redplanet Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 I am wanting to send this email to a woman who has come between me and xMM (x because he is no longer with his wife, but is with C and me but isnt honest with her). I want the truth to come out and I want to know what you think about this email I am thinking of sending his other lover. Dear C, I am writing this from my heart which only knows LOVE and TRUTH. I hope by now A (who we’ve known and loved each other since we were teenagers) has spoken with you about the TRUTH of our very intimate ongoing relationship. We will always be there for each other no matter what. I had asked that he be completely open and honest with you about us and he has been meaning to speak with you but apparently hasn’t. When I realized that he still hadn’t, back in May, I forwarded emails to try to let you know. He is planning on speaking with you while you are in the NT. He is not being open with you. We still share a very intimate relationship. I know about you but you don’t know how I fit into the picture. A and I will always be the best of friends and even though he is deceiving you, he is not deceiving me/us (A and I). We cannot let each other go, despite trying on several occasions. We tuck each other into bed nearly every night since he has left to head to warmer climates. We can all share each others lives and move forward in this in a very loving, open way. He loves us both and wants me in his life in a very intimate way. We are trying to find a pathway that includes you, me and him. Several times since I came back to Australia early new year, we have tried to spend time with each other. I was planning on spending the evening of his birthday with him on my trip back north. He went to his property and we were going to spend time together, but I couldn’t make it. I have tried to have limited contact with him but he continues to pursue me. The longest break we had was from mid August to beginning of October when he contacted me to see how I was doing and because he wanted to see me before he went north. I know he told you that it was I who contacted him recently due to health issues, but it was he who contacted me. We have agreed to never let each other go again, we always want to keep a line of communication, LOVE and intimacy open. We will ALWAYS be in each others lives. We want to share our lives together. We are LIGHT and LOVE, spiritual connected beings.
1Angel Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Just wondering why he isn't going to her with this instead of you ?
Author redplanet Posted December 1, 2009 Author Posted December 1, 2009 Just wondering why he isn't going to her with this instead of you ? I do wonder that myself however, I think perhaps because we have been friends for such a long time and he feels so very comfortable with me that he shares EVERYTHING with me, painful as it is. It's early days for them.
HarmonyHope Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Why bother? He left his W, but now he wants someone else. You are still on the outside looking in. This nastygram is nothing but a manipulative tool to try to break them up. Sure she deserves the truth, but not from you. You essentially say that you are more important to him than she will ever be, which is ironic coming from someone who is obviously not the primary relationship. He's lying to her about you because he values their relationship. He isn't telling her the truth as he promised you he would do because he doesn't value your relationship as much. And since you've probably ignored all the points above - consider for a moment that he's probably going to be royally pissed at you if you interfere.
Heather1 Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 I agree...he'll be pissed. Someone mailed a friend of mine printed out emails of their A before she got married. She married him anyway, and I'm sure the guy is still cheating on my friend, but not with the same woman. Mail it if you want to completely cut ties w/ OM, cuz this will do it.
jwi71 Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 If you are his GF/SO/fiance then he is obviously cheating on you. And if that is the case I think the frank conversation should be with your bf/so/fiance...not the OW. If he ISN'T your BF/SO/fiance you HAVE NO RIGHT TO SEND THAT LETTER. If you do not have an exclusive relationship...then he is free to date and shag whoever he damn well pleases. Either way...a letter to HER is aiming at the wrong target dont ya think?
lonelyandfrustrated Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 I think you should cut out any reference that appears to be speaking for him. Like: We will always be there for each other no matter what. he has been meaning to speak with you but apparently hasn’t. A and I will always be the best of friends We cannot let each other go, Change it to the things you can guarantee, like: I will always be here for him no matter what He told me he would speak to you about this, but I don't believe he has. I will always consider him my best friend. I cannot let him go.
torranceshipman Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 I think you can take out a lot of that and just cut to the chase: 'your boyfriend wants an intimate R with me, doesn't stop pursuing me, and is clearly lying to you about the nature of our R'. That's all you need. The other stuff is a bit waffly, and although you can't see it now, makes you sound foolish - i.e. you are on the outside of their intimate life, and it makes yourself sound like you are still in love with him, like you don't want him to be with someone else because really you want him...and it also sounds a little bit strange that you are writing stuff FOR him that he hasn't said or corroborated, especially how you two are connected beings, etc...it sounds overly dramatic given that he's already moved on from you to a new R.
Author redplanet Posted December 1, 2009 Author Posted December 1, 2009 Why bother? He left his W, but now he wants someone else. You are still on the outside looking in. This nastygram is nothing but a manipulative tool to try to break them up. Sure she deserves the truth, but not from you. You essentially say that you are more important to him than she will ever be, which is ironic coming from someone who is obviously not the primary relationship. He's lying to her about you because he values their relationship. He isn't telling her the truth as he promised you he would do because he doesn't value your relationship as much. And since you've probably ignored all the points above - consider for a moment that he's probably going to be royally pissed at you if you interfere. Maybe part of me actually wants him to leave me alone and this is the only way I know that he will. Thanks for your comments LS's.
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