Ultiman Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Its been 6 weeks since the break up and I feel happy. My sleep has finally returned to completely normal, I feel no anxiety and thinking of her hooking up with another guy no longer makes feel ill. My mood is at the happiest I have felt for a long time even happier than I was when I was with her. Maybe its because during the time I was with her I was also a drug addict which caused me to be sad all the time and now im clean. I feel good that I am no longer hurting her and causing her pain and im happy that she is happy being single. I still think though that moving on this quick could mean that I never truly loved her like I thought I did. Maybe I havent moved on and im just having a really good day which could be followed by another down, but this time this time its different. My life is open and it excites me Talking to other girls and flirting around has really helped a ton. To all my guys out there find a nice girl who makes u feel good quick...
madrugada Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Hey it seems like you're dealing with this in a good way. All the advice on these forums say take care of yourself, and to hear you're staying clean is a good sign. Keep it up, buddy. I'm dealing with the same issues myself, addiction and recovery can be a bitch. I've started going to meetings and it's really helped. Know that you're not alone. I haven't been here long but do yourself a favor and STAY CLEAN. It's not easy, I know, I've been there and I still go to meetings, but you gotta stay clean. Easy for me to say. Not easy for me to take my own advice. But take care.
Author Ultiman Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 Hey it seems like you're dealing with this in a good way. All the advice on these forums say take care of yourself, and to hear you're staying clean is a good sign. Keep it up, buddy. I'm dealing with the same issues myself, addiction and recovery can be a bitch. I've started going to meetings and it's really helped. Know that you're not alone. I haven't been here long but do yourself a favor and STAY CLEAN. It's not easy, I know, I've been there and I still go to meetings, but you gotta stay clean. Easy for me to say. Not easy for me to take my own advice. But take care. O man dont worry i would tell myself the same thing over and over again. All i gotta do is stay clean and i will stay clean for about 2 weeks and my brain would start telling me things like o you have done so good for yourself just one smoke as a reward... Ive learned to watch the warning signs and to understand that if i smoke just one time ive completely relapsed and im gonna smoke again and again and again
madrugada Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Oh yeah I know what you mean. I've been good for so long it's okay to reward myself. But I've learned that can turn into a downward spiral and it leads to more problems in the future. Addiction is a bitch, man. I know exactly where you're at, and I wish I could help, but right now I've got a beer to drink and then I'm going to sleep. When you refer to smoking, what do you smoke? Pot?
Author Ultiman Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 Oh yeah I know what you mean. I've been good for so long it's okay to reward myself. But I've learned that can turn into a downward spiral and it leads to more problems in the future. Addiction is a bitch, man. I know exactly where you're at, and I wish I could help, but right now I've got a beer to drink and then I'm going to sleep. When you refer to smoking, what do you smoke? Pot? Yea pot that was my problem child I could never control myself no matter how hard i tried so i had to just completely give it up hopefully i can forever
DenverBachelor Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Maybe its because during the time I was with her I was also a drug addict which caused me to be sad all the time and now im clean. From one former drug addict to another that went into a relationship with that monkey on your back -- all I can say is that drug addicts that cleaned their **** up have always been the most amazing, wisest and sincere people I know. I see a lot of super intelligent people get lost in drugs because they see things about life that many others cannot. They turn to drugs as a shield against the brutal reality. Unfortunately, that shield becomes a wall when you get into a meaningful relationship. The worst is knowing you are an addict, hiding it from the one you love and one day looking into her eyes and knowing that the addiction destroyed something beautiful. Believe me, I know exactly how you feel.
Author Ultiman Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 Anybody else here have stories were they felt like they moved on way to quick from something very special... and they were dumped cuz the dumper always moves on fast
rickigal Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 I was a freakin mess for a couple of weeks. I did the NC thing after he begged for me back a week after he dumped me but then later regretted that. He texted me a few weeks later, I still kept no contact. Texted me again the next day...saying "Alright hate me then." I texted back "I don't hate you, sorry you think that." Then kept NC again for a while. He then Ime'd me a few weeks later for "ex-sex." It made me realize how he didn't love me anymore and it helped me move on from that day forward. It has been 7 weeks for me and I think about him once a day if that. Breaking NC was the best thing that ever happened to me. I know a lot of people here will not agree with me but that is the only reason I have moved on so quickly. I don't think that you can move on too quickly...I would have done anything not to feel that way anymore and now I don't! I haven't been happier.
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