EnigmasMuse Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I think its very disturbing and says alot about someone who doesn't consider it a form of rape, and wants to try to make the woman feel bad about what she either did or didn't do about it. OP let us know what you decided and how you are.
Glenguy Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 (edited) What throws me off is that you said you "FOUND" your ex on top of you in the morning. Normally, women don't ususally "FIND" a man on top of them in the morning unless they were getting heavily into the sauce or were sedated by some kind of drug. If you were completely sober, why didn't you fight the guy off and get him to leave as soon as he got on top of you? Sorry, but I find your story full of holes. Separated people don't usually live under the same roof. You should have got the guy out when your "separation" first started. Edited December 10, 2009 by Glenguy
jw90063 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I think its very disturbing and says alot about someone who doesn't consider it a form of rape, and wants to try to make the woman feel bad about what she either did or didn't do about it. OP let us know what you decided and how you are. Yeah only certain people would look at it as normal and not a form of rape. Sounds very strange, and I would stay away from him. He doesn't sound mentally stable in the least.
doushenka Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 Hey, the victim-blaming needs to stop around here. What matters is that yes, adiaz's ex raped her. Agreeing to sleep in the same bed is not consent to sex. Agreeing to cohabit once separated is not only not consent, for some women, it's the only viable option -- if we're not counting homelessness as viable. adiaz: sending love and hope your way, sweetie.
EnigmasMuse Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 I panicked and wanted him off of me, I wanted to scream but the kids were right there. At first I didn't know what to do. Should I pretend to be still sleeping and hope it would be over soon or just fight him off. I did and at first he wouldn't stop, but then he did all the while telling me he loves me and panting like an asswipe. I think the bold part she stated in her original post, said alot. I'm not sure what part people aren't getting from that. I understand you panicked, I think most people would. Hope all is ok and that you and your kids are safe.
Glenguy Posted December 11, 2009 Posted December 11, 2009 Sorry if I was harsh with my comment, Adiaz. I didn't read your post careful enough....my bad.
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