BookerT Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 The first part of the note is the original piece of crap. You may have read it before because it's been floating around the internet and facebook. The second part is my response to it, and if you've read any of my stuff you'll know you'll either laugh at my response or find it vulgar (you have been warned): TO EVERY WOMEN WHO'RE WORTH A LOT........AND EVERY MAN WHO NEEDS TO KNOW In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question, "What kind of man are you looking for?" She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking, "Do you really want to know?" Reluctantly, he said "Yes." She began to expound..., "As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man….. or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, what can you bring to the table?" The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life." He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain. She said, "I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man. I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked... believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don't need a financial burden. I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive... he just has to be worthy. God made woman to be a help mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself." When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, "You’re asking a lot." She replied, "I'm worth a lot." To every woman who're worth a lot.... and every man who needs to know. _________________________________________________________________ To the girls: The fantasy: The man is perfect in every aspect of his life Perfect mentally Good conversationist Spiritual Financially perfect Knows what a woman goes through Sensitive Someone that can be respected You forgot to add, faithful, not butt ugly and relatively tall The reality: Such a man, if he exists is either gay or in a relationship already, because if he's that special you can be sure his girlfriend guards him like the holy grail and will fend off all you other girls from a mile away. The other 99.9% of men out there lack most of these qualities: Perfect mentally: Lol, wtf does this mean anyway? I've heard of smart, but perfect mentally? I know plenty of guys that are totally mental. Is that anything close? Good conversationist: Most guys are full of brain farts. Or they're full of ****. If a guy is a really smooth talker you can be sure he's trying to sweet talk mulitple girls into bed. Spiritual: I respect religion so I won't mess around with this. But most girls can't even find a nice guy. You sure you can find a spiritual guy that's got the other qualities? Financially perfect: Again wtf does this mean? If it means what I think it means then only Bill Gates and Warren Buffet qualify. Are you sure you want to have sex with a nerd or a man born in 1930? The rest of us go from slightly imperfect but able to buy you bottles in a club to dish washers in the back of a resturant. Knows what a woman goes through: He must be gay Sensitive: Gay, or a player trying to get into your pants Someone that can be respected: Most men are either emasculated and weak versions of our former, hunter, warrior race. Which is why women called them nice guys, pat them on the back, friend zone them and then complain there are no nice guys. Or They're strong, don't get pushed around, don't grovel for a woman's attention, are not needy, are not clingy, respect themselves. But they're sleeping around. Physical aspects: As for the rest of men, they're either too short, look like a car ran over their face, or their penis are so small when they put it in the girl asks "Is it in yet?" The reality is, we're not perfect. The above list is the equivalent of a man asking for a super hot girl, with a perfect body, smart, nice personality, has a good sense of humor, caring, not a gold digger, and willing to cook, clean and handwash the skid marks off our underwear. Deal with it, or stay single forever chasing ghosts. To the men: Just get perfect in bed. Then you can bang your girlfriend so hard and so long she orgasms multiple times. When she's mumbling or screaming, the last thing she'll want is mental stimulation or good conversation.
InspiredbyYou Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Hahahaha that reads like a lot of female profiles I have seen on dating sites. Sure in a fantasy world where I could construct my own Frankenstein of a man, oh yeah!! Why not? But in reality I am more than happy with two things out of that list, maybe three if there are components that come and go from the other qualities listed then BONUS! I really liked the being submissive thing. I would agree, can't be submissive to a man I cannot respect; very important for me.
motive2002 Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 I like the "I'm worth a lot!" at the end of this little story. Maybe the woman describing what she wants in a man is worth a lot, and maybe she isn't. You men can strive for this type of perfection, only to be met with the many attention whores, basket cases, pathological liars, uncouth, unethical, Jerry Springer rejects that are out there. The whole concept of a woman being made of pure gold while all the man are filthy derelicts that should be thanking their lucky stars if a woman even looks their way is totally absurd. Before you demand such perfection in a guy, maybe check your own list and see how you measure up. I've met plenty of women that can raise children, support themselves and have spirituality that are still wackadoos.
motive2002 Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 She began to expound..., "As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man….. or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, what can you bring to the table?" Aww, that's so romantic!!! Sounds like a love affair arranged by Donald Trump.
Angel1111 Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 This is called 'people who think they know what they're talking about but really don't'. In a nutshell, I think the woman is talking about being able to respect a man, and finding her match - whatever that may look like. But the 'perfect' thing throws me. I know I'm not perfect so if I tell someone that I expect them to be that way, they're going to turn that right back around on me and expect the same from me. No thanks. I can't stand this stuff about how women take care of themselves and don't need a man in their lives. We all need each other. I take care of myself but I also know that having a nice man in my life who can calmly sit on the sofa and be as happy doing nothing as going out, and occasionally makes nice conversation and watch football games or whatever, and care about me, and be mostly content with himself and me, would thrill me to death. Now that's perfection.
Eve Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Well, whoever wrote that article missed one vital point.. in my opinion, there is no such thing as a 'man'. Boys never grow up and if you try and force them to change they go all weird. Anyhow, boys who try and grow up are very boring indeed or eventually turn psycho. Or maybe I just dont have any standards?.. All I know is that if I even began to mouth any of that stuff to my Hubby when we met he would have been off, out the door. How about just wanting someone who treats you well and looks out for you and you do the same? Thats the priority isnt it? If the 'life interests' are defined too sturdily at the start then would it not be a case that the relationship is being held to an ideal rather than being allowed to unfold? Ah, I dont understand the perfectionism thing. I seriously hope I am never single again Take care, Eve xx
Sam Spade Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 I take care of myself but I also know that having a nice man in my life who can calmly sit on the sofa and be as happy doing nothing as going out, and occasionally makes nice conversation and watch football games or whatever, and care about me, and be mostly content with himself and me, would thrill me to death. Now that's perfection. Damn! No that's perfection ! Don't forget - reaches to the crib during commercials to tickle the baby's (and yours) tummies !
theBrokenMuse Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Anyone who uses the term 'perfect' to describe what they are looking for is destined for grave disappointment as perfection does not exist.
motive2002 Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 If the 'life interests' are defined too sturdily at the start then would it not be a case that the relationship is being held to an ideal rather than being allowed to unfold? Such is the drawback to online dating. A grocery list of lofty standards before you even say "hello".
Eve Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Anyone who uses the term 'perfect' to describe what they are looking for is destined for grave disappointment as perfection does not exist. I think we can have glimmers of perfection.. such as when I get a good back rub and not a rubbish one! Take care, Eve xx
jerseyboy Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 If someone actually said anything remotely approximating that jibberish, Id be thinking she took a few too many yoga classes, and picked up a book on eastern philosophy she wasn't quite bright enough to comprehend.
Eve Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Such is the drawback to online dating. A grocery list of lofty standards before you even say "hello". Well, I am astounded. Its like a film script with the is sequel already written. One of those sequels where the original stars are not included because they have moved onto better things. Its like the woman is showing her escape route moreso than defining something meaningful. My Hubby wouldnt be able to process all of that. Wouldnt know what I was talking about. Ten years in, yes. First date, no. Take care, Eve xx
torranceshipman Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 This woman is full of crap! In fact, now I get it when guys post on here about how some women have unrealistic expectations. She sounds way up her own azz.
Author BookerT Posted December 1, 2009 Author Posted December 1, 2009 haha I like it how you guys actually made some valid input and good points. My original post was actually a bit of a joke, although I did make some serious points. I checked the internet, this note is all over the place so it did get forwarded around.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 They expect all this crap from us, and what do we get from them? Irresponsible, dependant, money blackholes, lazy, crazy... Ok i'm ranting.
Untouchable_Fire Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Damn! No that's perfection ! Don't forget - reaches to the crib during commercials to tickle the baby's (and yours) tummies ! How do you contain so much wisdom in that brain of yours!
threebyfate Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 My husband's not a perfect man but he's perfect for me. Neither the original or the response, is realistic.
sedgwick Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 Well, whoever wrote that article missed one vital point.. Yeah, that "shpiel" and "spill" are two different words.
D-Jam Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 There is some level of truth to what that woman asked for. She's simply asking for a guy who can hold a real conversation, has his own life, isn't a financial burden on anyone (doesn't mean he's a rich guy), is sensitive without being a doormat, and respects her as much as she respects him. The problem is in the word "perfection". She then comes off as a snob and even her other words make it sound like she overprices herself. Face it...if she looked plain jane, most guys who strive for perfection would pass her up and chase down a woman who strives for physical perfection. A man who is that "high up" as she believes she is would be more looking for a trophy, not an equal. I think it's fine for a woman to ask for a man who can carry a conversation, has a career, has a level of sensitivity and understanding and respect. The problem is they need to stop hoping they can find it in the guy who never has it. So they meet that guy who can't hold a job, but is hot as hell and amazing in bed, but he doesn't carry much else on it. She can't expect him to have the other qualities. Maybe the compromise is that he won't have a flawless face or he won't be earning 6 figures or he won't be a roadside scholar or bang like a male pornstar. Same deal for men. You might meet that perfect 10 looking woman, but she'll have no brain or any real intelligence, or might be a selfish shallow princess. You can't expect her to have it all. No more than women can expect the man to have it all.
woopster638 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 right now...........i want a woman who can FIX my broken PS3 lol
silic0ntoad Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 right now...........i want a woman who can FIX my broken PS3 lol Epic quote. Totally epic. The way I see it? I am who I am. Love it, or leave it. I don't need a money grubbing, self righteous, perfectionist, self entitled heartbreaker anyway. I'll take a nice, sweet, quiet southern bell any day of the week.
Miko Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 1. No one is perfect until you are in love with them. Only then can the most imperfect schlub seem like a gift from god. This goes both ways. A woman or man who is looking for someone who is ALREADY perfect is unlikely to find that person. 2. Most men gain an extra dose of motivation FROM their women. They want to give them a good life, a nice home, a certain sense of security and so on. Men have very few needs in life and it's often not until they have someone else to please that they really put their nose to the grindstone. They/we work FOR our women because we want to take care of them, especially w/children. Show me a married man that doesn't work harder, at least a little bit, than when he was single and I'll show you a guy with his priorities messed up.
sand26 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 (edited) Striving for perfection. The woman is looking for a man who is striving for perfection. definition time: Striving: To make great efforts to achieve or obtain something. I strive for many things that are unobtainable, it keeps me growing. I never rest on my laurels... definition time: Rest on laurels: to be so satisfied with your own achievements that you make no effort to improve. So someone who strives for perfection is someone who never thinks they are perfect at something. You see? It is the exact opposite of being or thinking you are perfect. It is knowing that you are not perfect and working on all the parts of yourself. I strive to be perfect, I know I won't be. I do not become complacent or say, "that's as good as I can do"', or, "that's as far as I can go". I wish to be more evolved then yesterday. More understanding, more compassionate, more successful, more aware, more honest, etc. I know perfection is impossible, duh, that's obvious to 6 year olds everywhere, not some revelation. But in striving for perfection I admit that I have yet to learn and grow in many ways. So this young lady in the story simply is looking for someone that tries harder and harder everyday to improve. I think we are all entitled to such wants IMHO. see now? :):):):) peace. Edited December 10, 2009 by sand26
sand26 Posted December 10, 2009 Posted December 10, 2009 oh and your response to that post bookerT? just boring and cliche. The end part about being perfect in bed is especially pathetic, sorry. Don't mean to offend you, just telling you how it sounds to me. Perfect in bed huh? So every woman likes the same kind of foreplay and sex? And you are a guru at all styles? Sounds like you think perfection is attainable, which means you are probably complacent in certain areas and stubborn.... think about it bro. Maybe you should strive to be more... ya know? no offense meant, just trying to help you not sound like a meathead. peace
Author BookerT Posted December 10, 2009 Author Posted December 10, 2009 oh and your response to that post bookerT? just boring and cliche. The end part about being perfect in bed is especially pathetic, sorry. Don't mean to offend you, just telling you how it sounds to me. Perfect in bed huh? So every woman likes the same kind of foreplay and sex? And you are a guru at all styles? Sounds like you think perfection is attainable, which means you are probably complacent in certain areas and stubborn.... think about it bro. Maybe you should strive to be more... ya know? no offense meant, just trying to help you not sound like a meathead. peace You obviously don't have a sense of humor. You really think I was being serious with some of the comments? If you didn't see the joke in it then I feel sorry for you.
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