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Being defined by the your ex.....


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I am coming to believe that I used and allowed my ex to define the person I was, and to support a fragile ego and image of my myself....

 

When your with someone who is physically very beautiful (my ex..) it validates your self worth. I was being supported by a beautiful crutch. When it was removed I fell flat on my fragile arse.........

 

Time to start looking internally rather than externally. Through such painful suffering I'm learning so much........

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This is what gets a lot of people... why their "world is falling apart", or why they "lose all hope for love", etc.

 

Making one's happiness or self-worth, etc. contingent upon something or someone external always leads to disaster. It has to come from within.

 

You'll get through it.

 

Cheers

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Read IloveCake's 'Projection' post...

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Read IloveCake's 'Projection' post...

 

Thanks Sean! This is interesting.....

 

I would of never of known myself if I hadn't been so utterly broken....

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i am definately guilty of this. the funny thing is that NOBODY THINKS IT ABOUT but YOU

 

they still love you. a pretty spouse makes you feel good, not people like u better.

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