are putting the house on the market and I want a separation you can't be trusted." Any advice? I am a calm very rational person and can't believe she is continuing to lie to me, never in a million years would I have dreamed she was capable of this.
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