MissingHerBad Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 Quick note: These forums have helped immensely in the past, so im returning to speak of a new relationship. Thanks! As a career, I am a dj. Its been several years since Ive honestly been interested in someone and/or have had a relationship. In May I hooked up with this girl (B) after the club and very shortly after she had broken up with her boyfriend. Months went by and we reconnected randomly on occasion and it became more frequent. Towards the end of summer I decided that I wanted to take a shot at a relationship and started dating a girl (A). Only weeks after that it suddenly dawned on me that this girl (B) I had previously hooked up with was perfect for me. One day I left her a note in a tree letting my feelings out in which this 'girl' went and got. She said it made her cry and from then on we have been working towards (just over a month) this point which we have decided will now be a relationship. Since the beginning she has been super passive but seems to be growing into it slowly and communication has been opening up. When we are together it is awesome and she claims I'm her fave. I know she puts on a little bit of a front and stays strong around me because I am a dj and she does from time to time think that Im just really smooth as she has expressed. Heres where Im getting hung up. While I know she talks to about me to her close friends and she's had to put up with some other friends who had feelings for me as well, I often wonder what she's thinking. She adds tons of guys friends to her FB, many snowboarders as she works on a mountain and loves snowboarding. She has several fun pictures of her kissing guys on the cheek but any of me have been untagged. The other night when we were sleeping, someone called three times in a row at 530 in the morning which she ignored. Generally when Im not with her the most we do is txt, not a lot of phone communication and the other day we had a discussion about her working on the mountain and how she didn't have anytime for anyone else but me and that I have nothing to worry about (kinda outta the blue as I wasn't prying). Yesterday I also noticed that she took down a bunch of pictures but when flipping through the ones she still had up, towards the end I found I couple of her kissing her ex that were tagged true love. They are no longer friends on FB but none the less it makes me wonder - not necessarily about them but her present state of mind. I like her deeply and she has expressed the same. Should I stop tripping out and let this grow or do I have reason to be concerned? Am I letting Facebook manipulate my thinkings? Thanks again.
sedgwick Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 Wait, I'm confused...is this girl A or girl B?
Author MissingHerBad Posted December 2, 2009 Author Posted December 2, 2009 Girl B ... I gave up A to be with B
boogieboy Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 You have nothing to worry about. Sometimes it takes months for a girl to put up pics of her new bf. Take it easy, let her actions while shes with you determine things. Does she act like she isnt as into you as she once was? Is her attraction for you growing as she opens up? You are getting deeply involved when you are obsessing over her facebook. You know better than this. Take a step back adn enjoy her company. If she starts to lose feelings for you, you will instinctively know. So dont panic.
trueblue72ny Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 It sounds like you should just chill and let it happen on its own. One day at a time. At least that is what it sounds like from my perspective. I personally think facebook can be a destructive force in relationships. My new girl has a FB account. I do not. I do not want one. I do now know what hers looks like, who she has on there, etc., etc., and I do not want to know! because of reasons you and everyone else talk about! why upset myserlf over nothing? And if it turns out to be something, than I am not aggravating myself by looking at it. Good luck!
Author MissingHerBad Posted December 12, 2009 Author Posted December 12, 2009 Thanks for your help. I took everyones advice and just chilled. We've been having a great time. The other night we had a conversation about how we miss each other when we're not around. Today I was supposed to meet her after her docs appointmentb... she txt me saying her doc got a call and they she would have to wait not knowing how long it would be. I said cool and that if she was feeling up to it, I would come pick her up after. I didn't hear anything back but can see that she is on FB msg people. Is this girl protecting herself from something or playing games. One minute she says shes crazy about me the next she can't be bothered to tell me whats up?? Please help
boogieboy Posted December 12, 2009 Posted December 12, 2009 she txt me saying her doc got a call and they she would have to wait not knowing how long it would be. I said cool and that if she was feeling up to it, I would come pick her up after. I didn't hear anything back but can see that she is on FB msg people. That is really suspicious. Start to distance yourself from her. When she doesnt call you back after leaving the doctor, that means she didnt want to see you. Distance yourself now.
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