b52s Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 (edited) With all this talk about online dating from these dating sites in these past few threads.....over the years I've done online dating. (I've been doing less of it lately). I have noticed, that I am seeing the same faces on these dating sites? The same women on all the sites....everytime I do a search wtihin a 50 mile radius, I keep seeing the same women almos tall the time. LOL Most of whom I already emailed, and most of whom who did not respond. Kinda tells you (and should be telling them) that they've reached the end of their rope and there is a LIMITED amount of options in that 50 mile radius. Ever notice that? Edited November 30, 2009 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
USMCHokie Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 It's funny you should mention this...I actually noticed this very thing tonight when I decided to give OKCupid a try...saw quite a number of people I've seen on POF and Match... But then something triggered in my head about 20 minutes later (after you get enough read/deleted notices on POF, you start to take the hint...) and I deleted all my online dating accounts...I just don't feel like I stand a chance in that environment...
Pizzaman81 Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 It's funny you should mention this...I actually noticed this very thing tonight when I decided to give OKCupid a try...saw quite a number of people I've seen on POF and Match... But then something triggered in my head about 20 minutes later (after you get enough read/deleted notices on POF, you start to take the hint...) and I deleted all my online dating accounts...I just don't feel like I stand a chance in that environment... You see my avatar, you will see that mug on many sites, and I probably won't message back either! ya I know what you are talking about. Good times...
justforfun Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 It's funny you should mention this...I actually noticed this very thing tonight when I decided to give OKCupid a try...saw quite a number of people I've seen on POF and Match... But then something triggered in my head about 20 minutes later (after you get enough read/deleted notices on POF, you start to take the hint...) and I deleted all my online dating accounts...I just don't feel like I stand a chance in that environment... I like to hit them with unread/deleted! It's so much more fun that way
Pizzaman81 Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 I like to hit them with unread/deleted! It's so much more fun that way How is that realistic? They will probably try again because they think you accidentally deleted their message before reading. I think the read/deleted/blocked forever hurts the most.
justforfun Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 How is that realistic? They will probably try again because they think you accidentally deleted their message before reading. I think the read/deleted/blocked forever hurts the most. Why would you think that I 'accidentally' deleted it? Unless you were trying to delude yourself. Delusion is the problem. When Mr Wanna Up Chuck when he looks in the mirror and believes that somehow magical things happen on the internet where attractive women really want to date them. Yes, I hit dlete without reading the message. I think it sends the right message, exactly the message I'm wanting to send. Thank you. So far I've used unread/deleted. Thanks for the tip though. I shall now add blocked.
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Delusion is the problem. When Mr Wanna Up Chuck when he looks in the mirror and believes that somehow magical things happen on the internet where attractive women really want to date them. You mean like Larry The Cable Guy's twin brother requesting me as a friend on FB - where he has his WIFE'S name very prominently listed ("married to...") and she's on his friend's list, AND he has a pic of him with his young daughter. Then sending me creepy-ass messages. Yuck. What part of that entire scenario does he honestly think would have me swooning? LOL
Author b52s Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 It's funny you should mention this...I actually noticed this very thing tonight when I decided to give OKCupid a try...saw quite a number of people I've seen on POF and Match... But then something triggered in my head about 20 minutes later (after you get enough read/deleted notices on POF, you start to take the hint...) and I deleted all my online dating accounts...I just don't feel like I stand a chance in that environment... Yeah, what I have also noticed, a couple of middle aged women (late 30's/40's) who are chronically single living close by actually, who have voiced their "frustrations" with online dating in their dating profile. There was this one woman, and this reeked of desperation on THIS move. Apparently she added a short paragraph stating, "Okay, guys, this profile is going to be up for the next week, because I'm taking it down to to take a break from online dating, so if you'd like to get an email me, here's your chance!" She did delete, but pathetically put up a profile on another site, and eventually came BACK to said site where she made her "announcement" Of course, this woman had ignored my emails....I think I emailed her again after a year.....just in case he frustrations knocked some sense into her, perhaps made her consider to budge from her unrealistic expectations....but, nope....didn't happen. Seeing these SAME people on all these dating sites should clue them in on their lack of success with online dating.....esp. with the ladies. They've probably rejected so many guys, that they've RUN OUT of the limited selection....and now will continue to remain single.
Author b52s Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 Why would you think that I 'accidentally' deleted it? Unless you were trying to delude yourself. Delusion is the problem. When Mr Wanna Up Chuck when he looks in the mirror and believes that somehow magical things happen on the internet where attractive women really want to date them. Yes, I hit dlete without reading the message. I think it sends the right message, exactly the message I'm wanting to send. Thank you. So far I've used unread/deleted. Thanks for the tip though. I shall now add blocked. Actually, I had re-emailed a woman who "Unread/Deleted" my message...turns out it WAS an accident (she told me herself, lol) But using the "unread/delete" shows you're pretty much have no substance. But, I guess I'm just another "Mr. Upchuck" to some women, eh? Here we have men who are fine tailoring their emails to send to you, only to not have it read? That says a lot about you, and of course you joke about it on a dating message board, yikes....don't let others hear you unread/delete. lol
thegreatmoose Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 I like to hit them with unread/deleted! It's so much more fun that way I can spend 15+ minutes writing a nice email and not only do you think it's fun to delete it without even looking at it, but you think it's funny. You have every right to reject men for any reason you choose, but why not do it with a little more dignity?
Author b52s Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 I can spend 15+ minutes writing a nice email and not only do you think it's fun to delete it without even looking at it, but you think it's funny. You have every right to reject men for any reason you choose, but why not do it with a little more dignity? Well, she can "save face" by posting how she feels anonymously on this message board without consequences. That's the beauty of the net I suppose
Author b52s Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 I can spend 15+ minutes writing a nice email and not only do you think it's fun to delete it without even looking at it, but you think it's funny. You have every right to reject men for any reason you choose, but why not do it with a little more dignity? What's funny, on the POF Message board, I hear women saying how they "Delete" cut and paste profiles. The only reason it's cut and paste, beacuse men got sick putting all that work into an initial email....and decided to be efficient. If women didn't "Unread/Delete" us, we wouldn't have cut and pasted our previous stock emails.
thegreatmoose Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Well, she can "save face" by posting how she feels anonymously on this message board without consequences. That's the beauty of the net I suppose I've had it done a few times and I feel used. I guess a certain part of the population has a sense of entitlement.
thegreatmoose Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 The only reason it's cut and paste, beacuse men got sick putting all that work into an initial email....and decided to be efficient. If women didn't "Unread/Delete" us, we wouldn't have cut and pasted our previous stock emails. I never send a stock email. I read their profile and send soemthing personized every time. I've cut my email size in half since I know many will not be replied to. I'm perfectly ok if they don't reply to a first email simply because they are not interested in me. I'm not so happy when they unread/delete my emails.
D-Jam Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 b52s, your post is the perfect example of what I mean by when I speak of having standards. Those women can have their massive laundry list of qualifications, but they need to realize that if no one is biting, then their standards are unrealistic. From there they can either choose to be alone (and not complain about it) or pick from the available pool. So if a perfect 10 lived in a town where all the single men are 1s, 2s, or 3s...and she refuses to date anywhere outside of her area and has no intentions of moving...then she's stuck with either being alone or picking one of those 1s, 2s, or 3s. Too many other women though keep holding out on the hope an 8, 9, or 10 will move into the area (and pick them) or there is one of those such guys, but they are either chasing younger/hotter women and/or refusing to commit to anything other than sex. I've seen people rattle b52s saying if all the women out there are rejecting him, then he's got to change his ways and who he is if he wants to snag one...or accept that they just don't want him. The same goes for those women. If they spend months or years on dating sites (or coming and going on them) and yet feel no one is "ideal" on them, then they either have to back off and accept being alone...or rethink/change their ways and pick from the available pool. Standards are only good if you can attain them. If those women can't get what they're asking for then they either have to choose being alone, go LDR, or rethink their selection criteria. They are the reason why they are chronically single.
Author b52s Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 I never send a stock email. I read their profile and send soemthing personized every time. I've cut my email size in half since I know many will not be replied to. I'm perfectly ok if they don't reply to a first email simply because they are not interested in me. I'm not so happy when they unread/delete my emails. Actually, I compromise and split it up....some is "stock" because the intro paragraph is repetitive anyways. "Hi , my name is....blah blah blah" But then I throw a little in regards to what she had written in her profile, like if she says she likes to hike, I ask what state parks she enjoys when she does go hiking, and I talk about my hiking experiences briefly as well.
Ody Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 You mean like Larry The Cable Guy's twin brother requesting me as a friend on FB - where he has his WIFE'S name very prominently listed ("married to...") and she's on his friend's list, AND he has a pic of him with his young daughter. Then sending me creepy-ass messages. Yuck. What part of that entire scenario does he honestly think would have me swooning? LOL LOL I bet if I set up a profile with actual Larry the Cable guy's picture I'd get a lot of replies. "Hey, aren't you..." I think all the guys dissapointed in online dating reading this site should try that.
justforfun Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 You have every right to reject men for any reason you choose, but why not do it with a little more dignity? It's an option that is available to me and I use it. Simple as sweetheart. And if you don't like the features that a site has then don't use the site. But don't b!t*h at me because I do.
justforfun Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 LMeffinAO. So, if we're aren't finding a life partner that meets our criteria than we just have settle for less than! You HAVE to be kidding?? How about as an independent woman who doesn't NEED a man in my life I can make my own choices of what I would like to have in a man and make no compromise. Some of us are happy being single and don't have to settle for less than they want. I'd be appalled if a man did that to me. Settling for me because he couldn't get what he really wanted. Taking me rather than staying single!! b52s, your post is the perfect example of what I mean by when I speak of having standards. Those women can have their massive laundry list of qualifications, but they need to realize that if no one is biting, then their standards are unrealistic. From there they can either choose to be alone (and not complain about it) or pick from the available pool. So if a perfect 10 lived in a town where all the single men are 1s, 2s, or 3s...and she refuses to date anywhere outside of her area and has no intentions of moving...then she's stuck with either being alone or picking one of those 1s, 2s, or 3s. Too many other women though keep holding out on the hope an 8, 9, or 10 will move into the area (and pick them) or there is one of those such guys, but they are either chasing younger/hotter women and/or refusing to commit to anything other than sex. I've seen people rattle b52s saying if all the women out there are rejecting him, then he's got to change his ways and who he is if he wants to snag one...or accept that they just don't want him. The same goes for those women. If they spend months or years on dating sites (or coming and going on them) and yet feel no one is "ideal" on them, then they either have to back off and accept being alone...or rethink/change their ways and pick from the available pool. Standards are only good if you can attain them. If those women can't get what they're asking for then they either have to choose being alone, go LDR, or rethink their selection criteria. They are the reason why they are chronically single.
justforfun Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 That's probably where you are going wrong. "Hi , my name is....blah blah blah"......DELETE! NEXT! Then you 'throw in a little in regards...to her profile" :lmao::lmao: That's awful nice of ya. Actually, I compromise and split it up....some is "stock" because the intro paragraph is repetitive anyways. "Hi , my name is....blah blah blah" But then I throw a little in regards to what she had written in her profile, like if she says she likes to hike, I ask what state parks she enjoys when she does go hiking, and I talk about my hiking experiences briefly as well.
justforfun Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Actually, I had re-emailed a woman who "Unread/Deleted" my message...turns out it WAS an accident (she told me herself, lol) Damn it, you mean you'd still send another message. How do we get rid of you guys? Relentless little buggers aren't ya?
justforfun Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Actually, I compromise and split it up....some is "stock" because the intro paragraph is repetitive anyways. "Hi , my name is....blah blah blah" But then I throw a little in regards to what she had written in her profile, like if she says she likes to hike, I ask what state parks she enjoys when she does go hiking, and I talk about my hiking experiences briefly as well. Here we have men who are fine tailoring their emails to send to you, only to not have it read? Really. And what exactly do I owe you. Why do you feel so entitled to a response. I'm not obliged to read your message and I'm not obliged to respond. That says a lot about you, and of course you joke about it on a dating message board, yikes....don't let others hear you unread/delete. lol Well good luck if your on here looking for a date.
northstar1 Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 With all this talk about online dating from these dating sites in these past few threads.....over the years I've done online dating. (I've been doing less of it lately). I have noticed, that I am seeing the same faces on these dating sites? The same women on all the sites....everytime I do a search wtihin a 50 mile radius, I keep seeing the same women almos tall the time. LOL Most of whom I already emailed, and most of whom who did not respond. Kinda tells you (and should be telling them) that they've reached the end of their rope and there is a LIMITED amount of options in that 50 mile radius. Ever notice that? Yep, just like they probably keep wondering why your face is on every site it's all abotu maximizing your odds.
justforfun Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Of course, this woman had ignored my emails....I think I emailed her again after a year.....just in case he frustrations knocked some sense into her, perhaps made her consider to budge from her unrealistic expectations....but, nope....didn't happen. Seeing these SAME people on all these dating sites should clue them in on their lack of success with online dating.....esp. with the ladies. They've probably rejected so many guys, that they've RUN OUT of the limited selection....and now will continue to remain single. And again we have frustrated little singles assuming that we care about being single. And expecting us to lower our standards or change our expectations because we haven't hooked a man. Is that what you do then? Lower your expectations until finally you can find someone. I would recommend that you take a break from OD for a while and reassess yourself and try and work out where that warped thinking comes from. JMO.
justforfun Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Well, she can "save face" by posting how she feels anonymously on this message board without consequences. That's the beauty of the net I suppose As opposed to posting it on my mail box outside my house? Or wearing the mark of the scarlet woman? It's obvious how I feel. I'm doing it on my profile. Without putting up my address, dob and bra size, how less anonymous could it be?
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