Author sedgwick Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 I would wear a slightly upgraded version of whatever you wore when he first made the moves on you. Ha! A bellydance costume?
Ingenue Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Might I suggest you wear something YOU think you look good in and feel comfortable in and that flatters your figure? Sedgwick, I have to echo this as well. Wear something you want to wear, that you think you look good in. Part of feeling sexy and confident for me is feeling as natural in my outer layer as I possibly can. If I'm not a tube top, short skirt girl, I'm not going to wear one just for a guy because I'll be tugging at the tube top all night and attempting to commandeer a sweater from the nearest concert goer. Be sexy in what you always wear because that's what drummer boy is attracted to - you and the way you carry yourself.
threebyfate Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Hmmm...it's tough to up a bellydancer's costume for sexy and still be clothed. Yup, I'd go with the black dress, if it's cut to flatter your figure.
Author sedgwick Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 What kinds of things does he wear? He's got style but he's not like a pretty boy who spends hours doing his hair or anything. Last time I saw him he was wearing a vintage plaid shirt, jeans, and these awesome black shoes that kind of looked like dressed-up bowling shoes. He has some cool vintage fedoras that get me pretty hot too. Can I just say that he just sent me an email asking if I wanted to go out dancing afterwards? This fella makes me swoon! We're going to dinner first at a gourmet vegan restaurant (ah NYC, where such things exist!) with a fireplace and candles. He used to be vegetarian and has several veg cookbooks on his bookshelves, so he's totally open to meatless dinner. He's an offbeat kinda guy. He has been known to play gigs in a monkey suit.
shadowplay Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 I know you asked me not to respond to your threads, but I just wanted to say that I'm really excited for you and I'm glad I was wrong about Drummer Boy!
pandagirl Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 I like the little black dress idea. What do you think of black dress/colorful stripey tights/black boots/hand-knitted scarf? Oh, and I'll NEVER take the streak out of my hair! I love how it looks with the stitches in my face! I think that outfit sounds cute! . Just make sure the dress is SHORT.
threebyfate Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Here's my honest critique on striped socks, in combination with a black dress. Unless your legs are rail thin, striped socks make them look heavier, since the stripes are horizontal. Add horizontal striped socks, to a black dress that, I'm assuming, is relatively figure hugging, and you're going to get a disconnect with body balance, since plain black automatically slims.
Author sedgwick Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 I know you asked me not to respond to your threads, but I just wanted to say that I'm really excited for you and I'm glad I was wrong about Drummer Boy! Thank you. I appreciate it. I think he and I were just sending each other really mixed signals!
Yukikazi Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Thank you. I appreciate it. I think he and I were just sending each other really mixed signals! Next time just give him your best DDB eyes.. makes things much easier
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 I have a friend here who is a belly dancer, and owns her own shop and sells belly dancing clothing and accessories (among other things). When I see her 'out' socially in the nightlife she will mix in pieces here and there with her regular wardrobe, so that she still has the 'feel' of what she does professionally, without going full on 'costume'. She looks very sexy when she dances, and when she is out and enhancing outfits with things here and there, she carries that 'sexy' vibe with her. I can picture you doing the same. You'll certainly remind him of that other time!
Jerseyboy. Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Has to fit her. I will say this though. I see corporate women all day long. I dont want to see them after work. I like fun girls. I dont feel as if I am what I do for a living, so Im not looking to be with someone who fits that professional mold. A little different, a little interesting, is pretty attractive
kiss_andmakeup Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Here's my honest critique on striped socks, in combination with a black dress. Unless your legs are rail thin, striped socks make them look heavier, since the stripes are horizontal. Add horizontal striped socks, to a black dress that, I'm assuming, is relatively figure hugging, and you're going to get a disconnect with body balance, since plain black automatically slims. Agree. Very few people look good in striped stockings. Not to mention they always tend to remind me of the wicked witch of the west...but that's probably just me. What about textured tights? They're the ones that almost look like lace...they are kind of like fishnets but not skanky...I love them!!
Author sedgwick Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 Lucrezia, I LOVE your Residents icon! Yay! So the date is in five hours and I'm nervous as hell. I think a little retail therapy is in order to take my mind off it! I'm going out to buy a red flower for my hair and matching red lipstick (which he has my full permission to ruin with kisses. )
shadowplay Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Lucrezia, I LOVE your Residents icon! Yay! So the date is in five hours and I'm nervous as hell. I think a little retail therapy is in order to take my mind off it! I'm going out to buy a red flower for my hair and matching red lipstick (which he has my full permission to ruin with kisses. ) I have a date with my crush too in a few hours that I'm also really nervous about. We'll both be fine.
Author sedgwick Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 I have a date with my crush too in a few hours that I'm also really nervous about. We'll both be fine. What are you wearing? Here are the places we're going, in order. It's gonna be a fun night: http://www.blossomnyc.com/site/ http://www.thepit-nyc.com/ http://www.mehanata.com/ Now I just have to figure out how I'm going to keep my hands off him for all that time!!
melodymatters Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 This all sounds great, but I must have missed something. How did you go from him asking for 20 bucks for a lesson and not calling, to this exciting sounding date ?!?
alphamale Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Keep in mind that I'm not a mainstream gal who's going to wear pointy-toed high-heeled shoes. And no hookerwear, either. hmm...thats a shame
Author sedgwick Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 This all sounds great, but I must have missed something. How did you go from him asking for 20 bucks for a lesson and not calling, to this exciting sounding date ?!? We had an actual conversation in which I said, "Do you want to go do something that has nothing to do with drum lessons?" He responded by asking me to go to a show, then added to that "go out dancing after." I said that since he'd planned such an interesting evening and bought the tickets to the show, I'd take him out to dinner beforehand. It's become a bit of an extravaganza!
melodymatters Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Sounds like a promissing start.Dating is so darn hard and confusing, sucks to be back in that world, but here we are, might as well have FUN right ? BTW, I am not a vegetarian even, but that menu was mouth watering ! Yum ! Keep your eyes on what YOU want and need in an R, and like I said, life is too short so have lots of FUN !
Author sedgwick Posted December 4, 2009 Author Posted December 4, 2009 I know, I am so excited to eat at this restaurant! Of course my stomach's been jittery all day, so I'm not hungry. I'm about to smoke a joint so I can hopefully enjoy dinner!!
shadowplay Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 I know, I am so excited to eat at this restaurant! Of course my stomach's been jittery all day, so I'm not hungry. I'm about to smoke a joint so I can hopefully enjoy dinner!! I'm jittery too and still haven't decided what I'm going to wear. What I wouldn't give for a joint. Good luck! We can compare notes/stories later.
tkgirl Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 I like the little black dress idea. What do you think of black dress/colorful stripey tights/black boots/hand-knitted scarf? Oh, and I'll NEVER take the streak out of my hair! I love how it looks with the stitches in my face! definitely wear something you have knitted! no doubt he or someone else will comment on it and you can be all "yeah, I knit it" It's pretty funny how that really seems to impress people... plus it shows your own personal style and your creative side too! have a GREAT time tonight! and I can't wait to hear all the details back here tomorrow
SadandConfusedWA Posted December 5, 2009 Posted December 5, 2009 Let us know how it goes girls.... I must live through you
Author sedgwick Posted December 5, 2009 Author Posted December 5, 2009 Well, it started out as a great evening. We went to dinner and the show and had a lot of fun. He helped me take my coat off, hung it up for me, we had a nice candlelit dinner. Did the whole sitting very close together, some part of our bodies always touching thing. Met up with some friends of his after the show for drinks, got along well with the friends. At one point I said, "My face hurts from laughing so much all night," and he said, "Mine too." And then we left the bar, and we were walking down the street with his friend, and when we got to his train he said, "I'm just going to head on home. You can get yourself home?" Not even the slightest mention of dancing, which I guess hanging out with his friends was supposed to replace. I said, uh, yeah...? His friend looked uncomfortable and perplexed. As, I'm sure, did I. DB hugged me and said, "Good to hang out with you again," and disappeared into the subway station, confused friend in tow. I sent a text and said, "Thanks for the fun evening. So, I'm just going to ask -- was that a date?" That was two hours ago, and I've received no response whatsoever. Not a yes, not a no, not a "hope you got home okay," NOTHING. WTF?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
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