stace79 Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 ...is that I know, but more importantly HE knows, that we both still love each other. He's afraid, because I hurt him with some hateful words during bad times and he's scared because due to these circumstances, he didn't realize I could be that way. But he even told me that he knows if he saw me right now, he'd just want to be back together with me because he still loves me. He wanted time apart to let those feelings change... So it pisses me off to no end that after everything we've been through together over the past 3.5 years, he won't at least try one more time. I mean, my God, I gave him two chances. Once when he broke up with me for his ex (after just a couple months of dating him) and then again in April after 2 years and living together. Am I really worth so little to him that I'm not entitled to one second chance?
HeavenOrHell Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 I feel the same, I feel I'm not worth giving a second chance to even though he knows I've made changes for the better, he knows how important he is to me. I've given him 2 second chances as I took him back twice 9 years ago. 18 years. At least your ex would want to be back with you if he saw you. I want my ex to want me but I guess he doesn't. ...is that I know, but more importantly HE knows, that we both still love each other. He's afraid, because I hurt him with some hateful words during bad times and he's scared because due to these circumstances, he didn't realize I could be that way. But he even told me that he knows if he saw me right now, he'd just want to be back together with me because he still loves me. He wanted time apart to let those feelings change... So it pisses me off to no end that after everything we've been through together over the past 3.5 years, he won't at least try one more time. I mean, my God, I gave him two chances. Once when he broke up with me for his ex (after just a couple months of dating him) and then again in April after 2 years and living together. Am I really worth so little to him that I'm not entitled to one second chance?
Author stace79 Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 I feel the same, I feel I'm not worth giving a second chance to even though he knows I've made changes for the better, he knows how important he is to me. I've given him 2 second chances as I took him back twice 9 years ago. 18 years. At least your ex would want to be back with you if he saw you. I want my ex to want me but I guess he doesn't. I suppose we are both in this same sinking ship b/c my ex will not see me. I thought I was getting better, but yet another relapse. Odd thing is, I'm not destitute or horribly depressed in general -- I'm doing well at work, looking at houses to buy, exercising and spending time with friends/family. I just want him to be part of it all like before. I feel like part of me is missing and I won't ever find it again without him. I still have a life and will still be happy about many things, just not as happy as I could be with him sharing my life. I'm sure you understand.
HeavenOrHell Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Aw hun I see a lot of my ex, he wants to see me and we get on so well still, still love each other, but sometimes it is difficult as I wish we could rebuild but don't he will ever want to. Just wish he would love me as a partner again. I did have a busy life (too busy that's why I lost him), but feel lost without him, he was the centre of my world. It's good you're happy in the rest of your life I'm quite busy but it all feels pointless without him, sad I know. I suppose we are both in this same sinking ship b/c my ex will not see me. I thought I was getting better, but yet another relapse. Odd thing is, I'm not destitute or horribly depressed in general -- I'm doing well at work, looking at houses to buy, exercising and spending time with friends/family. I just want him to be part of it all like before. I feel like part of me is missing and I won't ever find it again without him. I still have a life and will still be happy about many things, just not as happy as I could be with him sharing my life. I'm sure you understand.
confused&lost Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 I'm sorry to hear that. I have a similar situation. He broke up with me twice now with lame excuses. I have taken him back both times during our 3 years of dating. You deserve a second chance, I think he just needs time. Perhaps he was just intimidated that you could be that way. And now he feels inferior to the fact that you can act in that way. I think you really just need to be patient and he'll get past it and learn to deal with it, because if it is meant to be, love will survive through anything. It sounds cliche but I am a firm believer in this. Love will make it through because it runs deep and this seems major now, but will soon be a blur in the history of your relationship.
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