MinTea Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 A mutual friend of my ex and myself is planning a party for next week. I don't know if he's going... I just know he's invited. I kind of doubt that he'll go since he hasn't gone to any of the parties put on by this friend in the past. It's a long drive for him. Anyway, I've only been cold-turkey-NC for 2 1/2 weeks. It's been a little over a month since the break. Do I go? I really don't know how I would react if he was there. I have a feeling that he would avoid me, and I'd do the same in return. (which kills me) Or should I just not go? It does seem pathetic that I'll let the prospect of him POSSIBLY being there get in the way of having a good time with my friends but I can't quite tell if I'd be able to handle seeing him in person right now. I mean, what if he DOES show? I thought that I was feeling strong with NC. But when I started typing this post, I looked back at the calendar to see when I officially started NC, and I thought, "2 1/2 weeks, THAT'S IT?" It feels so much longer than that. Maybe I'm not as tough as I thought. What do you guys think?
Boundary Problem Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 If it is at the point that you are doing NC for your own health/peace of mind. I wouldn't go. There are other parties. You don't want to go into a tailspin and ruin your xmas. Put it this way, if you have to ask.....you already know there is a problem
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