9Lives Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 I think about that every morning when I wake up. Why are you leaving me? Why you dont want to be here? What did I not see that was pullling you away from me? I was good to you. I gave you my best. I always tried to make it better. I just dont understand. I tell myself everyday that you are happy with who are with and what you are doing right now. I say that so I can being to accept that this is what you want regardless of what we had. Very painful time. Im trying to move forward but man, i cant believe he is gone. I didnt do anything to him. Just gave him good love...but I guess it wasnt good enough.
sean1970 Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 I'm going through this now. However, reading the book 'No More Mr. Nice Guy', I'm discovering that lasting attraction in a relationship has almost nothing to do with what you did/do for them but what you still did for yourself. If you can only be happy by doing for others, then they control when, and how much, you are.
Kaya Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Even if we do everything that these books tell us to do, it still doesn't guarantee that the other person will love you forever and want to stay with you forever. Sometimes people leave because of their own issues, not because of anything we did wrong. Maybe our ex'es were just not willing or able to accept our love. It doesn't always mean that we are not good enough or that we are the only ones who need to change our behaviours. Sending you a 9lives.
norajane Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 What you do or not doesn't have much to do with how people feel. Sometimes people fall out of love and just aren't feeling it for you anymore. He can't help feeling that you aren't special to him, any more than you can just stop feeling love for him. Neither of you are at fault for how you feel.
Author 9Lives Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 What you do or not doesn't have much to do with how people feel. Sometimes people fall out of love and just aren't feeling it for you anymore. He can't help feeling that you aren't special to him, any more than you can just stop feeling love for him. Neither of you are at fault for how you feel. i guess....feeling change all the time
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