Feeling a little sad that i'm getting over him...

[Nikki Sahagin]

I'm not really counting how long its been anymore but its been over half a year....from going several months without seeing we had seen three times at social functions. At first seeing him made the sensations of missing him worse but then it helped me heal MUCH MORE QUICKLY. He wasn't as attractive to me, not as funny...though there were still moments when I was attracted to him and amused by him and I am aware that I still love him...but i'm not sure that that means I want to be with him. I do know that I am getting over him.

 

However sometimes that makes me feel sad instead of proud. I was SO crazy about him and for that to disapear almost makes me not believe in love? I mean if love was real, it would never go away, you wouldn't get over it right? It makes me change my view on love. I mean if these feelings fade away (which is necessary for me to be happy if he doesn't want me) then that means love can leave us and that makes me sad. Although obviously I don't want to always be in love with him and suffer, I guess its taught me something about love that knocks the romantic idealist right out of me!

 

Anyone else sometimes struggle with this?

[teanoranges]

I feel this too all the time recently.

I thought love was this amazing grand awesome unstable thing.

I thought he was everything. He brought good out of me. He made me really know how much I loved myself as well.

I didn't think it was possible to get over him.

 

Now that he's with someone else and in love with her, I feel that that love wasn't real, or at least wasn't the kind of love I thought.

It makes it worse that he was talking this way too! about love coming and going and not sure what to believe. it breaks my heart to agree with him now.

 

I miss him sometimes, but its fading so quickly, its scary too.

I'm not interested in love at all right now, and that's okay.