kyrisma Posted December 16, 2003 Posted December 16, 2003 I would like to ask a question of those who are getting married. If you have made your plans to get married and then a month or two B4 the wedding you found out your fiance has been w/ another woman for the past two years, would you still marry that person? And after the marriage the relationship never ended... I know someone who did just that! Would some of you do the same?
toots307 Posted December 16, 2003 Posted December 16, 2003 I'm not in the midst of planning a wedding but I cannot understand why anyone would still get married to someone that is having an affair - doesn't that defeat the whole idea of marriage?? If the two people are not going to be monogamous (unless they agree on an open marriage) why bother getting married? I don't get it.
Arabess Posted December 16, 2003 Posted December 16, 2003 NO! I would shove the ring up his nose, wrap him up like a feedsack with my veil and throw his sorry A$$ off a bridge!
toots307 Posted December 16, 2003 Posted December 16, 2003 Gee Arabess, Don't sugarcoat it just because it's a public forum - hahahahaahahahahahahaa
SoleMate Posted December 16, 2003 Posted December 16, 2003 No, I'd never do that. I'd do what Arabess said, and then hope he floats so I can use his body for target practice as he drifts away downstream. Reminds me a lot of the Princess of Wales. Apparently she found out just shortly before her wedding that Camilla and Charles were still an item - emotional affair or physical one, I'm not sure which. She wavered, and then went through with it. That was the big mistake of her life.
LaLa Posted December 16, 2003 Posted December 16, 2003 Kyrisma needs as many opinion as possilbe. but the responses seem are the same.
Arabess Posted December 16, 2003 Posted December 16, 2003 It doesn't matter if you did or didn't Kyrisma, I'd still do the same thing to him. Some men DO run around with another woman before they get married to someone else. This kind of man is a complete IDIOT! He makes everyone miserable. The only person he cares about is himself. The two women involved though will end up blaming and fighting with each other instead of ganging up on the REAL AssClown! [color=red]......laughs loudly as SOLE loads the gun.......[/color]
lostforwords Posted December 16, 2003 Posted December 16, 2003 i agree with arabess and sole....... not only would he fly off the damn bridge.... but hed be bungee jumping off with his nuts tied to the rail.............
quankanne Posted December 16, 2003 Posted December 16, 2003 hell, I'd send my big sister and her peenie-smacking 2X4 out after him, that's what *I'd* do ... or duct-tape his privates and tell him to get out of that one! seriously, though, why DO people put up with selfish and cruel behavior? It can't be love, I'm thinking, because the nature of love is not to tear down, but build up. (Princess Di) wavered, and then went through with it I've seen posts here from women who chose to go through with the wedding even though they've been cheated on, given ugly diseases, been treated like sh*t or even beaten, because things have been paid for. I worked with a girl once who felt it was okay to cheat on her husband with his coworker because she was in an abusive marriage and she wasn't happy, but she wasn't about to divorce him because "marriage was sacred." We told her that she should have called it off before she even got close to the altar, and her answer was "the hall was already paid for"! It's less disrupting to call off an engagement or wedding or a relationship if all signs indicate it's not going to work out, but it amazes me how many people just turn a blind eye to it, I guess in the hopes that it'll all work out. Bah! if he can't treat me decently to begin with (or vice versa), then that relationship is just not worth being in.
Author kyrisma Posted December 17, 2003 Author Posted December 17, 2003 Thanks for all of your opinions...I thought I was the only one who thought that was dumbest move ever....
sally1530 Posted June 11, 2004 Posted June 11, 2004 I caught my fiance cheating ( had a profile and picture on lavalife.com) looking for sex and admitted to being on the site the entire 14 month relationship. He told me he was sending pictures to these girls of him and asking for naked pictures in return, he also view live porn sites too. I found this out one month before the marriage, I thought I could forgive him and tried for a few day things seemed good , then he called the wedding off behind my back. I moved out the next day, gave him back the ring and made him pay for the entire wedding $15,000. Hes mad cause he had to pay that money and that I found out the truth about him. He thinks he did nothing wrong other than simple online flirting. You dont advertise your available looking for sex if you engaged to be married to someone in a month. Its just sick. He wont talk to me , he hasnt told any of his friends or family the truth. It doesnt matter, I know what happened so does my family and friends. I guess we cant be friends even atfter alot of time has pasted. I just dont repect him or trust him anymore. He did me a favor .....
Kristina Posted June 11, 2004 Posted June 11, 2004 Heck NO! I mean I totally believe in the whole people make mistakes thing. And I forgave my current boyfriend of 2 years for slipping up one super druken nite, but he knows that if it EVER happened again, he would be kicked to the curb. But that's a BIG diff. from cheating for 2 years and especially while planning a marriage. He would be completely outta my life in a second.
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