Sam1974 Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Ok, when i was growing up my dream was to marry the perfect man and have a family. well i have been married to my husband for almost 15 yrs. We have/had a good marriage. We moved away from my family and found a home that would in time need work done on it. Well all the things he said he would do to the house has not been done. We now have issues with the home that NEED to be done and nothing has been done. We do not have any children, we are foster parents and want to adopt. HOWEVER, i feel like the home is not up to par for us and getting the children we want. Our house is small and i would like a group of 3 children. The plans that we had for our home would make room for 3 children. I want to sell the house and buy a new one. Well he keeps saying no lets just fix this one. It is going to cost more than the house is worth to "FIX" this one. I feel like my dreams are being held back. I don't feel like our marriage is going any where. I told him that if the "fixing" was not done in a year we were putting a for sale sign in the yard and just take a lose. Well it has been a year and nothing.... he does not want to sell the house...i wont out of the house......what oh what do i do?
azilin Posted December 3, 2009 Posted December 3, 2009 I don't want to sound flip, but it seems quite straightforward. You either have to stick to the original deal, regardless of the consequences to the relationship -- or you have to quit talking about it. He's playing a game of chicken. You probably can't sell the house without him agreeing to it, as I'm sure you own it jointly -- so if this is really the death of your dreams you need to divorce him and take your half or whatever and move on. You also might want to consider whether you should be contemplating fostering children in a home where the relationship is clearly not stable or loving. It's not as bad as conceiving your own, or adopting kids -- but it's still not a good idea.
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