thatguy90 Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Well just over a month ago me and my girl friend (well ex-girlfriend) broke up ... well we continued to talk for a bit (Once every few days) ... but usually it was ok ... we didn't fight or anything we would talk about different things. Then after a few weeks I found out that she liked another guy ... I didn't like this a well i voiced my opinion to her.(Since she did say that she was not going to date another guy for a while ... like she was going to go the rest of the year without dating a guy). So then we kinda didn't talk ... i sent her an email saying sorry i got mad at her ... and well then she asked to hang around to talk about it ... so we did ... she started off with saying about the other guy and that she was sorry about it ... i got mad again ... and almost left ... but then she sat me down ... and turned to me and said that i was the perfect guy ... like when i was not sad or anything ... i had gone through a rough time in my life and then she left me just as i was turning around ... so yah ... then another few weeks pass we would talk every few days ... i started talking less and less to her ... then last week ... i talked to her about trying to be friends with this guy ... but i gave up ... i am not going to be his friend ... but anyway we started to talk about this ... then i told her that i was sorry for bringing her down and stuff ... then she turned and said let this go ... then said i should hate her for how selfish she was and I told her that she was giving me mixed messages by saying that i am a perfect guy ... then she said you are the perfect guy ... but right now is that i was just focusing on what went wrong between her and i, and that if i can't stop loving her i can never be fun again. she also said ... "if we are meant to be ... we will get back together ... in the future" After that convo I have stopped talking to her ... Like I understand what she is saying ... I do need to move on ... and not to focus on the negatives in our past ... She does want to be friends, and that she still says that she cares about me, and likes talking to me about anything. I have told her no to the friends thing, for right now because well its that i still like her and its not fair to the both of us if i do. But here is the thing ... how can she say I am the perfect guy ... she says she means it and that she hopes we do get back together in the future ... also she does admit her faults in the relationship, and that if we are meant to be we will get back together in the future. She always thought I was so much better than she could ever hope for, and that I was just lowering my standards to date her ... honestly I told her a thousand time she was a great girl and please note I have been around like she was my first girl friend for say ... but I got to know thousands of girls ... I had chances to date other girls ... i knew the girl well enough but I never dated them because well ... they weren't what I was looking for ... she was ... she was exactly what I had been waiting for. Right now there are moments where i get mad at her and frustrated by what she had done ... and there are moments where I miss her. I have to do a quick thing on the guy she likes ... this guy and her have a history that goes back about 3-4 years. They have been through different things and helped each other through tough times. This guy liked her for about 2.5 years, but she was dating other guys when he liked her. Her boy friend before me, she cheated on her boy friend with this guy. So they 'dated' for a week, and she dumped her other one, but then she went back to her boy friend and dumped the guy. The boy friend and her ended up breaking up and well after a month or so of not dating me and her became close and we started to date and we got really close really fast, she tired hating the guy for me because I never liked the guy(at first i was like ok do what you want to do, but after a while i felt bad because i felt like i was forcing her to do something she didn't wan to do) ... she went about 7 month with out being his friend ... then she asked me if she could be friends with him ... i didn't see an issue with it ... i told her ok friends is fine, just don't constantly talk to me about him. She never did she would say that she hung around with him, and that she talked to him, but she didn't change and we stayed strong. But then everything changed once he bought some chocolates i got mad at him for doing that ... and well that is where it fell apart, she stopped doing different things and made me feel second and stuff. then it leads up to where i am now, confused about what she is saying that i am perfect and stuff. I think that since that everybody would not be happy with her if she dated him since this guy is very selfish and manipulative and wanted to try and get ride of her ex-boyfriend, but he didn't and she says it shows a good side of him. she thinks he is a good guy. I just think she wants to try and date this guy without cheating on anyone and also with out anyone knowing. The guy said no to dating her, and that they should wait at least till next year to even considering to date. I just think she would be happier with the guy ... they are like cousins as she put it ... i just think that they show signs of being a couple ... Also that they have forgiven (I am not sure if he meant it) each other for everything that has happened during there friendship. can anybody give advice to me what to do other than no communication(For a while)? Also tell me what i am feeling?
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