sean1970 Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 How many of you, that have been broken up for 3 months or more, would take your ex back if they came back today? I had to think about it for some time... As hurt as I am sometimes, as often as I think about her, I don't think I could. Too much has changed; too much has happened. I don't think I could look at her the same way. It would have to be something new with her and I don't know that I ignore what has happened since to give it a chance. You?
Author sean1970 Posted December 1, 2009 Author Posted December 1, 2009 Meant to put this in Coping... my bad...
altheaespigar Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 I guess it depends. If for the past 3 months that we have been separated, he did not have a girlfriend then maybe I can take him back. But if he had, I don't think I can give him a chance. Things would a little bit awkward already.
Fluffsticle Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 I think when you love someone, then nothing else matters. What has happened since you broke up doesn't matter anymore. As long as they always treated you right when together. Then if you love them all thst'd important is you being with them. I would be scared to take my ex back, although he never hurt me. I would give it another go rather than live with the regret of not having done.
Vampire Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 5 months and 3 days later? In a heartbeat. Part of me is still hoping for the ultimate Xmas present.
MassEmotions14 Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 As much as I would like to be strong enough to say "no"... at this point (I'm just about 3 weeks out)... I think I would say "yes"... on numerous conditions. I think we would have to take things on SUPER slow. I believe that what is supposed to happy will happen... so I need to keep an open heart and open mind, but at the same time I need to be realistic, heal my heart and continue to try to move on without holding onto hope that he will return. For my situation, this is his second time breaking up with me (once after 6 months, and this time broke off our engagement), so I honestly feel like he doesn't have it in him to do all the work to win my heart back... and the hearts of all those that love me (friends and family). But - one never knows...
billy356 Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 Well I will answer both yes and no, but to two different situations... For the most recent ex it would actually be a HELL NO. We were together for 5 years and started a business together. One day she said she wanted to go home (3500 miles away), 3 days later she was gone with a poof. Left all of her responsibilities, told me I would "figure it out" and ran off to another guy. SO, understandable that I wouldnt consider talking to her again much less getting back together. NOW, look at the ex previous to that and I say yes. She is a girl I fell for first in 1997 and we always found each other over the years. Head over heels for this girl. The last breakup was kinda bad and hurtful but it was really bad timing. Fast forward 5 years (after the **tch left) and we have reconnected, she is coming to visit, and all the old emotions are there for both of us. We are older and wiser and more aware of ourselves. I would take her back in a heartbeat and there is a good possibility that we may finally get the chance we both hoped we would someday have. So it all depends on the situation. In the first few months it is rarely a good idea, but as time passes, if the emotions are there for both people and both people are able to process the journey each person took separately while you were apart, then there is a chance. It isnt common, and I value my opportunity now as I know she does too. There is no guarantee that it will work out, and there is potential for heartbreak. But we have always had a very strong bond so who knows.... You will only be able to tell when time gives you the perspective of objectivity. Then and only then will you be able to make the decision with your heart AND your mind.
Beeotch Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 How many of you, that have been broken up for 3 months or more, would take your ex back if they came back today? I had to think about it for some time... As hurt as I am sometimes, as often as I think about her, I don't think I could. Too much has changed; too much has happened. I don't think I could look at her the same way. It would have to be something new with her and I don't know that I ignore what has happened since to give it a chance. You? Nope... Me taking him back would be under very stringent conditions, namely he made some miraculous change and there was this overwhelming change of heart that lead me to truly believe him and believe things could work. He has surfaced and said he misses me and wants me to trust him again so I take that to mean he may want another chance...however, I'm not having it just like that. It is not gonna be an easy feat as way too much happened and I have ZERO trust in him so in short: taking him back would mean he exhibited EXCEPTIONAL and TRANSPARENT change and the sincerity and persuasion was very blinding...otherwise, while I love him, I'd rather walk away.
trueblue72ny Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 i wanted to take her back for about a year. i do not want to now. meeting someone new i like helped me move on. it was only then i was able too. but guess what? i like her better. so i am glad. but IF i was to consider taking back my ex, same thing as beeotch. it would have to be under some very stringent conditions. a significant, sustained improvement in a number of catagories. and guess what? that is NEVER going to happen. so i dont have to worry about it anyway. she does not have it in her to go as far out on that limb for me, as i did for her. that and trust. it always comes down to trust. funny how that works out.
Beeotch Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 i wanted to take her back for about a year. i do not want to now. meeting someone new i like helped me move on. it was only then i was able too. but guess what? i like her better. so i am glad. but IF i was to consider taking back my ex, same thing as beeotch. it would have to be under some very stringent conditions. a significant, sustained improvement in a number of catagories. and guess what? that is NEVER going to happen. so i dont have to worry about it anyway. she does not have it in her to go as far out on that limb for me, as i did for her. that and trust. it always comes down to trust. funny how that works out. That's how I feel about my ex too. Iunno...he might surprise me...but I feel as though what it is going to take, he would/will not do it.
EskimoPassingBy Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 My heart wants her back. My logic tells me different. While I love her so deeply and every moment without her feels strange; Second tries are always different. Shes broke my heart once, she can do it a second time. Either way, her feelings are gone. Right now, its like the times are rewinded to before we started dating. We are still quite close, but we will never be together as a couple anymore.
deux ex machina Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 I wish him well - but never, ever in a million years.
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