itwassupposedtobe8 Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Hi everyone, My ex gf and i of 1 and half years have been separated for about 2 and a half months now. We've been on Nc for about 1 and a half of those months. I've gone thru many emotions, ive had the epiphany's, ive reached out for help, i go out for walks to help me calm down. Im usually sad most of the time but find some way to become better. Ive become angry at her because she let a good thing go. Ive had the joy of life without her, but yet i miss her very much. Shouldnt i have been fine by now, why do i still care. I used to be so alpha before her and it seems once i opened up to her im having a difficult time closing. I cried last night, it made me feel better for 20 or so minutes and then i was so depressed i literrraly walked for hours. i occupy myself with hobbies and such but in the end i hurt, because i truly gave my whole heart and i got an empty platter at the end . I'm sorry all, i know some of you are in the same boat and could have hoped for more of an enlightning story, but im living in a sad world right now and could use some hope
billy356 Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 There is no timeline for recovery but rest assured you are going through the steps. Having the wide range of emotions is normal, it is a hellish normal, but it is still normal. You already know the things to do to get your mind off the situation, taking walks, allowing yourself to cry, hobbies....good job Realize that people with "alpha" personalities often take breakups harder especially if they were the dumpee. Someone else has made a decision concerning your life and you might have had no say in it. This can shake us to the core sometimes. We often say "well I would have broken up with her anyway" or similar things. The truth is we dont take rejection well in any form and so it hurts in a different and stronger manner. There isnt anything wrong with that it is just important to intellectualize that component of our emotions. I wish you the best of luck, it wont be an easy road but driving on this road wont always seem like the middle of Nebraska, eventually you will get to an exciting destination.....
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