juliet Morrison Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Ok here it goes... I met this guy about a year and a half ago. We work together in the same dept and the same shifts. Over the past year we have become well in my eyes bestfriends well maybe more....we go to movies once a month and he came with me to a family wedding (not in town) we slept in the same bed. Every time we are hanging with a group buy the end of the night we are sitting side by side talking and drinking we cuddle when its cold outside. He lookes at me in the eyes and gives me this smile that i just dont know what it means. We fight alot...about stupid stuff like what time to go on break, about the weather, driving directions. Every one in the office thinks that something is going on. In August after a night out drinking and me kissing his neck I asked a kinda stupid question....i asked if he could have sex with anyone at work who would it be....he gave his answer(not me) then he asked the same question back...i kinda let him know that it was him...silence...i looked at him and said just friends? ...he then looked at me in a odd way and said just friends then we went on our way holding hands....whats up with that? We are still hangin and going for drives and movies and when we are together with a crowd he and i are together. I just need to know IS HE IN TO ME? i dont want to make a move and maybe trash the friendship I dont believe in love but as of late then i see him i get butterflies. PLEASE HELP ME STUCK IN A PSEUDO RELATIONSHIP
Nichole Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 That's not a pseudo-relationship - nothing you described says "relationship." And no, he's not into you. Sorry.
glamgurl Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Agreed, Doesn't sound like a relationship. He likes your company but he's not into you the way you want him to be or the way you feel about him. Sorry, that sucks.
Author juliet Morrison Posted December 2, 2009 Author Posted December 2, 2009 ok so he is not in to me thats cool...so whats up with the looks and the smiles...and its not just me thats sees this ALL of our friends see it too...they call us the old married couple. He is reallllly shy and has been hurt reallllly badly...and for the most part he kinda is a girl in the ways of the heart. me i am the opposite i am a guy you know lovem and leave them.
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 Sounds like a regular ol' friendship to me. No - he's not interested romantically.
Boundary Problem Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 Give it time. If he has any testoterone in him, eventually nature will take over. Just make sure if he does "pull the trigger" that you are in a proper relationship. Just don't wait around for him. Keep moving with your own life - which is easier said than done. But after a while - you recognize the situation for what it is and you will be at peace with moving on while he continues to sit on the fence and peruse the catalogues. Sounds like he likes you, but his head is somehwere else.
Author juliet Morrison Posted December 2, 2009 Author Posted December 2, 2009 dont get me wrong i am not sitting by the phone a waiting his call...i have been haveing a good time with other guy (for lack of a better term) i am out living my life going on date and chating with guy and every time i get a text and he and i are together and its a guy he gets all pissy...he hates my phone to may guys text, the said he wont go to Vegas with me if my cell phone comes.
Boundary Problem Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 You've got to put some boundaries on this situation. Since when do friends tell you what to do with your phone. Sounds like he is c--kblocking while he peruses the market. He knows exactly what he is doing. Do you know what you are doing? He has a plan/strategy. Do you? You should. Don't leave control of the situation up to him. I'm not saying jump his bones. I'm just saying make sure you are getting what you want from the situation, and if you aren't, then get it from somewhere else - regardless of his sniveling objections.
Cplusplus Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 It seems like he likes you but for lack of a better term he is looking for someone "better". He sees you as a fall back girl, don't let him have it both ways, if he doesn't see you as a GF he shouldn't be mad if you talk to other guys.
Author juliet Morrison Posted December 2, 2009 Author Posted December 2, 2009 i am getting ass some where eles , and he knows it...he hates the idea but oh well...we talk alot. and when it comes to him he always gets the best of me. he has no control over my life or what i do.... oh the side note: why would a guy keep pic's in this cell phone of my kids (well not my kids...long story there) why keep them. we where in bed resting after a wedding and my nephew came in and was playing with us and he took some pic and i was creeping his pic on his cell phone ...(dont worry he was there) and there the pic were. why keep them? oh my be i am makeing mountains out of mole hills. just its been almost a year of this always flirting and hanging and cuddling and him telling my hair smells good and the likes the way i smell....i just dont know.
Boundary Problem Posted December 2, 2009 Posted December 2, 2009 i am getting ass some where eles , and he knows it...he hates the idea but oh well...we talk alot. Sounds like he cares for you, but is not in love with you. I don't think a guy would be ok with you sleeping with someone else if he was in love with you.
Author juliet Morrison Posted December 2, 2009 Author Posted December 2, 2009 as it stands i am single. he has no say weather i sleep with some one or not. he can love me but maybe just dose not have the balls to say it or maybe think that i am not ready for a real commitment.
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