seychelles Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 My ex and I broke up months ago but we still live together, so I have access to his computer. It's been going on since we broke up, and this is what he does: Facebook is his gateway to meeting girls or just learning more stuff about them before getting to know them better. Examples: 1. He meets a girl in class, learns her name by ear, goes home and searches her. His searches are unsuccessful because he doesn't know how to spell her name right. Finally he learns how to spell her name and finds her on facebook. For a couple of days he will visit her FB and looks at her profile, pictures, etc. Then he will think about it and request to be her friend. 2. He checks out his guy friends' page and through these pages he sees their female friends. So he would visit these particular girls' page every day and look at their pictures, go through the albums. [This isn't a one time thing, he really does visit their profile at least once a day.] 3. Finally he messages this one girl trying to get to know her but she responds to his one question [have you seen me around? i'm your roommate's friend] and he replies, but she never responds again. He requested to be her friend but she never confirmed and it's been more than a week, so obvious rejection. My question is, is this activity normal for guys? He does this purely to see if the girl looks compatible, or that he's seen her before and wants to look at her pictures (every day), etc. I think this is such a loser thing to do; am I thinking this way because we broke up or is this normal? Do people value facebook THAT much? Would a real guy, who's trying to meet girls, use facebook for the same reasons he does?
StalledGirl Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 I'd answer the question that you posed but to be honest-STOP OBSESSING over your ex's new love life. It makes YOU sound like the loser and I hate sounding harsh but snooping on him isn't healthy. Concentrate on your own love life. As for stalking potential partners via FB , I guess a lot of people do. I don't have an account thankfully.
bluestraps Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Im glad facebook didint exist a few years ago. Life was much simpler. back When i was a young lad. Once they were gone... they were gone usualy you just got into a fight and it was done
Enema Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 I'd say it's pretty common. Agree with the others that you're as much of a loser as he is with your obsession / snooping.
HeavenOrHell Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 I agree, I think things like fb and texting make it much much worse. Im glad facebook didint exist a few years ago. Life was much simpler. back When i was a young lad. Once they were gone... they were gone usualy you just got into a fight and it was done
JaggedRoad Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Why are you still living with him? I have to ask the same question.
TheLoneSock Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 My ex and I broke up months ago but we still live together, so I have access to his computer. It's been going on since we broke up, and this is what he does: Facebook is his gateway to meeting girls or just learning more stuff about them before getting to know them better. Examples: 1. He meets a girl in class, learns her name by ear, goes home and searches her. His searches are unsuccessful because he doesn't know how to spell her name right. Finally he learns how to spell her name and finds her on facebook. For a couple of days he will visit her FB and looks at her profile, pictures, etc. Then he will think about it and request to be her friend. 2. He checks out his guy friends' page and through these pages he sees their female friends. So he would visit these particular girls' page every day and look at their pictures, go through the albums. [This isn't a one time thing, he really does visit their profile at least once a day.] 3. Finally he messages this one girl trying to get to know her but she responds to his one question [have you seen me around? i'm your roommate's friend] and he replies, but she never responds again. He requested to be her friend but she never confirmed and it's been more than a week, so obvious rejection. My question is, is this activity normal for guys? He does this purely to see if the girl looks compatible, or that he's seen her before and wants to look at her pictures (every day), etc. I think this is such a loser thing to do; am I thinking this way because we broke up or is this normal? Do people value facebook THAT much? Would a real guy, who's trying to meet girls, use facebook for the same reasons he does? Lol yes, he's a loser. Especially the part about hitting up the girl friends of his friends. What a f*ck. Sounds like you made the right move seperating from him... trust me when I say there are 10x better guys out there haha. This guy is creepy and belongs in a weird movie.
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