ItsAllGoodAgain Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 I have had an overwhelming urge to call my ex these last couple of days. I want to know she's alright. I just want to talk to her. So, I'm talking to you all instead. I hope things are well. Take care of yourselves.
norajane Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 What makes you think that she's not alright? Or is that just an excuse to call her?
Art_Critic Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Hey IAGA... What kind of things do you want to talk to her about ?
Author ItsAllGoodAgain Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 She's a single mother in a new city. She moved up here only a few months ago. Part of the reason was for me. She has been attending school and doing very well. She told me she would always have me to thank for getting her to go back. I just want to know how the semester ended and if she still has the drive to continue. I know she's had some issues with her baby's father. By no means do I want to get into a conversation with her about these issues though. The thing is we were only together for 5 months and have been apart for over 2. I still care for her and wonder about her but I know I don't want to be with her. I just want to see how she's doing.
Art_Critic Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 I just want to see how she's doing. 2 months really isn't enough time to just find out that.. it would come off as a plea to get her back.. even if you tell her it isn't it will still look like that to her.. 5 months goes by in the blink of an eye and honestly is just when a person's guard drops and the real person shines through.. this is why so many breakups happen around the 4-6 month mark. One thing to think about.. she also hasn't contacted you.. right ? It kinda sounds like you were a stepping stone for her in her journey.. nothing wrong with that.. stepping stones are all good.. but you have to be able to see it for what it was..a stepping stone in her life...
norajane Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Sometime people come into our lives for a short time, change them, and move on. It's ok that this happens - not everyone is meant to be linked forever, except perhaps in our memories. It's usually best to let it go once it's gone.
Art_Critic Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Sometime people come into our lives for a short time, change them, and move on. It's ok that this happens - not everyone is meant to be linked forever, except perhaps in our memories. It's usually best to let it go once it's gone. Yeah.. I look back today and can see pieces of my life that were altered by each girl I dated.. even if for a short time.. That is how I got to be me.. and also how I learned what I wanted in a mate and what I didn't want...
Author ItsAllGoodAgain Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 Thanks Art Critic and norajane I have realized that I was just a stepping stone. I knew that would be a possibilty going into the relationship. And yes, I did let my guard done a bit. Enough to fall for the girl. I had loaned her some texts for school as well. Of course I sayed she could use them to complete the semester. She said she would return them when she was finished. I'm not going to call her. Hence the post. I'm not going to ask for the books back either. If she contacts me to return them , then maybe we'll have a little conversation.
4givrnt4gtr Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 IAGA, being a stepping stone hurts and its hard. But you're doing the right thing by letting her go and do her thing. SOunds like she needs to get herself together before even attempting an actual relationship. Your story sounds a lot like mine. I was a stepping stone as well who naively let down her guard way too much. Its ok, we care enough to help another human being reach their goals despite the heartbreak after. We rule
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