i sent him a mean and bitchy text yesterday, what do i do now?

[TapiocaDexterin]

Do I apologise or just leave it?

[DustySaltus]

The problem with sending a text like that is when he responds with complete silence you are left alone with your thoughts. Stick to NC, find other outlets for your anger.

[Island Girl]

He is your EX.

 

You do what you should have done all along. NOTHING.

 

And if he responds - you still do nothing.

 

You will constantly be back a square one in your "recovery" if you keep having contact.

 

Let it -- and him -- go and begin moving on.

[TaraMaiden]

A closed mouth gathers no foot.

 

The next time you want to send a bitchy text, write it on a window you fog up with your breath.

I think you'll find they're easier to deal with.

 

 

I can't believe how many double threads this poster has put up.... Aren't they frowned upon, here?

[TapiocaDexterin]

 

I can't believe how many double threads this poster has put up.... Aren't they frowned upon, here?

 

Why not just address that comment to me, rather than to other posters?

 

Snide comments are frowned upon everywhere.

[Island Girl]

Why not just address that comment to me, rather than to other posters?

 

Snide comments are frowned upon everywhere.

 

Multiple threads about the same issue within minutes of each other?

 

Rest assured the answers you get will be the same whether on one thread or another. So why do it?

 

And again - don't contact your ex anymore. You aren't doing yourself any favors.

[TapiocaDexterin]

Island Girl, I didn't know it was something that wasnt to be done, I am aware now.

 

Still, on a forum like this there is no need for snide commenta from members like TaraMaiden.

 

This was started as a supportive community, am I wrong?

 

A simple heads-up would have sufficed.

[Island Girl]

This was started as a supportive community, am I wrong?

 

A simple heads-up would have sufficed.

 

Yes it is a supportive community. And if someone takes the time to answer on a thread that is supportive (generally speaking).

 

There are community guidelines because the moderators have a tough enough job and multiple threads have been found to be a problem in more ways than one.

 

 

Now back to your text to your ex.

 

I would advise writing on paper - and destroying it never mailing it.

 

Get a NC Buddy - there is a thread here somewhere about that - or it has been so long you can start your own to ask for someone out there in the same boat.

OR your NC Buddy can be someone you know - or a few people.

But these are people who you reach out to instead of your ex - who keep you from doing it.

 

Or post here - and let your fingers fly! Just please keep it simple -- it is easier for the rest of us who are here to try to give support.

[TapiocaDexterin]

Get a NC Buddy - there is a thread here somewhere about that - or it has been so long you can start your own to ask for someone out there in the same boat.

 

thats a great idea, i might try that, thanks.

 

I understand now about the double posting, but I do think that TaraMaiden didn't have to leave a snide comment in a forum like this.

 

Thats not clever.

 

Thanks for your reply

[ann09]

Oh been there - done that. I have sent so many texts that I just want to erase as soon as I've pressed "send". Sucks. I am not sure if you should ignore it or apologize as I don't know your situation.

[LexiB]

leave it alone. sending a message will only make you look unbalanced babe. time to move on.

[mmk1]

Definitely leave it alone. They know where you stand and you know where they stand. Its up to them to come back but begin living your life right now as if you will never see them again. That is best for you!