ant0255 Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Ok, so my ex and I broke up about 4.5 months ago because she needed time to discover herself. She was in a long and verbally abusive relationship prior to meeting me. There were no hard feelings between us and we both agreed that it would be for the best. We still saw each other at the gym and occaisionly on the weekend because she is good friends with my best friend jess. It wasnt awckward and we always were able to talk to each other without any problems. About two weeks ago, she starts talking to me more via text message and actual phone calls. During our conversations we would talk about how things are goin hows the family and that kinda stuff. Well one night we are talking and she tells me how much she misses my family and if they are mad at her for breaking my heart. I tell her no, and explain that they new the reasons for our break up and that they always ask about her, which they do. Another thing she mentions during our conversations is that we should do things together, go to a movie take my cousins somewhere, and I say ya that would be fun. Well one night she ask's if she can come to my grandma's for friday night dinner like she used to, I said sure why not, everyone would love to see her and that was it. She then askes if i can come over to her parents and help her dad pour concrete, i say yes and on the day im supposed to help she tells me it was already finished and that if i wanted to come over still, i can. I went over and it was nice seeing her parents. I only planned to stay for a few hours, when my ex asked if i wanted to stay for dinner and keep her company while her parents were gone. I stayed and ate, we ended up watching a xmas movie at which point threw a pillow on me and fell asleep on chest. She wakes up and decides to go to sleep and i leave. It was really fun. Well during the week she askes if it is ok to come to my grandmas I say ya, and she askes me to make sure its ok. I got the ok from my grandma which I already knew would happen and told her. She came over and she had a great. She told me how much she loves my family and how she feels bad for being gone for so long, I tell her not to worry about it. I didnt really talk to her much that following weekend. I shoot her text during the week seeing if she wanted to go see a movie this weekend,She said yes. Well in talking to her i found out that she didnt have to work saturday so i asked her if she wanted to go on sat instead of sunday, she said ya that would be fun. She texts me saturday saying her and her mom got into a big fight the night before and that they were gonna shopping and spend the day together, she askes if thats ok to which i reply yes its fine we had planned to go sunday and it was a last minute change, no biggy. I talk to her throughout the day on saturday and end up shooting her a text later in the evening asking about what time she wanted to see the movie because she had to work later in the afternoon. She starts texting me and to make a long story short we both go out with our friends seperatley, I get home, and we are still texting back and forth, she says she doesnt want to leave her car downtown, i ssay if i was still down there i would drive it for her. She says thats ok cause her friend was taking her home. well she calls me and askes if they can pick me up so i could get her car. I say no prob. They pick me up, her friend drops us off and I take her back to our friends who she is housesitting for. She is drunk and takes care of thier dogs and says we can either sleep in the bed or on the couch. I was cool with the couch . She goes and grabs a blanket and precedes to use me as a pillow and falls asleep holding my hand. My question after this long narrative is, is she showing signs of wanting to get back together? I'll be honest, i still have feelings for her and still love her, ive been out with other women since we broke up and its not the same. Our friend Jess, told me to go with the flow and take it slowly, which I doing, we dont talk everyday via phone, and i want to give her the space she needs. So any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
liftedcj7on44s Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Let her come to you. Dont play any games with her though or you will get hurt again. If she wants to get back together with you then she will tell you. I say be very very careful with the situation you are in, you may be about to be hurt again so just like her friend said go with the flow and let her do all the work.
DustySaltus Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Withdraw a little bit. Disappear for a week...see how she reacts. And do yourself a favor so you don't drive yourself crazy down the line. When you ask her out on a date, do it by phone. Texting gives her time to come up with some bs excuse to just delay her thoughts. I want answers in real time!
Author ant0255 Posted December 1, 2009 Author Posted December 1, 2009 Thanks for the advice, as i mentioned we were set to go on the date, I even stayed th night with her before the date, we had planned to go but we were both tired from being out late, and I probably should have mentioned that i asked her in person. The text was afterwards during a random conversation. But I understand what you are saying, and we were on the phone when she cancelled. And i can honestly say, if we get back together that would be great, but whether or not that time comes im not gonna stop dating, if a great gal comes along and we hit it off then TS. Thanks again for the advice. oh the disappear for a week sounds pretty good, think I might have to take a trip to socal.
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