Spark1111 Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 I am thinking back to right after DDay, and am today smiling over the lunacy that invaded my mind and spirit back then. Also, in another thread, it is speculated that another sports celebrity may have had an affair. His wife attacked his car with a golf club, perhaps. A few months ago, an OW shot her married lover, another sports pro, before committing suicide when he tried to break up with her. There was also a sensational murder trial, where the OW killed the pregnant fiance of her lover and tried to stage the scene as a burglary. She was found guilty and sentenced to life in prison. Then, of course, we have all the politicians. I think one of the more interesting things to note is violence seems to be increasing among women in a love triangle, where formerly it was mostly men we read about. Jeez, the worst thing I thought about doing after DDAY, was I now KNEW where he was and who he was with and I wanted to smash his car in her driveway. My oldest daughter talked me out of it. So I awoke at 5 a.m., drove there, took pictures of his car behind hers, and sent it to everyone we knew. But if I had a golf club.....
JaneInVegas Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 But if I had a golf club..... LMAO! Yeah okay, since you used the word fantasy, I'll share. This has nothing to do with my current situation, I was in a different relationship, totally different people involved, and it was about 15 years ago. (sorry for the disclaimer, you'll soon see why) I had been watching a CSI episode and got the wild crazy idea to hunt her down and take her body out in the middle of the desert surrounding Vegas and burying her with a couple of gallons of acid and/or lye. No DNA left! But yeah ... just a fantasy.
quankanne Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 too good to pass up, though it's not really having to do with infidelity, just a domestic violence issue concerning someone close to me: Taking a hammer and smashing the bastard's fingers – all 10 – so that he can never hurt her or her babies again. Then wrapping that hairy basturd up in duct tape really, really good. which has taken me by surprise because IRL, I'm a peacemaker ...
bentnotbroken Posted November 29, 2009 Posted November 29, 2009 Looking back, I am not to proud of some of the thoughts I had:o Some were re-occuring and involved the stench of a maggot filled rotting corpse that used to be Mr. Messy as it baked in the summer southern sun:rolleyes:.
seren Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 OW phoned me repeatedly the day after H told me about the A, very dramatic, told me she felt crucified. After a number of late night phone calls from her and her friends I woke up from a dream where I had nailed her to the door of the club where they used to meet. If it had carried on I am not sure that I wouldn't have followed it up as she was getting very crazy on me.
RedDevil66 Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 You're referring too Tiger Wood's wife who attacked him the other night after she found out he's a cheating pig?! Not sure her actions were of revenge but more out of instant reaction of the emotional abuse of cheating. Reaction is not revenge really. Not sure any scum bag man is worth the effort she put into it, but I'm sure she wasn't thinking. My last two ex's (both very long term relationships) cheated on me. My ex of 11 yrs was cheating on me with a tainted thing who has hiv. She knew he was sleeping with me but yet, they both chose to have sex without a condom and he would come home to me and have sex with me, w/out protection. She was also married. I had to go through many months of hiv testing and yes, if I were positive, the reprecussions would have been severe but since I was not hiv +, I walked away. I had many thoughts of revenge, but every time I did, I felt these two dirt bags were taking space in my head. Instead, I went on to have a great life........he came begging for me back, this was really the sweetest revenge
1Angel Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Come on, anyone else? It's all fantasy not anything you would actually do, just have thought about. Having the printed dirty chats with OWs read aloud 'round the Thanksgiving table in front of entire extended family. Seeing the shock and awe on their faces that WS is the ultimate two face wearing, serial cheating, lying piece of crap.
SueBee3490 Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 I didn't have any really off-the-wall revenge fantasies. I did want to take a bat or some sort of object to his new pickup truck but I didn't. I figured my 3 kids were more important than to do something stupid which could get me arrested. The following is my kind of revenge but I'm sure I couldn't hold it together for long to go through with the wedding. It was a story on a priceless-visa moment where the guy had his fiance followed because he suspected something. The PI got a pic of his soon-to-be bride and best man together. He made up copies and taped under everyone's chair at reception. When they were doing the "toasts" he had everyone look under their chairs. I can't imagine the looks on everyone's faces after seeing the pic. This guy was great. He went ahead and went through with the wedding/reception since her parents were paying. He turned to each and said a few choice words then said "I'm outa here". He had marriage annulled. This is my kind of revenge - humiliation and $$.
realworldexplorer Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 I had some very nasty ones against WS and OM, but especially against OM. He was a real low life scumbag that tried to befriend me while having an affair with my wife. I actually liked the man and thought he was a good person. I had some against my wife (destroying her good image among family and colleagues) but could not do it as it would hurt innocent people and accomplish nothing. I opted for forgiveness to rid myself of these very intense and violent thoughts. I have tried to forget OM as he is totally removed from our lives and lives in another country. OM was a voyeur and trying to penetrate my life while trying to destroy my M from behind my back, he (OM) met my extended family while posing as a friend of my wife and I. Truly a pathetic, desperate lowlife was he (he also had a family that he was willing to sacrifice). The fantasies that I had against him were very violent and involved torture and bludgeoning and opening the neck from ear to ear (a wee bit grim). They made me sick and I could not believe that I had these thoughts. This is apparently a very normal reaction to such a horrific betrayal. I have done the smart and difficult thing, which is to do nothing and stay on the high road as really, no one is worth selling your soul for. Also the fantasies were not good and just made me feel ill as I could never go down that road, luckily for OM. Best revenge for him is to let him live as a loser in his soulless body with his broken family with plenty of time to think about his terrible, messy life as he ages and dies an empty man and then descends to his final reward. When I read about some of these people who fulfill these violent urges, I now "get" where they are coming from. I could never pursue a married or committed person on principle alone, nevermind the fact that it could be a life "risking" proposition as well. Cheating: truly bizarre and life altering. I was so pissed for getting dragged through such an awful mess that caused me the worst (and longest) suffering of my life. However, I can take the lessons and knowledge and the new temperment to steel me for the next unfair situation that life throws at me.
minutebyminute Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Hiring one of those advertisment planes and saying, "Not only does(his full name)suck in bed, he has herpes and rarely uses protection, and he's a liar!! Putting a full page ad in the paper with his picture on it. .. dating a looser, signs to watch for and proceed with all his bad boy "moves." Giving out his phone number and address. Making a flyer and putting it at all his spots with all the above info. Basically seeing him humiliated, hurt, broken and tortured in front of all his so called friends, in other words making him feel like he made me feel.
minutebyminute Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 To realworldexplorer; I think the same man/preditor entered my life too. Very similar story. How very sad, would be great if you started a thread.
Author Spark1111 Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 Wow! Compared to others, I really am a peaceful person! But I get it! I so get it! If I was living in las Vegas, jane, yes....I remember that seen in the desert! I also, briefly entertained a revenge affair, a ONS, because I never felt uglier in my life. For women, this is easy, I am sorry to say. But I couldn't/wouldn't allow myself to sink to that level. Just not who I am. Jeez, I have standards, fercryin'outloud! I also realized quite soon, (one of the lucky ones, maybe?) that living well is the best revenge. I did not want to lose my soul over this, though I think it disappeared for a few months. I read a statistic recently. The number one cause of homicide deaths is...jealousy, either over a man, a woman, money, or status. I cannot believe how powerful that one emotion, especially when combined with betrayal, can consume a person....for years!
Author Spark1111 Posted November 30, 2009 Author Posted November 30, 2009 I also love the internet post showing the picture of a big city marquee where the betrayed fiance purchased the advertising rights to smear him. It read in neon lights, so and so is a cheater. The wedding is off. I paid for this from our joint bank account. you know, something where thousands of people, including him, could see it on the way to work. Ingenious!
FreezorBurn Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 A friend told me that "Living Well" is the best revenge against someone who has done you wrong. Have them see you have "moved on" and you are happy and unphased by what they have done to you. This is much easyer said then done.
misternoname Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Mine involves a 9mm and a full clip of hollow points...just a fantasy of course!
mark982 Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 my fantasy involved om's death,probable typical. but in my case it happened. and no i didn't have any part of it.
NowhereToHide Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 For my xAP, the only way to crucify him would have been to tell his wife about his indiscretions. He would have lost his children and the happy "perception" of a perfect life and it would have forever left him a crushed, shell of a man. ... lucky for him he's no longer worth my time or energy.
Boundary Problem Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 Slashing all four of his truck tires with a huge knife. I'm so ashamed. I had no idea I could even conceive of such violence. If I had had a knife on me - I would have done it. That was how angry I was. Felt totally betrayed. In my defence I was only 20 at the time. Now - pfft.
Dexter Morgan Posted November 30, 2009 Posted November 30, 2009 I don't know if it would be one of my fantasies, but I high fived my friend for actually doing the following. his gf boned another guy, they broke up. She came back saying how sorry she was, crying, yadda yadda yadda. So he lets her in. They have sex. When it was over, they walked into the living room he walked her over to the door and said, "see ya". She said, "so you used me for sex??" he said, "so? you had sex with another guy when you were my gf" She said, "people make mistakes and deserve forgiveness." he said, "I forgive you........now get out."
HUFI Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 (edited) In my old home town, there is a story of a "revenge" that makes everyones blood shiver … The rationale goes that it was domestic abuse revenge after one too many drunken beatings but for all we know, it might very well have been a act of revenge for an affair. Who knows? Anyhow, the story says that as the abusive husband fell asleep drunk like a skunk, face down on the bed, his wife entered into the room and then got out the four handcuffs which were stashed in the closet. One by one, she cuffed him to the bed posts. Then before he realized what was happening, she shoved a big old woolen work sock in his mouth. As he stared up at her in wonder, she then plugged in her curling iron. You know the one with the hard plastic bristles? Turned it on max. Then she shoved it up his rectum and left. The rumor goes that she was acquitted but it’s not the details that count, it’s the image that hurts. that image has terrified the living crap out of everyone in my home town for years. Believe me, you can't imagine how glad I am that my wife is not a violent person. I slept with my eyes open for the next month after D-day and to this day, if she ever offered a night of kinky sex with handcuffs being mentioned, the answer is NO. NO. NO. Edited December 1, 2009 by HUFI (spelling)
turnstone Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 I haven't had any revenge fantasies, well, no exciting ones; they mainly entail him suffering because I'm no longer in his life. So I'm living as well as I can with as much dignity as I can muster, which let me tell you ain't easy especially considering I contracted an STD thanks to that darling couple. Oh joy.
Author Spark1111 Posted December 1, 2009 Author Posted December 1, 2009 In my old home town, there is a story of a "revenge" that makes everyones blood shiver … The rationale goes that it was domestic abuse revenge after one too many drunken beatings but for all we know, it might very well have been a act of revenge for an affair. Who knows? Anyhow, the story says that as the abusive husband fell asleep drunk like a skunk, face down on the bed, his wife entered into the room and then got out the four handcuffs which were stashed in the closet. One by one, she cuffed him to the bed posts. Then before he realized what was happening, she shoved a big old woolen work sock in his mouth. As he stared up at her in wonder, she then plugged in her curling iron. You know the one with the hard plastic bristles? Turned it on max. Then she shoved it up his rectum and left. The rumor goes that she was acquitted but it’s not the details that count, it’s the image that hurts. that image has terrified the living crap out of everyone in my home town for years. Believe me, you can't imagine how glad I am that my wife is not a violent person. I slept with my eyes open for the next month after D-day and to this day, if she ever offered a night of kinky sex with handcuffs being mentioned, the answer is NO. NO. NO. Hahaha! My husband feels the same way! Slept with one eye open for a long time! Restraints still not allowed in the bedroom.
foreal Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 I haven't had any revenge fantasies, well, no exciting ones; they mainly entail him suffering because I'm no longer in his life. So I'm living as well as I can with as much dignity as I can muster, which let me tell you ain't easy especially considering I contracted an STD thanks to that darling couple. Oh joy. OH NO!! what did you get? (sorry for T/J!!)
foreal Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 anyone remember there was a person on here (she hasnt posted in awhile, I miss her!) who posted she pooped and then while her CH was sleeping she put on her yellow gloves and shoved her poop into his mouth while telling him to 'eat shyt'. I've thought about that many times while laying there awake next to my H as he slept.
PhoenixRise Posted December 1, 2009 Posted December 1, 2009 anyone remember there was a person on here (she hasnt posted in awhile, I miss her!) who posted she pooped and then while her CH was sleeping she put on her yellow gloves and shoved her poop into his mouth while telling him to 'eat shyt'. I've thought about that many times while laying there awake next to my H as he slept. That poster was 2Sure. I miss her too. She always had something insightful to add to the conversation.
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