likestolaugh Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 hi guys, so it's coming up to the 1 year anniversary with my gf (next week)... I'm ashamed to say I haven't had a relationship last this long before... so it's a new situation for me. What kinds of gifts are appropriate for something like this? (It's also close to Christmas so I can't get too expensive). At the moment, all that's planned it going out to dinner at a place she's always wanted to try. (as for our ages... we're in our mid 20's) thanks!!
Pizzaman81 Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 hi guys, so it's coming up to the 1 year anniversary with my gf (next week)... I'm ashamed to say I haven't had a relationship last this long before... so it's a new situation for me. What kinds of gifts are appropriate for something like this? (It's also close to Christmas so I can't get too expensive). At the moment, all that's planned it going out to dinner at a place she's always wanted to try. (as for our ages... we're in our mid 20's) thanks!! Are you good at arts and craft? make her something. Or take her to the first place you met her... if it's online then have her sit in front of a computer and you two can chat online.... (just kidding)
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 I'm a simple gal. Red roses would be fine. Don't have to get all extravagant.
Ruby Slippers Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Make/give her something that evokes the time you were first getting to know each other. We ladies are suckers for that kinda thang.
threebyfate Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 likestolaugh, 'grats on your upcoming first anniversary. Beyond that, I don't have much to offer, since it's difficult to give advice about something as individual as an anniversary gift, for a woman we don't know anything about.
Author likestolaugh Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 thanks tbf! I'll try and think of something that I can make... although cheesy things aren't our kind of thing really... but I'll see what I can do. I've thought of a piece of jewelry that she really likes as well...
threebyfate Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 thanks tbf! I'll try and think of something that I can make... although cheesy things aren't our kind of thing really... but I'll see what I can do. I've thought of a piece of jewelry that she really likes as well...You're welcome. It's really nice to hear the happy stories on LS, since most are doom and gloom. Since you mention jewelry, I can honestly say that for every 1 year anniversary, relationship or marriage, I've received jewelry of some kind, whether costume or more valuable. I mention this, so you can see the trending, from my experience. Perhaps if more women were to state their personal experience, for the gifts received, you can get a better idea of trends.
Mr-T Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 hi guys, so it's coming up to the 1 year anniversary with my gf (next week)... I'm ashamed to say I haven't had a relationship last this long before... so it's a new situation for me. What kinds of gifts are appropriate for something like this? (It's also close to Christmas so I can't get too expensive). At the moment, all that's planned it going out to dinner at a place she's always wanted to try. (as for our ages... we're in our mid 20's) thanks!! Just dont do what my friend did once. Turned up on her door, she was expecting a nice gift. He then pulled out a bottle of lube and had a massive grin. She then slamed the door on his face. Congrats on the 1yr anniversary
Art_Critic Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 For our first dating Anniversary my now wife made a card and took a phrase that we say to one another and made that the phrase on the card.. She took a picture of us in out first public get together and put that inside and cut out a heart on the front of the card so our picture showed thru.. She also made really nice trimming around the edges and did it up.. classy.. The card is displayed today in our living room in a glass cabinet... married now for over 2 years.. and it was my idea to put it there.. sometimes when certain friends come over she turns the card over as the phrase was slightly sexual... Just thought I'd share that.. not that you should do it.. anyhow...
Author likestolaugh Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 You're welcome. It's really nice to hear the happy stories on LS, since most are doom and gloom. Since you mention jewelry, I can honestly say that for every 1 year anniversary, relationship or marriage, I've received jewelry of some kind, whether costume or more valuable. I mention this, so you can see the trending, from my experience. Perhaps if more women were to state their personal experience, for the gifts received, you can get a better idea of trends. And did you enjoy the jewelry? In other words, do you think it was a good idea as a gift? (and yeah, there are so few happy stories here on LS... shame really. But I guess it's expected) Art, I plan on writing her a card/note type thing... I'm not exactly sure what I'm gonna do yet in that regard, but I'll think of something... hopefully it'll turn out to be as meaningful as yours did! (and no I won't be pulling out the lube, Mr. T... not right away anyway. lol.)
threebyfate Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 And did you enjoy the jewelry? In other words, do you think it was a good idea as a gift?Can't complain since I like jewelry. But not every woman does. If your g/f has shown you something and you know she likes it, you can't go wrong with jewelry.
Author likestolaugh Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 oh she loves jewelry. She works at 2 jewelry stores... she put something aside that she really likes, but she really can't afford it anytime in the near future. I thought I'd get it for her.
threebyfate Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 If you're spending on jewelry, make sure you do it within your budget. If she expects you to spend beyond your budget, that's not very reasonable.
threebyfate Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Here's an idea. You can combine with Christmas, as follows: "This is a combination anniversary and Christmas present. I noticed that you really love that piece of jewelry and even though it's a bit much for my budget, I wanted to get you something you wanted, something that you would consider special since it comes from the heart."
Art_Critic Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 I wanted to get you something you wanted, something that you would consider special since it comes from the heart." Then show her the bottle of lube and point to the Christmas Tree I liked your other post TBF.. where you mentioned not spending past your comfort zone.. Likestolaugh.. since she works at a Jewelery store do you think it might be be it boring for her ? I know diamonds are a girls best friend but to me it would be like her working in a flower shop for a living and you bought her a couple of dozen roses.. I'm not saying that it isn't a good idea and since you know her best then your would know what was right..
threebyfate Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Then show her the bottle of lube and point to the Christmas Tree I liked your other post TBF.. where you mentioned not spending past your comfort zone.. Likestolaugh.. since she works at a Jewelery store do you think it might be be it boring for her ? I know diamonds are a girls best friend but to me it would be like her working in a flower shop for a living and you bought her a couple of dozen roses.. I'm not saying that it isn't a good idea and since you know her best then your would know what was right..Oh, I should have added that the combination of the two, would fit into his budget for a combination of both special occasions. It's also a great way not to have to stress about gifts for two occasions, so it's not exactly altruistic advice.
2sure Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 For an aniv. ...especially a first year of dating, it might be sweet to consider this idea: A very good quality picture frame, 5 x 7 size with a picture of the two of you from the past year. Sign the lower right corner with something sweet and your name. Thats a romantic and sentimental gift for the occasion you are recognizing. Save the bling & the bang for XMas.
Author likestolaugh Posted December 12, 2009 Author Posted December 12, 2009 so I wrote her a poem, and instead of jewelry I got her perfume (which she likes even more. It was expensive, but her reaction made it worth it. She didn't do anything for me, but I wasn't expecting anything anyway.
threebyfate Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 so I wrote her a poem, and instead of jewelry I got her perfume (which she likes even more. It was expensive, but her reaction made it worth it. She didn't do anything for me, but I wasn't expecting anything anyway.Why didn't she do something for you and why wouldn't you expect something, for a first anniversary?
Author likestolaugh Posted December 13, 2009 Author Posted December 13, 2009 Why didn't she do something for you and why wouldn't you expect something, for a first anniversary? well we hadn't ever discussed doing anything except going out for dinner. Money's tight for her at the moment... Sure, it would have been nice, but I really don't think she meant anything by it. Seems more like she just didn't think of it.
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 13, 2009 Posted December 13, 2009 Money's tight for her at the moment... I wrote her a poem How much did the poem cost you?
Author likestolaugh Posted December 13, 2009 Author Posted December 13, 2009 yes, well... I sometimes think that she's just not really sure how to behave in these situations... even though she's been in relationships before. We do love each other... I know she loves me. I don't know... I don't want to over think it either.
Author likestolaugh Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 further... I found out that she and her ex's never really did anything for their anniversaries... so that explains it basically. She was however, really touched that I did.
threebyfate Posted December 14, 2009 Posted December 14, 2009 well we hadn't ever discussed doing anything except going out for dinner. Money's tight for her at the moment... Sure, it would have been nice, but I really don't think she meant anything by it. Seems more like she just didn't think of it.Be careful, likestolaugh. Don't get taken advantage of, by the self-centered. BTDT and realized after the fact, that I helped to enable that self-centric attitude. You train people how to treat you.
Author likestolaugh Posted December 14, 2009 Author Posted December 14, 2009 thanks, I will... and in fact this experience had me thinking about that already. She isn't a self-centered person, she's quite caring... but in some ways I can maybe see it getting to that point almost accidentally.
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