Yvanne Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 (edited) Hello, everyone. I just wanted to get everyone's opinion on what I should do, since my mind keeps deciding to flip-flop. I have a wonderful online/long distance relationship with my bf of one year, and I love him with all my heart. Few months into my relationship I met this other boy (also online), quite a few years younger than me, and we became good friends, and he my confidant. I knew he had this thing for me but I never reciprocated the feeling, as I think of him only as a friend. One night he texted me that he was horny, and I thought nothing of it. I texted him back, asking him what he would if he were having sex with a girl (and I never specifically stated 'me') but I'm pretty sure he took it that way. What I did, talked about sex with him, is that considered sexting? Considered as cheating? I actually forgot about this texting thing for a couple months, as it meant absolutely nothing to me at all, and I wasn't reminded until a few days ago in a dream. I've been burdened with immense guilt lately and I've been trying to figure out whether I should tell my boyfriend, be truthful with him about what I did months ago, and that it meant nothing to me, although I am really scared about hurting his feelings. My heart hurts at the thought of hurting him and telling him, and I don't WANT to hurt him, but I know if I try and live with this guilt, it'll just drag me down. I don't know what I should do...is telling him the best? Some people say that telling your bf is good, honest relationship, etc (which is good), but others say that telling him only puts my burden on his, and I don't know what to do. Just for clarification, that texting (sexting?) once meant absolutely NOTHING to me, and I know it won't happen again, as I'm not even talking to that kid anymore. I've honestly tried to let it go, but the guilt always creeps back. I felt guilty after I did it, too, but I read a forum and convinced myself that it was nothing and forgot about it somehow for quite a long time, and I'm trying to do that now, but it seems so hard. Help? Edited December 1, 2009 by Yvanne
Bryanp Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 If the roles were reversed woudn't you want your boyfriend to be honest with you?
Author Yvanne Posted December 1, 2009 Author Posted December 1, 2009 If the roles were reversed woudn't you want your boyfriend to be honest with you? Yes, yes I would. Now all I have to do is be strong when I talk to him next. Thank you for replying.
Spectre Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 (edited) Er,why are you talking about sex with another dude? Total lack of respect there. I mean why do you care what he'd do to a girl if he were having sex with her? The fact is you shouldn't care, but for some reason did. Also, don't listen to those people who claim that not telling someone about cheating is the right way to go. Those people are..well, they are BS'ing themselves. They think they are saving the person from a lot of pain when really they are just making the person look like fools and making themselves look trashy in the process. If those people were *truly* so concerned with the feelings of their partner they wouldn't of cheated in the first place. So when anyone says something like that I can't help but chuckle at the hypocrisy. If you truly love the guy, tell him. If not, you might as well dump him if you can't even be honest with him. Oh and expect him to not want you talking to any guys anymore either. Edited December 4, 2009 by Spectre
Jerseyboy. Posted December 4, 2009 Posted December 4, 2009 Ehh Assuming you are telling the truth If it was my girl...would I want to know? Keep it to yourself. Nothing happened. You never met the guy Its just silliness.
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