Angel1111 Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 You guys realize IceCube hasnt been here in 2 over months right? Yeah. Someone came in on the discussion late and revived it.
paddington bear Posted January 29, 2010 Posted January 29, 2010 ha ha, no...in any case, I'm always going to post on these types of threads anyway, because someone else in the same position might read them. It's my mission to get genuine people to realise when they've hit the jackpot of being in a relationship with a crazy person with no ability to relate in any kind of normal way, because I've been there, been on the receiving end of exactly the kind of behaviour mentioned in this thread, rationalised it, tried to placate the angry, crazy person, wondered what I'd done wrong, apologised and then realised....well, they were just nuts. Icecubee has probably asked her to marry him by now and has consigned himself to a life of misery and being dominated, put down and controlled. But let's hope he ditched her, went to therapy and realised that he'd never put up with that kind of behaviour from someone ever again.
dopusmax Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 Yep it was me. I came in late, I thought he might get an email that the thread was still going. Also like "bear" said these threads are good for people like me who went through this before (5 yrs. ago) and may be seeing a woman now who is a Borderliner. These threads really helped back then. ( I was a member of LS back then) And really help me now along with the "eggshell" book. I personally thank all of you for your responses because it does help and you are all right! Great support, great insight and info and it will help others who read this and realize that they are not losing there mind in thier relationship.
Author icecubee Posted April 13, 2010 Author Posted April 13, 2010 (edited) Thanks for the replies people!! I thought this thread was dead but was surprised when I saw more replies. And yes, I hope this thread will be helpful for others in the years to come:). UPDATE: I actually broke up with her in late December after reading more about abusive relationships and spoke to family and friends and noticed that she will never change. I remembered the day that we broke up we had a heartfelt talk and I told her all about her abusiveness and my research of controlling behavior. We both cried our hearts out in the coffee shop at 4am and broke up in good terms (I bet the cashier there remembered us:laugh:). It's been over 3 months now. In the beginning, she would call me daily. The calls have been sparse the last couple of weeks mainly I think she is starting a new relationship (And I do wish her all the best from the bottom of my heart) I have to admit that I still think about her from time to time but I know that breaking up with her is for the best (For me and for the both of us). Over the last few months, I have been spending more time with my family and is enjoying my life. I got a call from her today and she is doing well too:). I would like to thank once again to all the replies here and all the support my family and friends have given me! Just an aside for dopusmax: I never really thought about her as having BPD. But now that I think about it, she might have a mild form of BPD. The irony is I actually worked with BPD patients directly for almost 5 years! Edited April 13, 2010 by icecubee
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