Colt2187 Posted December 16, 2003 Posted December 16, 2003 When should I ask a girl on a date? I haven't talked to this girl yet but when I do and pick up some positive signals when shoul I ask her? I would find it weird if I didn't know anything about her and asked her on a date. So should I do this: (First time talking to her on the bus) Say hi and start up a conversation, hopefully the conversation will carry through until her stop comes and ask for a phone number or screen name. And after I talk to her on the phone or online when do I ask her out? I don't know if this will affect anything but what would a girl like better, talking on the phone, or talking online. I'm shy and I have a gut feeling that she's shy too. My instincts tell me to get her screen name. Thanks in advance
Author Colt2187 Posted December 16, 2003 Author Posted December 16, 2003 A thing that I forgot to add is what happens if I start talking to her on the bus while I'm sitting next to her and the conversation goes dead? And I should be making eye contact with her and smiling right? Should I be complimenting her, for example her hair etc.
dyermaker Posted December 16, 2003 Posted December 16, 2003 I don't know if this will affect anything but what would a girl like better, talking on the phone, or talking online. I'm shy and I have a gut feeling that she's shy too. My instincts tell me to get her screen name. Both are good methods of communication, but for the important stuff, stay away from the internet. It's more meaningful to talk to someone on the phone or face-to-face, and even though it might make you uncomfortable, she'll pick up on your efforts. what happens if I start talking to her on the bus while I'm sitting next to her and the conversation goes dead? Tell her that you enjoyed talking to her, and move to a different seat. It'll make you seem like you always have something to stay, and will give her time to think about you--if she wants to keep talking, she'll let you know. And I should be making eye contact with her and smiling right? No. You should stare down at your shoes and have the countenance of a mortician.
Author Colt2187 Posted December 16, 2003 Author Posted December 16, 2003 No. You should stare down at your shoes and have the countenance of a mortician. lol I'll try that Tell her that you enjoyed talking to her, and move to a different seat. It'll make you seem like you always have something to stay, and will give her time to think about you--if she wants to keep talking, she'll let you know. There's a problem w/ that, my bus is always crowded so I can't really switch seats and if I make an attempt to talk to her I would rather be in the same seat than in a seat behind or in front of her.
dyermaker Posted December 16, 2003 Posted December 16, 2003 There's a problem w/ that, my bus is always crowded so I can't really switch seats and if I make an attempt to talk to her I would rather be in the same seat than in a seat behind or in front of her. It was more advice for the general talking-to-her situations, that, when you've got nothing to stay, be the mystery man and leave. Obviously, don't run across the bus and stand up just to avoid her, try to think of ways to make the conversation last longer. Questions, Favorites, whatever.
Author Colt2187 Posted December 17, 2003 Author Posted December 17, 2003 So when should I ask her out on a date?
Author Colt2187 Posted December 17, 2003 Author Posted December 17, 2003 That's a good question to think about. I didn't even get a chance to talk to her yet b/c she hasn't been on the bus b/c she's in a winter sport. I only have tomorrow and thurday to talk to her before my winter break begins. I have a 20% chance to see her on the bus. I see her at church too and she looks back if she knows I'm there but meeting during mass would seem odd, and I can't see her after b/c I don't think her dad would appreciate it. Maybe it's not the right time....... Well from the signs I picked up I think I have a...... 55% chance of her saying yes, maybe 65% at the most. She's been giving me signs for a year and a half and only noticed this year, so she might have lost interest in me, (hopefull not) but I won't know until I talk to her. *Sigh* ......... there's a time and place for everything and this week has taught me a lot of patience. It's painful to know that she was interested in me and now that I actually picked up the signs and want to talk to her she's not there.
dyermaker Posted December 17, 2003 Posted December 17, 2003 I love your mathematical analysis of the situation, but don't ask her out on a date unless you've talked with her before, just my opinion.
Author Colt2187 Posted December 17, 2003 Author Posted December 17, 2003 lol, math is my best subject So I should talk to her for like a week and then ask her out?
dyermaker Posted December 17, 2003 Posted December 17, 2003 Well, I'd talk to her, and analyze the mathematical signals of her words. If you notice an interest level between 75-100%, ask her to do something with you at the end of the conversation. Note that an interest level is calculated by the absolute value of square root of the number of signals she's sending you divided by double her median attitude, quantified again, in how she's responding to your lead. But, that's my personal equation, assess how you'd like
Author Colt2187 Posted December 17, 2003 Author Posted December 17, 2003 lol I might have to adopt that equation. Where would be a good first date? Movies, and if so what type of movie? Thanks for all your help, I really appreciate it
dyermaker Posted December 17, 2003 Posted December 17, 2003 Asking her to the movies is always a good idea. I'm shying away from movie-dates right now because I'm not interested in anything that's playing. It's a disappointing Christmas movie blitz season, imho.
Author Colt2187 Posted December 17, 2003 Author Posted December 17, 2003 I was thinking the same thing. But a really good movie I saw was The Last Samurai a great movie. I thought it was going to suck but was impressed.
Author Colt2187 Posted December 17, 2003 Author Posted December 17, 2003 THe movie is about tom cruise learning about the japanese culture particularly "the way of the samurai" and he eventually falls in love w/ a Japanese girl. And of cousre there's fighting and what not, but it's like part action and part drama. So I guess it's not really a movie a girl would like. That brings up a good question, what type of movies do girls like? (This is probably a no brainer, but just making sure I'm right , my guess is romantic movies like a walk to remember)
dyermaker Posted December 17, 2003 Posted December 17, 2003 Maybe you should talk to her, and ask what she likes, yeah?
Author Colt2187 Posted December 17, 2003 Author Posted December 17, 2003 good idea, but still haven't got a chance to talk to her yet. She hasn't been on the bus all week and tomorrow is the last day I might have a chance to see her. How would I approach her at church? If she looks at me a couple of times should I signal her to the back or something like that?
SuperMonk Posted December 25, 2005 Posted December 25, 2005 THe movie is about tom cruise learning about the japanese culture particularly "the way of the samurai" and he eventually falls in love w/ a Japanese girl. And of cousre there's fighting and what not, but it's like part action and part drama. So I guess it's not really a movie a girl would like. That brings up a good question, what type of movies do girls like? (This is probably a no brainer, but just making sure I'm right , my guess is romantic movies like a walk to remember) I bet you're a nerdy white boy trying to game on an asian girl. 1
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