Spectre Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 No offense but what a load of crap, she hasn't lowered herself at all. Cheating is only bad if the other person doesn't deserve it, it's THAT simple. No, she has lowered herself. Cheating is always bad, unless you cheating will somehow save the entire human race from an alien invasion or something dumb like that, there is no excuse. Boyfriend not paying attention to you? Talk to him about it or end the relationship, it's that simple. You're just not in love with your boyfriend or have a crush on someone else? Leave your bf before doing anything, don't be selfish and go out banging some dude..you just come off looking skanky. Boyfriend treating you like crap? Leave him, don't lower yourself down to his level. If this chick was so above it all, she would of just gotten out of the relationship when it got bad.
ALLIE C Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 I'm going through something similar right now. I have been with my bloke for 6 years almost and i'm 22, I made a mistake for the first time 3 months ago when I was drunk. He was away every weekend with his friends going away for weeks at a time without me and I got lonely, went out with some friends to a party and someone I worked with happenned to be there. I didn't even fancy them but I was getting attention I'd missed from my relationship. I ended up going back with them- WHAT AN IDIOT. I was so drunk I didn't realise how bad I would feel afterwards. I didn't have sex and thats not to say he didn't try! But the guilt has tormented me ever since, I confessed the next day.. explained everything that happenned and he forgave me. It killed me knowing i'd hurt him so much and the problem stared me in the face at work but I got on with things and got over it. A few days ago I went out to a party and ended up gettin off with my m8 (female lol) - we were just messing around but my bf is getting ideas if u know what I mean!!! I feel everthing is slipping away ... I don't want to loose him I just want it back the way it was.
Author mazza121 Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 I'm going through something similar right now. I have been with my bloke for 6 years almost and i'm 22, I made a mistake for the first time 3 months ago when I was drunk. He was away every weekend with his friends going away for weeks at a time without me and I got lonely, went out with some friends to a party and someone I worked with happenned to be there. I didn't even fancy them but I was getting attention I'd missed from my relationship. I ended up going back with them- WHAT AN IDIOT. I was so drunk I didn't realise how bad I would feel afterwards. I didn't have sex and thats not to say he didn't try! But the guilt has tormented me ever since, I confessed the next day.. explained everything that happenned and he forgave me. It killed me knowing i'd hurt him so much and the problem stared me in the face at work but I got on with things and got over it. A few days ago I went out to a party and ended up gettin off with my m8 (female lol) - we were just messing around but my bf is getting ideas if u know what I mean!!! I feel everthing is slipping away ... I don't want to loose him I just want it back the way it was. hi u have to sit down and really talk bout wat lead to things going wrong and see if u can change it and make it better.. tell him everything and ask him to forgive and make fresh start and point out ur reasons and problems ,,, i understand as im trying to work it out but my bf promised to change and said he will forgive me but he still dont make me feel wanted so the problem is there still.
Author mazza121 Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 I see no point on why the SO should be worrying about cheating on a dirty SOB, piece of trash he is. I would be a big difference if the man she was with was nice and never did anything to disrespect her but this scumbag...LOL... I would not apologize to that loser either. There is nothing to apologize to him, he deserves none... ty ,, im really trying , and i no staying with him is wrong and i was wrong to cheat but i was so hurt and fact is still am as nothing has changed
Author mazza121 Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 Yup, there's nothing wrong with her cheating at all, the cunt deserves it. OP, show him no respect. Consideration while generally required of decent people, isnt a mandate. The need for which can be negated by the actions of another. A person is generally deserving hypothetically of a breakup in person. An absuive mate is not Fidelity is a general requirement within a relationship. I feel she owes this individual no such respect. Respect for herself is a seperate matter. And clearly she needs to work on her. But guilt over "cheating" on this dirtbag is not an issue I would add to her priorities ty for all advice and ty to jerseyboy too , i think i no wat to do now. as only one way ,, i do love him to bits but things will never change as i will all ways think deep down he dont love me and want me and that means it wont get no better ..
Happy Guy Posted December 9, 2009 Posted December 9, 2009 ty for all advice and ty to jerseyboy too , i think i no wat to do now. as only one way ,, i do love him to bits but things will never change as i will all ways think deep down he dont love me and want me and that means it wont get no better .. Listen! I was married for 20 years should have left after 15.I never cheated.Felt strongly about not cheating so I stayed out of harms way by the grace of God.That said if I experienced what you experienced I would have strayed with the first person who showed me a wisp of love and affection.You are human and most humans dealing with what you were dealing with would have strayed.It is easy to give advice and say the best descision rather than seek another was to just dump the guy and try to move on.Staying sounds way more lonely than being alone. Take a time out and just sit and think about loving yourself and think about how you are capable of loving and know you can have that with the right man.If you decide to dump him it may take a few months but the pain will subside and you will ultimately feel better than in some time.btw if I were to meet someone who experienced what you did I would really not feel this person is a cheating risk.Tou are no cheater!You may have some self esteem issues and you may need to love yourself more fully but you are no cheater!Love yourself and move forward and be happy,you deserve it!
Author mazza121 Posted December 9, 2009 Author Posted December 9, 2009 Listen! I was married for 20 years should have left after 15.I never cheated.Felt strongly about not cheating so I stayed out of harms way by the grace of God.That said if I experienced what you experienced I would have strayed with the first person who showed me a wisp of love and affection.You are human and most humans dealing with what you were dealing with would have strayed.It is easy to give advice and say the best descision rather than seek another was to just dump the guy and try to move on.Staying sounds way more lonely than being alone. Take a time out and just sit and think about loving yourself and think about how you are capable of loving and know you can have that with the right man.If you decide to dump him it may take a few months but the pain will subside and you will ultimately feel better than in some time.btw if I were to meet someone who experienced what you did I would really not feel this person is a cheating risk.Tou are no cheater!You may have some self esteem issues and you may need to love yourself more fully but you are no cheater!Love yourself and move forward and be happy,you deserve it! ty .. i think i will try one last time as he does seem to try some times so its very confusing,, i dont think he can show love to well as he never had that him self ..
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