Yael Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Hi all, I thought I may share my story, and see what others have to say. I was with my ex for 9 months, at the time he had been separated for 18 months and went through a very messy divorce - which I stuck by him for. We never fought, we became amazing friends, and he talked about marrying me and having more children with me. a week later he wanted space to work out why he felt he wasn't putting enough in (which was the only real problem, he just seemed to always work). suffice to say he decided he needed to find himself, and needed to be single and broke up with me two weeks ago (his words, he has done his pennance and doesn't want to do it again). After telling me he wanted to remarry and expand his family for over 9 months he know doesnt even know if he wants that. At the same time he told me I was perfect for him, I had done nothing wrong, he couldn't fault me and insinuated he could see us getting back together - which I said don't you dare say it (we may get back together - i have had this before, I won't do it again). He wanted to remain friends, and actually was super excited about the idea. The next day I got sms's from him all day - and I stopped responding. I went away and realised this was so wrong for me, and I emailed him that I couldn't be his friend while I still had feelings for him. The next day he sent me a message saying he got his divorce and he wanted me to be the first person he told. Since then he has requested my wish and has not contacted me again. so in essence I have just had over a week of NC from him, two weeks from me. I want him back, i can't stop wondering what I can do. Is there anything I can do? But wait? Am I just setting myself up for more heartache? He also has a son who I know is asking to see me, and I feel like I am letting him down too. Any ideas? Yael..
Author Yael Posted December 3, 2009 Author Posted December 3, 2009 Further to this.. I just got an email from one of his friends saying she doesn't see me around anymore (obviously) and she would love to catch up for a drink (btw she is also 10 years older than me). I was only friendly with her through him, and find this all a bit akward. Anyone else have something like this - and what did you do? Part of me wants to see her to find out how he is, but I think that is wrong. Another part wants to see her so I can send a message back to him - also wrong. Another part wants to run into a hole screaming. I feel I am just starting to heal.. what to do??
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