PinkToes Posted January 18, 2010 Share Posted January 18, 2010 Me three...but I try not to let it affect how I live my life... Yeah, you just gotta keep doing everything you possibly can to move forward, and hope it all kicks in eventually. Sometimes it just takes as long as it takes... Link to post Share on other sites
thepulse27 Posted January 18, 2010 Share Posted January 18, 2010 This has to be the hardest question I've ever tried to answer. There are so many conflicting emotions inside me now that sometimes I think it would be better if she didn't try, as I don't know how I'd handle it. She wasn't good enough to me a lot of the time. Even loving relationships require hard work and sacrifice, and it always seemed to be me doing the running and making the sacrifices. And when it was her turn to make one, she ran away. There is also the way she has conducted herself during and since she broke up with me. I've lost a lot of respect for her, and I have a lot of anger and jealousy to deal with before I could face her again. But having said all of that, I love her. We were incredible together, in every way. And being that close to someone was so special to me that i don't know if I could say no if it came my way again. I want to believe that I COULD say no, and that I WOULD demand so much more before I let her into my life again. But I don't know how strong I'd be if it ever became a real choice. (but the advice I find on here would help a great deal - its whats keeping me strong right now.) Link to post Share on other sites
now_what Posted January 19, 2010 Share Posted January 19, 2010 After being dumped for another woman after 30 years of marriage - 3 children, 2 grandchildren - would I take him back? No, I would not, the hurt is too great, the pain too deep. It's been 16 months since he left, 9 months since we divorced, 8 months since he remarried. He lives over 80 miles one way from his job, in a little rural town, in an old rundown house with his little hillbilly biker woman, it just can't be everything he ever dreamed of. I had a dream about him the other night. In my dream he came to me and said his new marriage was not working out and I responded by saying "Is that supposed to mean something to me, because it does not." Link to post Share on other sites
Oh Moe Posted January 19, 2010 Share Posted January 19, 2010 My ex and I again had a run in yesterday, my 12 year old set it up behind my back and she was so nice it was sickening. She talked like we never broke up, she started to talk old times and I just laughed and she said what was so funny and I said you. This women treated me like common trash after three years of being treated like an Angel. I will admit she has cleaned herself up since our last run in only a few days earlier but she's still hanging with druggies. I want no part of her and my daughter and I had a long talk last night so now she's depressed again. Some of what she did was truly amazing though for a 12 year old. My heart aches for her. Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted January 19, 2010 Share Posted January 19, 2010 I would not take my EX back but I would take back the coffee grinder. I've got like two and a half pounds of quality whole bean just sitting in the cupboard. Link to post Share on other sites
DustySaltus Posted January 19, 2010 Share Posted January 19, 2010 I would not take my EX back but I would take back the coffee grinder. I've got like two and a half pounds of quality whole bean just sitting in the cupboard. Damn, what a waste Link to post Share on other sites
Oh Moe Posted January 19, 2010 Share Posted January 19, 2010 I would not take my EX back but I would take back the coffee grinder. I've got like two and a half pounds of quality whole bean just sitting in the cupboard. LOL that's hilarious; My ex also has a few things of mine, a french press and also some pretty expensive beans, a white hat that's over 20 years old a motorcycle helmet liner. She just said no. LOL But she's been calling now but I don't want anything to do with her. again today a text and call, tring to be sweet as hell. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
bluewolf17 Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 How many of you, that have been broken up for 3 months or more, would take your ex back if they came back today? I had to think about it for some time... As hurt as I am, as often as I think about her, I don't know that I could. Too much has changed; too much has happened. I don't think I could look at her the same way. It would have to be something new with her and I don't know that I could ignore what has happened since to give it a chance. You? I was broken up with my BF for nine months. We got back together in December . Best thing I have ever done. Link to post Share on other sites
ginyi1111 Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 I was broken up with my BF for nine months. We got back together in December . Best thing I have ever done. Gah!! How did you do it? Link to post Share on other sites
ditched Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 YES! YES! YES! in a heartbeat. well...let me slow down.... YES, i would, in a heartbeat, try the relationship again. I would still ease into it as best as i could, as if she was a new Girlfriend. I would try to be the best boyfriend i could be, focusing on doing right all the things i did wrong the first time. But i would expect the same from her. If the effort isn't mutual, it would be a short-lived reunion. that being said...I really really hope that we reconnect. (though i know, as far as healing goes, this sort of thinking isn't very healthy) Link to post Share on other sites
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