atlast3 Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 Ever been doing okay and then someone mention's your ex or asks about them?Did you suddenly remember a memory or find something that was given to you from them or find their belongings or anything about that person and it just hurts?
McGrupp Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 yes. i just had to get out christmas decorations and had to walk past all the bags of crap i got from her apt. i stowed in the basement. ugh.
Deegee Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 It used to...(hurt, that is...), then I realized that I was giving him too much just by paying attention to it. Then I read somewhere that if I needed to get over him, and the hurt thoughts, feelings, and memories, then I needed to (seriously): A. Give it to God and #2 Ask God to break the emotional bond between me, and him. I was just so ready to move on.,....he was just not coming back, and I needed to make peace with that, and move on....without him. You can't make people stay...if they want to leave, let them. I know that there's someone out there deserving of me, and someone that WILL stay. It's healthier in ths place now, and when the memories threaten to over take me, I just don't allow myself to go back there...what's the point. Onward brave soldier!!!!! Someday you'll be here too, I'll be praying for you!!:)
j_cali_man Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 What a great reply Degee. I give it to God and then keep taking it back. Ughhh. yes, the memories are all over the place since our lives were quite intertwined. Acutally praying to give back to God, and run the opposite way. J
MinTea Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 Yea... I've had people asking about my ex. I understand that it's not their fault for not knowing that we broke up, but it does sting. Also... I found a little gift that I bought my ex for our first year anniversary a few days ago. It was some hershey kisses that were wrapped in shiny tissue paper and made to look like a rose. I had hid it really well and totally forgot about it. It really ruined my day when I found it. I tore it up and threw it in the trash and cried. These things happen. They'll slow down your healing a bit but you just have to keep moving on.
ItsAllGoodAgain Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 In the beginning it seemed as if the hurt would never go away. It seemed that I would never feel "okay". But as the days past I began to feel okay but something always brought me back to the pain. Now I feel fantastic most of the time and the hurt is gone. I am reminded of her every now and then but its not pain I feel. I miss her sometimes and wonder how she's doing, but I am happy with where I'm at. I don't need her to feel this way. Most of us wish love had a switch and we could just turn it off when things go wrong. As we all know love doesn't. However, love has a dimmer and in time it will fade as well as the pain.
Ilovecake Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 yup for the last two months I was sure I was done and done, until yesterday then I got sad again. Today however I feel much better. It must have been the full moon.
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